i am very hurt about it and am against it in my marriage. i dont understand why he does this and am ready to divorce him for this and other things he has done in the passed. i feel that i have given up on trying to work it out when all he does is screw up.
2007-09-15 17:26:37 · 18 answers · asked by elizabeth c 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
To tell you the truth some husbands have to much time on their hands and when they do this it tells you a lot about their character. When a man has to hide anything from his wife you can bet one sure thing that he is up to no good. They are having emotional affairs that set them up for temptation to physically cheat on you if the right one comes along......and trust me there are a lot of vulnerable desperate women out there ready to hook up with anyone!! Married men chatting with singles on line are looking for more than just someone to talk to and this is how many affairs get started these days. So many try to insult the intelligence of their wives when they are caught claiming they are doing nothing wrong and they expect us to believe their innocence. It is far from the truth and many wives know it!! It is just totally disrespectful when a man does this and screws up the marriage causing trust issues for his wife. If I were you I would say HELL NO and I mean HELL NO!!!! You tell him to cut off all communication with these women and thats the bottom line. Then you take him into marriage counseling and hand him over to a proffessional to give it to him straight! If he refuses to work on the issues that are stressing out the relationship tell him to take all of his crap with him and get out!! I would let him know that you have had enough and when you say it you stand on your word!! If he loves you he will get right because if he doesn't you are gone this time. You tell him I am not playing with you anymore.
2007-09-15 18:45:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-12-20 15:48:45 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
WOW..there are a myriad of answers here. I think the first thing to ask him is if he would feel comfortable with you chatting with single men. Women need to feel wanted just as much as men.
The second question is if he knows it bothers you then why does he continue to chat? You might be jealous but some jealousy is necessary in order for a relationship to thrive. I would get online and begin chatting with single men to see how he reacts. If he doesn't really care then he probably isn't doing too much other than chatting. If he freaks then there is reason to be alarmed.
Personally, if I caught my husband chatting with singles I wouldn't be happy. A marriage is exclusive. That includes fantasies. It's one thing to look at a dirty mag or movie and it's another to talk to a person who is on a website to meet and connect with other singles. One thing could lead to another entirely too easy. Not that you shouldn't trust him but why head towards a disaster if you know you can avoid it?
He should have enough respect for you, regardless if you are being "too jealous", to stop. You should be the top priority not the girls he's chatting with. He needs to step up and start acting like a husband not a horny college kid.
Good luck.
2007-09-15 18:19:21 · answer #3 · answered by yolanda r 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Maybe it's his hobby to chat online. I know how you feel, dear. My hubby did that once in a while and still does it. At first, I was angry and hurt. I confronted him and we talked about it. Maybe because of my deep trust and love towards him that I decided to let the matter rest. It's different if he goes out and has an affair. That is not acceptable to me either.
So, I just monitor his behavior as well as his attitude. The best thing is, he doesn't know that I knew he still chats online. And when I relate this matter to his actions towards me as a wife, somehow I knew he just chatting for fun. Hey, it does hurt when I keep thinking about it. But I just don't let it ruin my marriage.
2007-09-15 18:26:01 · answer #4 · answered by narnia 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Yeah I read a lot of posts from other married women complaining that their spouses get caught cheating online, it's so sad. The minority of men in the world won't do that to you. I'm sorry you found out but at least you know what's been going on behind your back. You tried to work it out with your spouse but he won't improve, so now's the time to say "I am strong enough to leave this marriage because I deserve happiness!" This is powerful saying! Hope you make the right decision.
2007-09-15 17:50:31 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why do they do it? Well, to possibly make a connection, or perhaps to feed their ego.
I think your question is why does YOUR man do this? What did he say when you asked him? It sounds like you don't communicate well together. If he knows that this hurts you then he truly doesn't have your feelings high on his priority list. Couseling may help but only if both are willing to work at it. You know what his track record is and you also know what you can live with and what you can live without. Don't lose your self respect in an effort to make a relationship work. It becomes one-sided and that is NOT the definition of a positive relationship.
2007-09-15 17:39:55 · answer #6 · answered by "wheels" 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
The same reason that women do. I like to chat online and it makes sex with my husband more interesting but I would never talk on the phone with these men or meet them. My husband found out and is now harassing me online. I guess I can understand at the same time that it makes you feel insecure. Look at his past behavior and that will answer your question as to whether or not he can be trusted outside the cyber world. Has he cheated on you in the past?
2007-09-15 18:21:19 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of men think that chatting online is not cheating. I am strongly against it. It is cheating. I think you should get rid of him. Because Ive tried it before and they wont change.
2007-09-15 17:55:24 · answer #8 · answered by Preggo_Wife 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
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2016-10-12 22:46:50 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is committing on line infidelity. Cheating on you with these other women. Many marriages are being ruined by this very thing right now all across the world. The other woman is able to come right into your own home and wreck it. Throw out the CPU and the modem.
2007-09-15 18:05:40 · answer #10 · answered by Sweet Suzy 777! 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋