My other half thinks I don't give enough affection. What sort of affection do I need to give besides kissing, hugging, and making love?
2007-09-11 18:49:24 · 14 answers · asked by jake6969jake6969 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I know I come from experience and from "paying attention" when I say this, and although some may disagree I'm confident it needs to be said.
In my experience the "affection" she's talking about is the kind most guys have a hard time giving or relating to because in our culture this is usually more the way women are supposed to relate to their partners, siblings and even each other as girlfriends. For most guys there's a "feminine" element to being "sweet" or "nurturing" or "communicative" or "concerned" with "her issues" and "daily problems" etc...
My advise and how I solved it is to get in touch with the "father" in you... Some (the few) may not like it, but I believe that most girls won't mind the "daddy" in you. I don't mean the one you're probably thinking about... ;-) I'm talking about the "warm" and "loving" kind, the one who picks up and kisses his "little girl" at unexpected times and for no reason at all... the one that can't get enough and can't keep himself from kissing and hugging his little baby doll... now, translate that and apply it to your woman.
This is VERY easy if you can think and relate to your girl like that of course... I know I can't help myself sometimes... "Playful" is key... and it's also key to understand that this is NOT aimed at ending up in sex... If you take your time and be patient, that's how it may end up anyway, and maybe because she will initiate it. But the point is that when you do this, your intention should just be to show her how much you love her and appreciate her for who she is as a person. No other agenda, but just showing her how proud and happy she makes you.
Hope that's not too sappy... if you care for her, you won't think it is. Try it...It will work wonders.
2007-09-11 19:50:19 · answer #1 · answered by thasaintamour 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The fact that you refer to the recipient of your affection as your other half, rather than as someone more important to you, should give you a clue as to how unimportant you might be unintentionally making her feel.
It's possible that your other half has noticed that you don't show affection toward her at any time other than when you want to make love.
And, yup, it's possible that she wants affection at other times too. You know, so she won't feel like a mere sex object. So, that might be why she says you don't give her enough affection.
2007-09-12 02:17:14 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Be concern with whatever is happening to her. Showing affection goes beyond love making, kissing hugging etc
2007-09-12 02:11:26 · answer #3 · answered by freeall_freeme 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't really matter, dude; it will never be enough. Women seem to think that the dating and romancing should go on forever, and ever, and ever and ever.........
When you are finally completely worn down with all the games and drama she will seek it elsewere. To them, even cheating and getting caught at it is better than a normal, quiet life. It's the flood of emotions they crave like some sort of demented vampire.
This ends this lecture on 'Marriage 201'.
2007-09-12 01:56:45 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
i guess she's looking for more things than the physical ones...she probably wants you to be more supportive of her, to really listen to her when you talk, to be more considerate and sweet...
but if you're already doing all these things for her...the problem might be something else, which she can't exactly put in words...maybe you can just ask her what she wants so you can do it...sometimes asking is the best thing...less need for second guessing...
2007-09-12 01:58:02 · answer #5 · answered by geisha 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Women aren't all physical she probably is referring to time because to them that is where you show them they're relevant. If she knows you love football and she knows your favorite team is playing on tv and you know you can probably watch it without her getting upset, even better if you know she won't...Just Tivo the game and talk to her, she'll not likely care too much about the conversation its the simple fact that you chose her over your other favorite passtime. She just wants to feel like number one more often.
2007-09-12 01:55:42 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
notice little random things about her. the things you mentioned are all physical types of affection. you could say simple things like "i'm happy that you're here right now"
2007-09-12 01:53:16 · answer #7 · answered by dylan 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Flirting, eye contact, holding hands, rubbing her back, putting your arm around, pulling her close into you, patting her behind, showering together.
I should add - communication - making her feel valued is essential.
2007-09-12 01:55:56 · answer #8 · answered by flip 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you talking about a woman? Cause you have to actually "tell" them, in words, that they are beautiful and sexy. Otherwise they will not believe you. No matter what you do in addition to that.
2007-09-12 01:55:08 · answer #9 · answered by David S 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
Ask her. Ask her directly what she would like. All women are different. She knows what shes looking for.
2007-09-12 01:59:04 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋