He blames me for a "nasty" phone call, what should I do?

Question

My daughters dad thinks that I called him yesterday and left a message on his cell phone.
First he said it was someone "crying" then he eventually cam around and told me that it sounded like someone having "intercourse" and he said it sounded exactly like me.
I didnt even call him at all yesterday nor would I do something that low. He said I'm still the only girl he talks to so it couldnt have been anyone else. I havent even been seeing anybody else or getting "out there".
It bugs me that he thinks I would do something like this.
should I still try and convince him that it wasnt me or should I just leave it be since I KNOW it wasnt me?

his phone must not have been on cause thats the only time the caller ID works.

He told me he'd save it and show it to me just so that I can hear how much it "sounds like me"

Answer 1

Leave it be. Your word should be enough to convince him - if not, no amount of "convincing" will work.

Answer 2

Who knows if it's even true. Maybe he's just trying to stir things up, trying to create a reason to talk to you. It sounds strange. Do you have an alibi? Where were you yesterday? Were you with someone that can vouch for you? Whether you leave it be or not depends on how you feel about what he thinks. If you value what he thinks then it may be worth it to try to convince him. If you don't care what he thinks then forget about it.

Answer 3

My phone gives me the call ID of messages too not just current calls.

Just ignore him and let it go. If you act like really are disinterested, maybe he and the children will see that since you really do not care, you really would have no interest in pulling such a stunt.

I hope he has not mentioned this to the kids...that would be dirty.

Answer 4

Does it matter? Since he is EX, why you bother with all these? He can thinks whatever, because you can't control his thoughts. Why argue on soemthing that he sets his mind to. Just totally ignore him, because if you didn't do it, then you didn't do.

Most phone company has record of the numbers you dialed and the number dialed in.... but why bother :)

If a dog barks at you, then do you bark back?
you aren't a dog, are you.

Answer 5

I don't think ANYONE called your daughter's dad. I think he made up the fact that someone sounding like you called him and is just trying to get a reaction out of you....not exactly sure for what reaction....but one non the less.

Answer 6

Doesn't his cell have caller id?
Maybe he's just fishing to find out if you're seeing anyone and the voicemail is total fiction.
He's going to think what he's going to think. You know the truth and that's what matters.

Answer 7

Don't call him back to convince him that it was not you, and tell him you are not interested in hearing it either. Just say you know it was not you and do not care what he thinks, if he chooses to believe it was you tell him you do not care. I bet he used this as an excuse to talk with you. To see how you are doing.

Answer 8

even if his caller id doesn't work because if was off when you listen to you voice mails you have the option of calling the person back or hearing what number it came from if its not blocked then he can call that person back try it :)

Answer 9

I dont' think that yo owe him any explanation. Giving him an explanation just gives him the satisfaction that he thinks that you care what he thinks.. I would personally just leave it alone. Tell him you don't owe him anything and that it was not you, and I would not say anthing else about it, and ignore it when he brings it up to you again.

Answer 10

Maybe hes lying? Sounds like hes playing mind games with you.