2007-09-15 06:55:34 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
NOPe....Nope....Nope..no......nope........no.....no.....no....no...nope....no way.......
any doubt now?
2007-09-15 07:59:05 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Whatever your reason (s) for contemplating marrying someone are...unless it is pure and honest love that you want to share with that person UNTIL DEATH DO YOU PART...don't do it! I was a mess...in debt...lonely...unhappy...and more when I met a wonderful man who offered me stability...financial freedom...and love. Which were all of the things I wanted in my life...BUT I was not in love with him. I married him anyways and promised to love and honor him (which is all he wanted from me...that and honesty) and I didn't give him that. We divorced 9 months later and I destroyed his love for me in the process of my selfishness. If I could do it all over again...I would have done it all differently. I would've waited and IF I fell in love with him for who he was and not for what I could get out of the relationship...THEN AND ONLY THEN...would I have thought about getting married to him. He hates me now and I would give anything I have if he still loved me. So the short answer here is NO. No...I would not. I know because I did and that was WRONG! Marriage is special and sacred and should be something beautiful that is shared between two people who are BOTH better because of the marriage. Dr. Phil has asked the question that maybe you should ask yourself..."Would you rather be right or would you rather be happy?".
2007-09-15 14:49:01 · answer #2 · answered by kimolly 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think that there is someone for all of us in this world and if you settle for anyone that comes along, the person for you is going to arrive and you're going to be tied up with this person that you don't love.
You're lucky that you can recognize that you care about this person, but aren't in love with him, so you can now move on and put yourself out there again-
So the answer if no. WHY would you want to marry him? In that big of a hurry?
Tell him that you like him as a friend and move on...he also deserves to be with someone who loves him...
2007-09-15 14:50:17 · answer #3 · answered by Dee 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you care about him and you love him, but your not "in love" what are you doing messing with a friend in the first place? Don't get married if you are not 100 percent sure this is the person you want to spend the rest of your life with. Marriage is a lifetime commitment, not something to "try" for awhile and see if it works.
2007-09-15 14:19:48 · answer #4 · answered by Sun R 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
definite no i would not. that is a divorce just waiting to happen. i married a man that i loved but was not in love with and we only lasted 6 years and i cheated on him twice. i was not happy and was looking for something more.
be kind and end the relationship before both of you end up hurt.
2007-09-15 14:27:23 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
no because whats the point? being in love is having unconditional love for that person. you wouldn't change a thing. Loving him, is loving the superficial things and the things you see with your eyes. Marriage is a big step and not to be taken for people who aren't in love with one another.
2007-09-15 14:04:11 · answer #6 · answered by Tequeila B 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just answered your own question......
You think someone is neat and you love their personality but you KNOW you're not in love with him..
Be honest with yourself on this major area of your life NOW or you will live to regret having NOT followed your heart from the start...
2007-09-15 14:02:18 · answer #7 · answered by Dog Rescuer 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
How do you love him but not in love with him? Is that a difference in "love"?
2007-09-15 13:59:51 · answer #8 · answered by Silver Surfer 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Trash, That would be foolish,people should never marry someone that they are not deleriously, "in love" with !
2007-09-15 14:04:23 · answer #9 · answered by lonewolf 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
no it's a bad idea. if your not head over heels then you need to wait to find someone you will be head over heels about. wait for that person that you have a strong connection with don't settle.
2007-09-15 14:34:24 · answer #10 · answered by Amanda S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It will not work, you have to be in love with your partner, there will always be something missing and that is when 'straying' occurs. Be fair to him and fair to yourself.
2007-09-15 14:01:54 · answer #11 · answered by Beatrice C 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋