2007-09-11 17:56:33 · 21 answers · asked by cmarti 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Love gets buried so deep after years being together and what made the love get buried in the first place was all the fighting and auguring . But deep down you know you still love each other. If your husband cheats on you you hate him,if he tells you he doesn't love you anymore you hate him.It really feels like hate.That's where the love and hate comes in to play.I notice a couple of young girls answered this question it's obvious they have never been in love so they don't know how to answer this question.You need to have some experience in marriage and life it self and they surely don't.
2007-09-11 18:13:39 · answer #1 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Actually it is impossible to do both at the same time.
What you can experience at the same time, and what IS experienced by probably the vast majority of people at some point during their lives...including me; is that your body's instinctual "human animal" drive to procreate, and therefore do it's part in ensuring the survival of the human race, will literally TRICK you into THINKING you love someone when in fact you don't. So the animal part of you has you thinking you love this other person and the rational part of you hates something about the other person. If you really love someone you would want them to have and/or do what they want to have and/or do. You would want them to be happy. If you really wanted that for them then you couldn't hate them. On the other hand, if instead of loving them and wanting them to have what they want, you instead were selfish and wanted to have what you wanted to have. "I love them SO MUCH I can't stand for them to not want to be with me". If what you feel is that kind of selfish "love" then it's easy to feel hate at the same time if you're not getting what you want from them.
True love GIVES and says YES and Wants FOR the other person. True love is giving and in no way selfish. You can't feel that for someone and hate them at the same time.
You can be selfish - call it love, not get what you want and hate the other person at the same time.
2007-09-11 18:05:33 · answer #2 · answered by ScubaGuy 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Love and hate is two sides of the same coin. And its most easily to do both. We can love someone all day. Their personality, their humor. But we can hate the decisions they make, hate how they use us or how they treat us. I mean love and hate can happen so easily its not even funny. But always becareful how you mean either one. Cause either one could be a strong dislike or a strong like and not real hate or love.
2007-09-11 18:33:41 · answer #3 · answered by Cursed_Romantic 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i know what your talking about because i feel that way with my husband right now, its hard to explain it, but i guess when you love someone and they did something wrong or hurt you, thats when the hate feeling comes in, but at the same time you still love them, i feel that you cant just snap your fingers and stop loving that person it takes time to for the love to stop. you know what i mean, unless the hate feeling goes away first. I guess in time one of the feeling will soon fade and not be as strong.
2007-09-11 18:11:31 · answer #4 · answered by meow 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Believe me it is a hard question to answer but I know the feeling! I don't know how to explain it but it happens! I think if you REALLY love a person, than the hate (of the moment) will go away!
2007-09-11 18:02:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just because you may love someone doesn't mean yo have to like them. And if they hurt you bad enough, you may begin to resent them. You CAN love someone without being IN LOVE with them and that lack of true deep love may alter your mindset on how you truly feel.
I love my ex husband, don't like him much, and sometimes even whish I never met him, but, we have a daughter together so I deal with him. But I do still deep inside still love him very much.
I'm remarried now though and THAT is the man I'm IN LOVE with and even when we argue I still see him as the man of my dreams and the love of my life. I never had that with my ex.
So what you REALLY need to do is step back and ask yourself, "Am I in love, or do I just love." It sounds lame I know, but its a real question and 2 very real but different feeling (not just a really lame excuse to brake up with someone either)
2007-09-11 18:51:16 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
it's possible. i hate my boyfriend so much coz i think he still has feelings for his x, but i love him too. coz i knw he had to break up with his x due to circumstances and there are very few chances to b get back together coz that girl now lives overseas and my boyfriend doesn't wanna go there. and i love him so much coz he's so special to me coz he's my 1st boyfriend. hope he will understand my feelings as time goes on and become completely mine one day. i don't knw whether that day will ever come or not. but i m still hoping for da best. but actually i don't knw how long i can stand my current situation. i can't bear the fact that my boyfriend has someone else in his heart. but i also can't think about leaving him.
2007-09-11 18:24:29 · answer #7 · answered by d 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i have the perfect answer becuase right now i love/hate my husband. we are fighting an awful lot, and right now i hate him so much, but in the back of my heart i love him, wouldnt want nothing to happen to him, but i just cant stand him right now.. i guess its not Hate.. more like Dislike a whooole lot at the time.
2007-09-11 18:02:51 · answer #8 · answered by lilmomma86 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you truly love the person, then there shouldn't be any hate towards the person. If you hate the person, then there wasn't love in the first place. You either love or hate.
2007-09-11 18:04:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
You can love the person and hate what they do.
2007-09-11 18:00:14 · answer #10 · answered by fuzzykitty 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋