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About a year a go me and my wife decided i stay home and raise our son when she got a promotion. Im a painter and with me working full time she makes double i do. I Cook(no microwave stuff, im ont food network evry night pulling up new recipes :), i clean, do laundry, take care of our 19montn old son, take care of the bills, everything. When my wife comes home there so nothing for her to do but relax and enjoy the rest of her day and enjoy my hour long foot rubs every night. And i still do side jobs on the side to do my part of paying the bills. But i feel like im not doing my role right, i feel like people look down or bad at me for being a stay at home dad, and not my wife like the norm is. are we all looked as if were mess ups, or lazy *** or drunks, by the way i dont drink or do drugs. so knowing all that, do you feel im playing my part. and is my style role excepted.

2007-09-11 18:40:12 · 11 answers · asked by aaronsdada 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

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I think you are a credit to your family. Most men would run from that responsibility and not be able to cope. Its wonderful your son has at least one parent home with him rather than be put into day care. I certainly would not be concerned about what anyone else thinks, this arrangement is obviously working for your family, more power to you......

2007-09-11 19:00:46 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 4 · 3 0

If your wife makes more than you, then its smarter to be a stay at home dad, it can help cut the costs...what ur doing is considered as work also....a lot of women prefer this arrangement if the guy makes less....ur kids are lucky to have a parent staying at home...if your wife is ok with it then why bother what others think...if you feel that u want to provide then why not consider a part time job...u could work on weekends, paint on weekends...put up ur work in a gallery or do a part time business...gd luck

2007-09-11 19:08:07 · answer #2 · answered by Sony 4 · 3 0

I dont look down on you. Taking care of the household and watching a baby is a tough job!! Its just that you get to experience the shoe on the other foot! I think it wonderful that your wife doesnt have to do anything when she gets home! Keep up the good work. As long as your family is happy, I wouldn't worry about it!!:)

2007-09-11 19:00:15 · answer #3 · answered by ♥♥Mommy to 2 Divas♥♥ 7 · 3 0

I can only speak for myself and I can't say that I don't take stay at home dad's seriously, but I have mixed feelings about it. While I think the opportunity gives the dad a chance to bond with his children, I am old school and feel the man should be the head of household. In today's world, both people usually work regardless of who makes more. I just don't see why the man would even WANT to stay at home? Only you and your wife can determine what's best for your family so that's all that matters.

2007-09-11 18:49:28 · answer #4 · answered by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4 · 0 2

I THINK IT IS TOO NEW OF A CONCEPT RIGHT NOW TO EMBRACE.
SOME PEOPLE VIEW IT AS THE MAN TAKING THE EASY WAY OUT.

IDEALLY, SOCIETY DEPICTED THE MAN AN THE BREAD WINNER AND TAKES CARE OF HIS FAMILY. AT LEAST FROM A BIBLICAL STAND POINT THIS CONCEPT WAS BORN.

BUT, I BELIEVE THAT MARRIAGE IS A PARTNERSHIP AND IF YOU TWO WORK TOGETHER AS A TEAM TO TAKE CARE OF THE FAMILY, THEN FUGK WHAT OTHERS THINK.

YOU ARE PLAYING YOUR PART. IT WOULD BE DIFFERENT IF YOU SAT AROUND AND WAS NOT AN ACTIVE PART OF THE TEAM. MEANING SHE IS WORKING AND TAKING CARE OF THE KIDS AND YOU JUST SITTING AROUND DOING ABSOLUTELY NOTHING. BUT THIS IS NOT THE CASE. BEING A STAY AT HOME PARENT IS JUST AS TIRING AND REWARDING AS CLOCKING IN A 9 TO 5.

2007-09-11 19:00:12 · answer #5 · answered by karMA_DAME 4 · 1 1

Sure you're doing your part.I think it's great! Who wrote that it's only the mom's job to stay home anyway? A dad is just as much a parent as a mom is.Don't worry about what other people think.

2007-09-12 00:41:25 · answer #6 · answered by lillulu460 4 · 1 0

Honestly? Society is gonna look down on you cause the social norm is the Man should provide for his family. But who cares what they think? your willing to reverse roles so your family gets the best, thats whats important

2007-09-11 18:51:25 · answer #7 · answered by Charliemoo 5 · 1 1

It may not be the norm, but hey, you go Dad! You rub her feet? Awesome! Just think, your training your son to cherish his future wife.

Believe me, hubby would not have a problem if he was a stay at home Dad. :-)

2007-09-11 19:55:33 · answer #8 · answered by ellen 4 · 1 0

this is positive which you have desperate which you will deliver homestead the Viscount St. Albans whilst he's clearly doing the home household projects and in charge for the infant. i think of it particularly is not any longer a shame for a well-known guy to have his place in the kitchen. With women catching up in the payrolls and being extra valuable and assertive, we´ll see extra such place reversal marriages in destiny. Your husband might love the youngster yet he probably feels extremely emasculated whilst seeing it´s you who's premier the kin. And his mom´s impression isn't very efficient in this occasion. He might desire to diminish the cord slightly. and of direction it might desire to help if he have been given some variety of occupation that may assure him to do something functional previous house household projects and childcare. it could additionally advance later by way of fact adult adult males are extra effective off with a newborn while this is commencing up to play and to verify (which it does from the very commencing up of direction!), at an age of three or 4. As your husband i may well be happy with you. I incredibly have constantly been fascinated in the variety of place reversal even though it grow to be me who have been given sugnificantly extra from artwork while our son grow to be youthful. this is yet an thrilling question for me by way of fact now we might go with to alter roles as quickly as I´ll retire from artwork in the close to destiny whilst my spouse will nonetheless might desire to artwork for a while. As a working woman she desires a male housewife at homestead, and that i think of we the two would be happy with it. i'm hoping I´ll in no way experience sorry approximately while she is taking the guy´s place. you may desire to settle on what's best on your mutual dating (and for the youngster), previous your dad and mom´ or the society´s expectancies.

2016-12-13 06:51:57 · answer #9 · answered by ? 4 · 0 0

keep up the good work many women wish they had a man like you. i know i do.

2007-09-11 18:56:34 · answer #10 · answered by tabatha 3 · 4 0

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