I currently own the house that I live in, it is heir property, given to me by my aunt in 1977. I was divorced and remarried in
2000. My husband is 14 years younger than I am. He has given an ultimatum to make a will leaving my home to him if I were to pass away instead of leaving it to my children. His parents have pushied him to making this decision. He has threatened to leave me if I don't make this will. I feel that because he did not buy this home that I should not give it to him. I believe that leaving the home to my children is a better decision. What are you opinions?
2007-09-11 18:56:33 · 16 answers · asked by jenn 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This may sound harsh but, this man is obviously more intersted in your real estate than in your marriage, that is the bottom line here. This is something that you had before you 2 met so morallly (perhaps not legally) you should be able to give this home to whom ever in your will. I woud like to keep it in my family by passing it down to my children. This man is a worry with his ultimatums...... hmmm
2007-09-11 19:05:55 · answer #1 · answered by Leah 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I just read your question and all the answers you have already gotten! I do agree with some that you shouldn't be with a man who is more interested in your real estate than you or the well being of your children! It also makes me wonder why his parents are pushing him to do it? Maybe they want him to give them the house? At any rate, The user who said it is marital property is wrong! Under the law anything that you acquired prior to the marriage thru inheritance or by purchasing yourself is not marital property and he cannot take it from you! Marital property is defined as property purchased or acquired together or during the marriage, not before! You have every right to leave it to your children, but you will need the help of a lawyer! I would get a living will drawn up by a lawyer as soon as possible! I would also consult a divorce lawyer and look into why he is suddenly giving you this kind of ultimatum? It would make me wonder if he purchased life insurance on me and is planning to bump me off to be with a new woman? I would surely do some investigating if I were you. To those who said why ask advice just leave him have apparently never been married, cause they don't undertand that is not that easy to just leave him from a legal standpoint. Please feel free to email me or instant mesage me if you would like to talk further! I was a Criminal Justice student, and have been divorced once and getting divorced again! My first husband was much younger than me! Good luck, I wish you and your children well!
Kim
2007-09-12 08:17:09 · answer #2 · answered by krogusta40 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
"I currently own the house that I live in, it is heir property, given to me by my aunt in 1977"
"I feel that because he did not buy this home that I should not give it to him"
You didn't buy your house either....you inheirited it so don't use this as a reason. If you want your kids to get it leave it to them and speak to a lawyer to cover all of your bases. If your HUSBAND made this decision because of his parents then maybe you could leave it to him seeing as how he's acting like a child. Come on this is silly why would you even ask our opinions......your HUSBAND is clearly not ready for marriage and you need to accept that and move on. He might leave you over a HOUSE! In the world of marital problems this should not even be an issue. Good Luck
2007-09-12 02:15:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Your husband is being one of two things - selfish and self centered or the immature child that he is (you did marry a man who is 14 years younger than you, so his thinking is not as mature as yours is, and he is a momma's boy, or else he would not have sought out a mother figure instead of a wife). That being said, are your children the fruit of his loins, or the fruit of another man's loins. Because if they are not his children, then this is a huge red flag that if and when you die and he is left alive, your children will not be cared for. If they are the fruit of his loins, there is a chance he will care for the children, but that is not guaranteed. Knowing this, you have no choice, but to leave the house to your children. You should be doing what your husband's parents are doing right now, and that is looking out for your children, and disregarding what society, morals and conscience dictates. If he is going to leave you over this, fine. Your children come first.
2007-09-12 02:08:58 · answer #4 · answered by Haveitlookedat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Seek the advice of a lawyer. Depending on the state you live in, as marital property he may have a right to it. However you can leave anything you want to anyone you want in your will. Don't put up with this bully. Tell him its counseling for him, or he can pack his bags.
2007-09-12 02:01:29 · answer #5 · answered by tjnstlouismo 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
CHILDREN of course!!! Whatta fruitcake he is! But if you divorce won't he get half the house (value)-- yikes. Better put your house's name under a trusted aunt or something! That's what my friend did before she filed the papers..IT WORKED!
2007-09-12 03:03:32 · answer #6 · answered by contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
please, don't leave it to him...i have seen many cases my mom has fought, where the mom or dad decides to leave some precious heirloom, house or even all the possessions to their lover, and it is so sad. that means if he ever got it, what would that mean for your kids? what if he sells it? maybe one of your kids will want it...all in all it's your house, you should do what you want with it what you want and if he threatens you to leave you for not giving it to him, then to hell with him, that's not fair, and not understanding of a husband.
2007-09-12 02:14:31 · answer #7 · answered by Kate L 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
this sounds reediculous if u ask me. if he really loved you, he wouldn't make such a big deal about this. he should allow you to do whatever you want with it, it is YOUR home keep in mind. i would give him this ultimatum....either u do whatever the hell u want with it since its yours in the first place, or he can get the hell out of it. good luck.
2007-09-12 02:05:48 · answer #8 · answered by Scotty 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You've gotta be kidding me. If he wants to leave let him. He's full of it. You can leave your house (if it's in YOUR name) to anyone you want. He can't pressure you to do that. Don't you move an inch. He may be showing his true colors.
2007-09-12 02:03:11 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him to push on that is your childrens property. dont let anyone treat you like that ever.I know you love him but that is a impossible situation.The fact remains however that is your childrens property....
2007-09-12 02:02:46 · answer #10 · answered by shain k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋