Marriage & Divorce - 13 September 2007

We split up 4 months ago because i asked for commitment. he told me he had to let me go to find another love as he didn't feel it in his heart. I lied and told him i was over hm last week and how would he fancy sex. i just wanted to be close to him. I've slept with him 3 times and each time i know he only wants sex. He does cook for me still and ask about my life, we go for walks and he tells me he wants me to be in love and be happy. Do you think he loves me or he has definitely fallen out of love???

2007-09-13 09:45:13 · 43 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just a question for those who have gotten pregnant then got married for that reason, just wondering if it was so it doesn't look bad or were you already planning to get married then decided to do it earlier because of that?...Just wondering, thanks :)

2007-09-13 09:37:19 · 15 answers · asked by Abby 2

2007-09-13 09:31:11 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 09:18:49 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

We have been married for 1 1/2 years. She has gained 20 pounds since we got married. She is by no means obese, but because she is a petite girl (5 foot 2') it is very noticable. I have never told her that she needs to lose weight. She is still beautiful to me. I have tried things like asking her to go for a walk with me. I also have taken over lots of the cooking and am doing my best to cook healthy. I also do the grocery shopping and do not buy sweets or unhealthy, fatty foods. But nothing seems to be helping. Is there anything else I can try?

2007-09-13 09:15:41 · 43 answers · asked by Joe Schmo 1

I was watching divorce court today and some lady actually married a guy that was STILL MARRIED to someone else. My question is how is that possible? I thought when you apply for a marriage license they check on things like that? If anyone knows how something like that could happen I would like to know. It was just mind blowing to me.

2007-09-13 09:11:57 · 9 answers · asked by baby_grl01 1

2007-09-13 09:09:59 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

You all make it seem so easy to just get up and walk out...... I love him and the scarey thing is that i truely belive he loves me, he just can't seem to keep his dick in his pants. He is very loving and says I love you 20 times a day. He isn't very thoughful most times, but on the outside he is a sweat guy. I am going to my first time at counseling next week. I don't want a divorce, I want him to come clean and try to straighten up and keep our marriage together, but we can't if he continues to deny anything has ever happened. We have an 11 year old daughter and this will devestate her. I can't just throw 13 years away, can I??? Maybe he just has a screwed up head from childhood.....he said he would go to counseling with me, is it worth a shot???

2007-09-13 09:09:23 · 16 answers · asked by IDontGetIt 1

im messing up bad . me and my wife got in a fight and she packed up all her things and left. were fighting cause im jelouse i al ways bugg her when she goes out . i dont know whats wrong with me . y can i leave her alone . does any body know what i can do to stop bugging her . how do i control my jelousy .. i want her back with me i miss her so much . wats a good way to make some one forgive u

2007-09-13 09:02:28 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

she's a great roomate except for the snoring matter.

2007-09-13 09:01:51 · 15 answers · asked by Leana 1

My husband cheated and left me back in July for another woman he met online for sex. In the past few weeks, I have been on an emotional rollercoaster and just trying to move forward in my life. Just recently I started realizing that he really was never the best for me. Why couldn't I see it like that before?
We live in the same town and I saw him last weekend sitting at a light, with his boat and new whore in tow. They didn't see me. I think God is punishing me but my friends say that it might of happened that way to HELP me deal with getting past him.
I was a loving, caring, loyal wife so I wonder if he sees the opposite now in me? All the nice things I did, etc. Maybe not now but one day he might when he realizes he may never be lucky enough to find another woman like me again in his life! Doesn't that old saying go "you don't know what you've got till it's gone". Divorce has been filed, no children involved (thank you Lord)

2007-09-13 09:00:49 · 17 answers · asked by texas_redlips 1

If he keeps the door open when you're in his room? He's the type of guy that's very private and usually keeps the door closed when friends are around...

2007-09-13 08:57:22 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Most of us use pet names for our lover's sex organ. What's yours? Have you heard of someone else's pet name?

remember to keep it clean and fun.

2007-09-13 08:50:20 · 19 answers · asked by estimator01 4

it always hits me how people answer or the outlook on morals. a lot here say stripclubs and even lapdances are ok, but then they are ? about going to dinner with the other sex while you are married and its a big no no. that was just a example. i see many things here that make me wonder. whats up with all these double standards? has anyone else noticed?

2007-09-13 08:50:13 · 16 answers · asked by not this way 5

Husband has now been asked to take his four children and provide a home for them because mom is on drugs. This situation has been going on for about 4 years and now it's take them or foster care will have them. We have been married for 6 years; have a three bedroom ranch home; my son and daughter live with us (daughter in college). We really don't have the extra room; they would be sleeping on cots in the living room. Three girls (19, 16, 15) one boy (14). I have been accused of not caring because I haven't responded as to what should happen. His children have alot of anger because they feel they have been neglected by him, mother's family. Now he said "he is going to do what he needs to do for his kids--and if that means moving out and getting a place for them to live and he live with them--that's what he is going to do". I'm crushed and now our marriage is over. I am I wrong for being mad because I was not asked first?

2007-09-13 08:48:51 · 29 answers · asked by buckeyemom 1

to someone else? Just a crush... I would never cheat. Just thinking of my boyfriend having a crush on someone else breaks my heart. But, I can't help it. I have a crush on someone. AAAHHH!!!

2007-09-13 08:47:59 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Additional Details

15 minutes ago
Okay, so I MONITOR him and am uncomfortable BECAUSE there is suspicion of infidelity here. I have been married for 13 years and in that 13 years I have come to find out that he has been at strip poker parties, didn't come home a few nights......to drunk. But he has alwasy seemed to have a good story that has gotten him out of it. Lately a somethings got back to me that he screwed a girl from a local bar that he hung out at. He had come home VERY late and drunk a few times. He had her in his cell phone under an alias.......I saw a text message from her saying "too bad that rumor got started we could have tried out my new bed" AND the newest kicker I found a box of condoms (newly bought) hidden in my garage. He says nothing happened with the girl he was just lending moral support to her and for the condoms he said he bought them while he was out of town on a boys weekend away, but never used them, how lucky for me???? So now tell me I am being paranoid about the internet porn.....

2007-09-13 08:47:43 · 16 answers · asked by IDontGetIt 1

He filed for a legal seperation and it has been in effect since the 6th og August. He believed that I had an affair. I never did. I lied one time about where I was and who I was with because my husband did not like him at all. Also, for a long time my husband wasn't giving me the attention that I needed, in and out of the bedroom, but I still would never cheat on him. But I never cheated on him! Evryday without him get harder and harder to live. A few Saturadays ago he showed up at my part-time job and everything seemed to be going great, we laughed and talked, held hands. He called me that night and everything seemed to fine. I couldn't get to sleep, so I drove over to his house, to find a strange car in the driveway. I tried to call but he wouldn't answer. I know I shouldn't have ever gone it, but I did. There he was watching a movie in the dark leaning shoulder to shoulder with another woman. Since then he said that was it. I want him back, what can I do? Please help!!

2007-09-13 08:31:54 · 23 answers · asked by sarah_jetty 1

My daughters dad thinks that I called him yesterday and left a message on his cell phone.
First he said it was someone "crying" then he eventually cam around and told me that it sounded like someone having "intercourse" and he said it sounded exactly like me.
I didnt even call him at all yesterday nor would I do something that low. He said I'm still the only girl he talks to so it couldnt have been anyone else. I havent even been seeing anybody else or getting "out there".
It bugs me that he thinks I would do something like this.
should I still try and convince him that it wasnt me or should I just leave it be since I KNOW it wasnt me?

2007-09-13 08:25:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife had an affair with a much older married man before we were dateing. She claims it was a mistake that took place at least a year before we got together. (I'm not sold on that)
When we were dateing and engaged he would call her to get together when he came to town. The three of us went out to dinner several times. I had no idea about their romantic history at the time, otherwise I would never have gone along with it. I think he was still looking to hook up. My wife claims she wanted to "show me off to him". Until I learned of the affair she still corresponded with him over the phone and email. I suspect they both had a need to see each other and that my wife was not willing to ruin our relationship by sneaking around with him so she asked me to come along.
She even felt it was necessary to invite he and his wife to our wedding. She admits some guilt but claims their relationship was stricly a friendship after the affair ended. Does any of this make sense?

2007-09-13 08:23:55 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 08:14:47 · 15 answers · asked by Reginald H 1

leaving. im so scared but i know i need to do it. what has helped everyone who leaves a husband? he doesnt treat me very good and has cheating on me and lied like crazy about anything you can think of. how much does it cost? we have a little girl also. i just cant trust him anymore and im so unhappy.

2007-09-13 07:55:58 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

Heres the deal, my ex husband (who i CANT STAND!!-but keep it civil for the sake of out son) HITS on me EVERYTIME i go get my son.... He checks out my boobs, makes comments on my butt.... when we talk he keeps asking me "when am i gunna hit it... you know you want it".... we have not slept together since june of 2005..... I tell him to stop, i dont want to sleep with him, no thank you... EVERYTHING! i told my fiance and he is to the point where he wants to go and kick his a$$.... I have seen his new wife only once, and i told her that he hits on me.... but he has already put it in her head that i want him back... and that im a lier.... he makes stupid remarks alll the time about how good the sex was, and its okay since we have already done it, its not really cheating... blah, blah, blah....

WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THIIS STOP ONCE AND FOR ALL??? PLEASE HELP!!!!

2007-09-13 07:54:17 · 38 answers · asked by *LDY LEX* 2

My husband treats me very poorly, he is always mad, can be aggressive towards me and the children. Though he puts on a friendly nice guy act around most other people. He blames me for our money problems. It is getter harder and harder to live like this.

2007-09-13 07:54:04 · 13 answers · asked by Kimberly 6

i mean seriously every night? i would understand once in a while. we have intercourse every night and he still dreams about it every night and i wonder who he is dreaming about cus i know he is not dreaming about me everytime. i get jelous but he says he dont remember his dreams but i hear him moaning so i wake him up. i feel insecure cause of it. what do u think?

2007-09-13 07:34:40 · 36 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hey, my marriage begun on a bad note. He was still in love with somebody even when we were married. He always entertained galz in our marital house and allowed them to dock in any time they felt like. We do not have great conversation, he hates personal conversation and so we do not bond. The sex is poor as he is done in 2 mins. He is not keen to seek for help inasmuch as I have told him that I do not get satisfied. He doesn't help much with housework and I work until I am too tired to think. He is off hand, and I do not feel loved at all even though he says he does. He doesn't discuss cash or property or other plans and he has been deceitful in the past with our property and even money. He doesnt listen to my opinions and I am just like one of the kids many times.
Problem is I am getting attracted to any man who shows me some kind of affection. I am so sexually starved, I just do not know what to do.....I feel like I am going to cheat

2007-09-13 07:34:06 · 20 answers · asked by lavagal.com 3

A lot of women seem concerned so lets see if I can help..Why do men watch porn-Simple we like it, most men do,I'm not saying it's right or wrong it's just the way it is...Why do we like it-simple it's fantasy for us,just brain candy...Do we feel less about our mates when we watchit-NO!! again it's fantasy..
Why would we watch it if you are willing to take care of us-Simple we want you to watch it with us..In our mind we think that you will see things on the screen get excited and want to do it to..I know silly, but as I said I'm just trying to tell you the truth I never said it made sence...Know assuming you are open and honest about sex and enjoy it, your sex life should not suffer from it..You need to make him talk to you and ask the tuff questions//Your sex life should not suffer because of a video...Lets face it some porn is wrong.

2007-09-13 07:25:36 · 20 answers · asked by Bill 4

We got married after being together for 2 years. We had a great wedding and after 2 months, she pops up to me with she doesnt think she wants to be married. She is 23 and she says she didnt get a chance to experience other stuff before she got married.

2007-09-13 07:19:18 · 61 answers · asked by Lost2008 1

my bf and i have been going out for a year so it was pretty serious, and we decided to take a break for two months. and we were going to get back together but now he has a gf and its over between us. Does anyone know any good break up songs to help me get over the break up? my favorite is she cant love you by destiny's child but i was wondering if there were any other good songs

2007-09-13 07:16:31 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 07:11:46 · 25 answers · asked by Florida-Fan1 2