should i leave him alone, or keep seeing him, i'm in love with him. he said that he was not happy with his wife, the only time he's happy is when we see each other.we live 5hr away from each other. tell me. i do not know what to do.
2007-09-15 17:26:08 · 39 answers · asked by fatkat 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Okay, let me get this straight. He is married and having an affair, therefore he is not keeping his word with his wife to love her, honor her and be faithful. Please explain to me why he would be more likely to keep his word with you? If he cheats on her, he will cheat on you. If he lies to her, he will lie to you. You are not more special than she is. You will not magically change him.
2007-09-15 17:35:14 · answer #1 · answered by Jennifer C 4 · 8⤊ 0⤋
He lies to his wife all the time. Most likely, he is lying to you also to keep you around. Most likely, his story about not being happy at home is not really true, but it does let him rationalize his cheating, like that is an excuse. If he wanted out of his marriage he would be already. You being 5 hours away is 'safer' for him, his wife will not find out to easily.
Give him an ultimatum. Stop seeing him or sleeping with him until he is divorced.
Insist he tell his wife, or you will. Hummm, you might be surprised by his response.
Right now, he is the cakeman. He has his wife and life at home. Don't kid yourself, he is having sex with his wife also.
Then, he also wants his fun on the side. He will keep it this way as long as you are willing to put up with it.
You deserve more than a cheating man. Are you going to continue to play second to his wife? Waiting for him to have some scraps of time to sneak over to see you. Do you think he will be trustworthy? So far, it sounds like that is NO.
Find a man who doesn't have all that baggage and will commit to you. Lots of heartache ahead with this man. You deserve better!
2007-09-15 19:35:01 · answer #2 · answered by joyh 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have been there. He is in this for the sex. He is not going to leave his wife EVER. Trust me on this. Find someone else. You will always be the other woman waiting for him. I have a friend that waited 15 yrs for a married man!. He kept saying when his kids were grown he would leave. His kids now have kids and guess where he is??? Still with his wife. I am sure he is happy to see you. You are a pleasant distraction from his every day life. I am not trying to be mean or harsh but that is the way it is. The sooner you face it and walk the better off you will be. Good Luck.
2007-09-15 17:33:11 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 6⤊ 0⤋
Theres a reason why he doesnt keep his word to you - hes meant to be with someone else, keeping his word to them.
You THINK you are in love - sounds like you dont see this man enough to even know if you like him, let alone love him.
Of course the man tells you he doesnt love his wife or isnt happy with her - if he told you he was more than happy with his relationship and loves his wife well enough, but is just immature and wanted to stray *^%# you, would you have been so keen to get it on?
Im thinking not. Also if he was THAT unhappy, he would LEAVE HOME, wouldnt he.
Tell him you are not going to be his stray anymore, and that if he seriously ever does get single, well then maybe give you a ring (by which time you likely wont be interested any mroe anyway) otherwise its time for him to hit the road.
Arent there enough people in the gene pool without having to sleep with those already taken?
2007-09-15 17:39:25 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
IF he truly wasn't happy with his wife he would be divorced rather than going out and finding a whore. How would you know that the only time he is happy is when he is using you? Of course a person who would allow a man to use her can make a guy pretty happy. So he gets both worlds...a loving wife at home and a whore for when he feels like using a whore.
2007-09-15 19:20:14 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Honestly, most married men will tell you (the mistress) anything they want you to hear and that will keep you around. If he is so unhappy with his wife, why don't he leave her? Most of the time, married men do not leave their wife. I suggest you ask him where is you all's relationship going (whether he plans to leave his wife). If he tells you something like, he is staying because of his kid's (if he has any) or because of financial reasons, then he has no plans on leaving the wife and you will just be his "sex on the side".
2007-09-17 15:41:47 · answer #6 · answered by stergre1975 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why would you expect a man that is cheating on his wife to keep his word with anyone? He has broken his marriage vows, he has not honored his word, it is worthless. Why would you be interested in his wife's seconds any way? You are letting him have his cake and eat it too. You are committing adultery. Stop this now and run far away from this lying cheating adulterer.
2007-09-15 18:12:58 · answer #7 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If a married man can cheat on his wife with you, he will do the same thing to you and cheat on you with someone else or go back to his wife!
Do not get involved with a married person, even if you feel you are in love with him. You will not be able to have him 100%, you are sharing him with someone else. Don't you want someone devoted to you 100%? You can find someone else who is not married because there are plenty of men out there.
2007-09-15 17:53:23 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
You're sleeping with a married man and you're surprised that he won't keep his word to you? Why? Every time he is with you he is betraying the one person he swore in front of God and his family and friends that he would be faithful to until death. Why should he keep his word with you when he won't keep the most solemn vow he has ever taken in his life?
The bigger question is, why are you surprised he never keeps his word with you? Oh - and watch out for the future - if he cheats WITH you, sooner or later he will cheat ON you.
2007-09-15 17:56:05 · answer #9 · answered by Cuthbert 1 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Now because of the fact you place your self interior the shoes of the "different woman"; What could you're saying on your husband in case you have been interior the shoes of "The spouse"? i found your letter fairly exciting. i do no longer see why a woman could have satisfaction in being with a guy, who you be attentive to is going abode to and clearly drowsing with yet another woman. you're able to fairly proportion a guy than be with somebody who's unattached and without luggage? One could call those style of ladies individuals only straightforward stupid.
2016-11-14 13:48:19 · answer #10 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He never keeps his word to you because he is MARRIED!!!! to someone else. So, YES!!!!!!!!!!! you should leave him alone. He does not love you. He only tells you what you want to hear so you'll keep on sleeping with him. My best guess is that he isn't unhappy with his wife. If he was really that miserable, he'd have divorced her to be with you already. That's never going to happen. You'll never be anything more to him than an easy lay!!
2007-09-15 17:41:33 · answer #11 · answered by ncgirl 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋