Say, my spouse asked me to commit suicide while I was very ill. Or I try to love and care for my spouse but my spouse does not seem to treasure it. Or my spouse gives terrifying responses even when I says something which is plain and not meant to be hurtful. Or ...
2007-09-11 16:20:56 · 14 answers · asked by curious 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Thats terrible! You should get a divorce! Theres no reason anyone should put up with a man like that!
2007-09-11 16:26:29 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
You definitely will get custody of your child . But you need to get you & your son out of there now !!!!!! Leave with just the clothes on your back if necessary . Have you got pictures of all of the bruises and marks that he has put on you ? If not , I suggest that you try and get some . Regardless though , pictures or no pictures , get out of there now !!!!!!!! Contact your local police and tell them of what he is doing to you . Tell them that you are afraid that he is going to kill you . Have him aressted ! Afterward go to the womens abuse shelter . The police will help you get set up with them . File for a protection order , then file for a divorce and custody . Make arrangments to go back home with your family or friends . I can not possibly stress this enough ..... get out NOW !! This man is crazy , and he is very likely to kill you . From your letter I can tell that you are in fear of your life . Has any one witnessed him hitting you ? Other than your son ? If so while in the shelter make a list of all of the people that has witnessed him hitting you . Give this list to your attorney , police or judge . If necessary they can & will summons them to court . All of this will have an effect on your son , he is at a very impressionable age . If you continue to stay with your husband , your son will grow up thinking this is how men are supposed to treat women , and become an abuser himself when he gets older . Not to mention all of the emotional damage it will do to his young mind . Is your husband by chance in the military ? The reason I ask is because you say you are living abroad . If he is the military , contact his commanding officer , the MPs , then go talk to JAG . This nut can tell you he want a good life with you all he wants , and I would be the first in line to call him a bold face liar !! What he wants is a punching bag . PLEASE ........ GET OUT NOW !!!!! Before he actually does kill you . Best of luck .
2016-03-18 04:25:31 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldn't bear mental or physical hurt period. Get out. You don't need to put up with hurt. That isn't love. If you are being abused then you should go to a counselor and leave him immediately.
2007-09-11 16:26:06 · answer #3 · answered by mosaic 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's better to break of the marriage than her head. Unfortunately if this goes on with, it could lead to physical abuse against you, or her. If you think there is nothing left to lose you may do anything in retaliation. I've seen it happen. There's no respect, in your situation. The relationship is already dead. Short answer:- YES
2007-09-11 16:28:37 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yes if hes being horrible and you can't live at a comfortable level without being hurt and made to do things you don't belive in that is abuse hitting slapping pushing around bad words yelled at you all sorts of stuff is bad and dont' have to be taken putting down in front of peopel.
2007-09-11 16:24:50 · answer #5 · answered by Tsunami 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yes, it's more than OKAY to get the hell out! He is abusing you and quite frankly some of the things you said kind of scare me. For your own safety and emotional well being, leave.
2007-09-11 16:28:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Most divorce laws are "no fault" so depending on what country or state you're in (and which century), its pretty easy to answer.
2007-09-11 16:24:51 · answer #7 · answered by krollohare2 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
its very difficult to answer in isolation, but yes, move away from that marriage if the other person knowingly cause pain and hurt. if one spouse is mentally or physically incapable , of course you understand the challenge but able bodied and mind, yes move away. take it easy friend.
2007-09-11 16:31:38 · answer #8 · answered by adjd j 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Just a suggestion: You might need to talk to a professional. This is serious!!!! Get out before you get hurt!!!!
2007-09-11 16:25:53 · answer #9 · answered by StephS 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Only you can decide that. Just by you asking, it seems you've taken all you can. Don't feel you"ve failed, don't put up with abuse.
God bless.
2007-09-11 16:30:14 · answer #10 · answered by luvspace 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋