Have you or your partner been unfaithful (once, not an affair)and you either stayed together or got back together?
If so, how did it work out? Could you trust each other again?
Was the third party someone you both knew?
We are in a long-term relationship but not married.
2007-09-11 23:26:01 · 9 answers · asked by Sammy 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It didn't happen to me, but to a few people I know.
And yes, they stayed together.
In fact for a couple I know, it actually helped them.
The woman didn't have a clue about problems in her couple, the way she saw it things were going well and her husband would never ever do such a thing.
Well, it did happen, and I think that what made them stay together was the fact that they already had a son, and had invested so much in that marriage, emotionally and financially. They had gone through a lot of difficulties, so they probably thought that, that woman wasn't worth throwing it all away.
It did take some time to for the trust to come back, and it is also a reminder for the woman, that she should never take things for granted.
So, I know it can work.
It depends on how much you love each other, what you've been through together, wether it's a case of a partner who just can't remain faithfull or not, or what the circumstances were, and of course, whether or not it's something you can cope with.
It's only down to the person cheated on, can they cope with it; And there is no right or wrong answer, just how you feel.
2007-09-11 23:43:29 · answer #1 · answered by Kc 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It's very hard to find the trust again, but not impossible. It depends on why the infidelity happened and wether it was a momentary lapse or an indication of something more severe. Usually if both people want to make the relationship work then it's possible to do it, though occasionally you would need professional help like a couples' therapist.
2007-09-11 23:33:04 · answer #2 · answered by Shimrit 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I read an article on this subject and 35% of couples are able to stay together. Would I? I doubt it any relationship married or not is built on love and trust. Once the trust is gone it's like a cancer on your relationship that most just won't forgive. Sex is more then a tool it's a bond between two people who are suppose to love each other when one of them cheats the bond is lost.
2016-04-04 16:40:26 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If that person slept with someone then it was an affair,by not calling it an affair doesn't make it any less painful. Just because the person said it only happened one time is very doubtful everyone says the samething ( It only happened once i sware) anyway my husband had an affair i let him stay the trust is coming back after 10 years.It was with a whore co-worker of his and yes i know the s l u t her name is Hope.
2007-09-12 00:09:55 · answer #4 · answered by Teenie 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Yes. It is an absolute nightmare, there is no trust and we have three kids one is the product of his affair which I am know raising mother turned out to be a real basket case, hubby says he learn his lesson but my hearts always telling me he is out there cheating, but these kids need us together specially the little girl who got molested by her step father what else can I do? I love my husband only as the father of my children and I love him as a human being and like a friend but the spark the love that I once felt for him is gone, is truly sad and depressing, but kids come first specially if in their eyes their daddy is a super hero, so I wait to see what is going to happens later to see if one day I can pick up the pieces of my life and move on..
2007-09-12 00:03:27 · answer #5 · answered by boricua_2290 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I recommend going to www.marriagebuilders.com. The site has some good tips for recovering from the devastation of an affair. It's meant for married people, but the methods are the same.
2007-09-12 00:23:06 · answer #6 · answered by Shane 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I have not heard of many who stayed together--it is a definite deal breaker---trust is destroyed. I am not saying its impossible, but the betrayed partner/spouse will have to develop a whole new outlook and life----it cant revolve "all around him".
2007-09-11 23:31:30 · answer #7 · answered by skyward 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
It didn't work out. I couldn't find it in my heart to trust again and it shattered my own self esteem.
It was someone we both knew, and then it was someone we both didn't know.
2007-09-11 23:35:41 · answer #8 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I do not tolerate cheating under any circumstances and will not stay with a cheater. Ask my ex, he'll tell you.
2007-09-12 01:02:09 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋