The floor plan sucks, there is a manhole in middle of back yard, looking across the street- neighbors are slobs. Good points- near vo-tech school- and is my mans pet project. Big con is I was left out of the decision making, and didn't see the house til it was bought. I absolutely love my house now, its so right for me. even if its rented and not owned. I need advice cause I am stressing this situation.
2007-09-11 18:40:41 · 21 answers · asked by silversaralee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
This is huge! His behavior reveals his true feelings for you. Your only good enough to pay some of the bills, but he doesn't view you as a life=long partner. He didn't seek your opinion because that house is HIS house. Sure, you can pay some of HIS bills in HIS house, but that's about it. That's the problem with women who choose to get themselves in this type of position. This is NOT a man who wants to marry you.
2007-09-12 04:53:56 · answer #1 · answered by Sondra 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The first answer could beright about not marrying someone that makes decisions that big without you but you also have to look at the fact that you are not married yet. Do you think he would have done that if you were his wife? Even if you aren't thinking marriage right now, ask yourself that question. Also, since you are not married why move in there? Lots of unmarried couples have their own homes. Stay in your nice home and let him move into his new one. Stay over at your house more, LOL. If and when marriage is discussed make sure he knows that you will be looking for a house to move into together that you both choose, together. Take care.
2007-09-11 18:51:33 · answer #2 · answered by Jules 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Ok.....he's your live-in boyfriend not your husband. If he bought the house then you are not obligated to pay for it or even move in. Talk to him and explain all of this to him. If you truely HATE the house then don't move, but if you can see potential maybe you should consider it. Why did he buy the house? Maybe he wanted to own the home he lived in. Maybe he has plans for your future there. Is this house bigger, does it have more potential to expand in the future. Did he buy it with plans to work on it and still live in your house? Maybe he wants to fix it up befor eyou move in seeing as how it's his "pet" project. I agree he should not have bougt it without talking to you first......try to give him the benifit of the doubt and ask why.......If all else fails you still have your house so you'll be just fine. Good Luck
2007-09-11 18:58:30 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
don't b 2 hard on the guy he b n a man he got the house as a project give it a chance he may been thinkn about your future 2gether he could fix it up then flip it. men won't always consult with us until after they do it. we will call instantly to get there opinion but when they are thinkn about future possibilities you can 4get it just b positive have his back talk of flippn it for more money get involoved any way you can let him know next time please talk to you 1st especially if its the 2 of yous money stop stressing it will work out better than you expect look at big picture if its his 1st home he was thinkn of the 2 of you b grateful hun give it a try take care
2007-09-11 19:03:04 · answer #4 · answered by k2u 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hi, i think of you first could secretly see your close by Social amenities. From what you have written, I reckon your mom isn't right looking after your newborn brother. See what they propose. ideally, i could attempt to stay with one in each of your fathers, assuming they are good human beings. This boyfriend is mentally, and in step with danger bodily, risky. he's a freeloader, a bully and maximum possibly have been given a opposed character sickness. he would be controlling, misleading, impulsive, manipulative and unsafe. Already your mum's boyfriend has pushed a wedge between you and her. he's likewise putting your brother's psychological and actual progression in threat. whilst he disappears I guess he's at suitable binging on drink or drugs, or at worst in contact in greater crime. His form are in many situations pimps and different such scum. Why did your mum decide on him? in all danger he pretended to be a fascinating and advantageous guy. Or whether she improve into enthusiastic about way of his aggressive way. Why won't your mum sell off him? possibly he's great in mattress! possibly she is 'co-based' on him. possibly she's a histrionic or masochist via very low vanity. or perhaps she is frightened of him, and/or afraid to confess she made a mistake. Her ego won't be able to take care of the embarrassment and humiliation. In time, I back guess, he will cheat on her. Will rob her. Even beat her. in all danger rape her. additionally in all danger attack you. i'm being blunt on your guy or woman sakes. consequently start up with individuals that are experienced in this: Social amenities. Take care....
2016-10-04 10:24:49 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you want to have an opinion about the house you'll be living in, stay in the house you're already in or find a man who will commit fully to you, marry you, and then you can choose a house as partners would.
2007-09-11 19:39:36 · answer #6 · answered by missingora 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Here are your choices:
A. Move into the purchased house with your boyfriend and stop complaining.
B. Let him move out and you stay in your perfect house
C. Tell him since you live together you would have appreciated him talking with you regarding his decision and that you really don't feel its fair that he decides where you live without your consent. Maybe he should just flip it or resell it.
Either way this is a good indicator of the years to come - I guarantee this won't be the last bomb he drops on you, so be prepared if you plan on marrying this person.
Good luck
2007-09-11 18:52:14 · answer #7 · answered by totalstressor 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
stay in your own house. he didnt include you in the decision making because its about him not you and him. why are you stressing you dont have to pay a bill there. take joy in the fact that your man has made a step forward in life. he is now owning instead of renting. this is his how that has the floor plans that sucks. he didnt make this move to appease you. it was done to PLEASE HIM and it has so grow up and get over it. GodBless
2007-09-11 18:53:02 · answer #8 · answered by Crystal G 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're under no obligation to be involved with that house whatsoever. Just like if you bought a chair at a yard sale and wanted to refinish it, that would be your project. If he wants to flip this house, let him. But you don't need to move there.
2007-09-11 18:48:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ugh. Get out. Get out of the great place you're living now if he's still in it. But, mostly, get out of the relationship. If he's making such a huge decision without you he's a) inconsiderate as heck, b) already planning on getting out of the relationship, c) really controlling and/or disrespectful. Yuck. That guy is not a keeper. At all.
2007-09-11 18:51:46 · answer #10 · answered by July 4 · 2⤊ 1⤋