Heres the deal, my ex husband (who i CANT STAND!!-but keep it civil for the sake of out son) HITS on me EVERYTIME i go get my son.... He checks out my boobs, makes comments on my butt.... when we talk he keeps asking me "when am i gunna hit it... you know you want it".... we have not slept together since june of 2005..... I tell him to stop, i dont want to sleep with him, no thank you... EVERYTHING! i told my fiance and he is to the point where he wants to go and kick his a$$.... I have seen his new wife only once, and i told her that he hits on me.... but he has already put it in her head that i want him back... and that im a lier.... he makes stupid remarks alll the time about how good the sex was, and its okay since we have already done it, its not really cheating... blah, blah, blah....
WHAT CAN I DO TO MAKE THIIS STOP ONCE AND FOR ALL??? PLEASE HELP!!!!
2007-09-13 07:54:17 · 38 answers · asked by *LDY LEX* 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Try as much as possible to have someone with you whenever you have to deal with him. My guess is he won't say those things if your fiance or some friend is right there with you. Other than that, limit your interaction with him as much as possible.
Or, you can file a police report that he is harassing you, but I don't know what that would do. It is a possibility though.
2007-09-13 08:00:20 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just. Wow. So many issues there it's hard to know where to start. First off, you shouldn't care about what people might think if this is really about your faith and sinning. Second if they are in fact judging you that says a lot more about them and their sinning. Third you speak of reputation as if that is the important part, it shouldn't be. This isn't really about sin or faith. It sounds like you are embarrased by it despite your saying otherwise. Your concerns about it becoming public are well founded. If pressed to advise you on yes or no, based on what you're saying I'd say no. And I think your marriage is in trouble from the sounds of it, seek counselling. Don't look for advice from a bunch of voyouers on the internet here.
2016-05-18 21:56:26 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would never go over there alone or be alone with him. Take your fiance, a family member, friend etc.., You may even consider meeting for pick up and/or drop off in a public place like at McDonald's etc...,
I would also get a small, voice activated tape recorder and record him next time he says something inappropriate so his new wife can see what a pig she is married too!
2007-09-13 07:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by wondermom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Take your fiance, or a friend, with you when you pick up your son. If that doesn't work, keep a recorder in y our pocket and record his conversations. Send that to his wife after a few times. This guy is a real jacka**. You are well rid of him. Good for you.
2007-09-13 08:06:52 · answer #4 · answered by Brent 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
best thing to do is to make sure that you are not alone with this man i would suggest that you have your fiance around when he comes to get the boy ect if that is what he sees all the time then he will get the idea the second thought is less innocent you could get a tape recorder and record his remarks when he is over to get the boy and send the tape to his wife and see if he can lie his way out of that one
2007-09-13 07:58:43 · answer #5 · answered by billc4u 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it was me, I would take my fiance with me when I went. After all he is part of your life as well as your son's life. As long as your husband can keep his cool
Another idea would be to contact your lawyer and ask for a public meeting area when you can pick up your child.
I hope everything works out. Best of Luck
2007-09-13 08:04:55 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell the fool to check him self.. do not let your fiance catch a case that is all what he is looking for to sue and make your life hell. when he trys to hit on you the next time carry a little recorder with you and tape it to cover your self. Be smart about it hold your cool.. if his wife feel you are wrong make a copy of the tape and give it to her.
2007-09-13 08:01:52 · answer #7 · answered by K_LOVE 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can make arrangement to have him to bring your son to your house and then have him to pick him up also. Have a tape recorder set up in the home to have him taped so you will have the proof to play for his wife to prove what is going on. He is doing this because he knows that he can get away with it and that is what he is doing.
2007-09-13 08:20:23 · answer #8 · answered by Nancy M 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you have a child together so unfortunately he has you on that technicality. i would suggest meeting in a public place to exchange your child when he has visits. meet at mcdonalds or somewhere where there are other ppl, and maybe he would feel inappropiate to talk about those things. same when picking your child up. if you meet in public places, maybe Mr.Fresh Guy will get the hint. If this doesnt work, you may have to take more drastic measures to get him to stop. GOOD LUCK!!!
2007-09-13 08:03:51 · answer #9 · answered by godschildforlife 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to record these actions and present them in court. You don't want your son to be involved with this, and to continue to have a good relationship with your fiance you need to get him out of your life. He needs to prove that he wont be abusive before he should be able to see his son. Other option is to not make any contact with him, arrange for your son to be able to be dropped off or picked up without you being able to have face-to-face contact with him. Either way, you can't live with this abusive behavior and your son shouldn't be a witness to this either.
2007-09-13 08:01:16 · answer #10 · answered by Chelley 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋