Marriage & Divorce - 13 September 2007

I had a rough child hood, and have held so many things in for at least 17 years, They have followeed me thru the years, am I able to press charges against my stepdad, even thou it has been so long,

2007-09-13 07:05:41 · 11 answers · asked by ouch 1

My husband and I seperated amicably 3 years ago. We remained friends and I paid him half of what the profits would have been if we sold the house (which wasnt very much at the time as we had a big mortgage n little equity but was still 5 figures) in return for the house to be transfered over into my solo name. He has paid maintenance regular and we have had no other problems. UNTIL he met a girl (8 months ago) she has made him apply for divorce (we werent bothered about this as none of us want to remarry) and in the divorce settlement he wants half the house! which has gone up in value since i paid him of as i have done a lot of work on the house and obviously paid more off the mortgage and have built up more equity! I realise we should have got divorced straight away then this would not have happened but I didnt think he would ever get so horrible and nasty. He says hes going to get everything he can of me and that he was too nice when we first split! Help!!!

2007-09-13 06:48:43 · 37 answers · asked by Mands 3

that's pretty much the question. so, basically: have you at one time or another broke up with your partner, then later (years, months, weeks later...ect), get married.

2007-09-13 06:44:54 · 11 answers · asked by happypants 3

men ladies?.........why don;t you admit that you have no respect for women...they're jsut sex objects to you and the ugly/flat ones are ****?........why don;'t you admit tht u cheat all the time especially during bachelor parties, strip clubs, (& tht these things are degrading to women) etc......

.or tht you're only sweet to get some.....or tht u just get married just for food/sex......or that hot girls are important to u than the 1 u luv and u will choose to be w/ them in heaven not your parter(and that you'd even do it now if you could).......why don;t you admit that you;re pretty much like the frat boys in borat?

or that you don't care about our feelings and just want us to get down and give u bjs? or better yet instead of hurting the good girls' feelings why don;'t you just screw around the sluts?

or that you'd rather be a player and screw girls around rather than be w/ the person u love (here and in the after life) but choose a wife/gf just for sex/food?

2007-09-13 06:42:57 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband and I have been married for 4 years now. Our relationship has been very rocky, like a roller coaster. My husband has been physically, mentally and verbally abuse towards me. I have left him 2 for his abuse behavior, but have come back to him because I believed that he really wanted to change and he has changed over the past 2 years. He no longer physically or mentally abuses me. However, every now and then, he does verbally abuse me. He has had a very rough life which has led to him having a lot of traumatic issues. He has anger problems and a very short temper. Together we have overcome a lot of his issues. His jealousy, insecureness of himself and our relationship and his low self esteem, I could go on with the amount of mental issue’s he’s had.
Unfortunately, his anger is the one thing that has been the most difficult and the issue we are still struggling with. The last time he had an outburst was about 2 or 3 wks ago. Here’s the thing, I get up at 5am, everyday because we only have 1 vehicle at this time and I have to drive him to work and then drive myself to work every day. We end up getting home around 7pm ever night. I leave my house at 5am, work all day, after work I have to pick him up then drive home ( we live 30 minutes away from his work and 1hr away from mine, so I commute 1½ hrs to work and the same back home) Anyhow, I get home tired from working, driving and because of a shoulder injury I have which cause daily pain. I have a tear in my rotator cuff and any movement hurts my entire hand). That day we got home around 7pm, as soon as we got home, he asked me to make dinner. I told him I was tired to just give me some time to rest and I watched some tv in order to relax. I watched TV for 1hr, in which time he kept bugging me about cooking. After an hour and after my shoulder pain had diminished a little so I started cooking (8pm). What he wanted for dinner takes a couple of hours to cook so around 9:45pm or so, I checked the food and it needed about 10 minutes more to cook. At that time he made a comment that if I would have made the food when he asked it would have been ready by now. I replied to him, not with any type of aggravated tone or anything, that if he could please understand that I was tired. I worked all day and he doesn’t even let me be home for 5 minutes when he already wants me to start cooking and cleaning. Suddenly he got so angry and started yelling and saying that if I wanted I could throw away the food. I told him that the could do what ever he wanted. He walked outside yelling that he was going to throw the food away (outside because I was barbecuing) he came back with an empty pot of food. He had thrown the food away. He started screaming, insulting me, telling me I was worthless as a wife, that I was lazy, calling me names, making derogatory remarks about me, he threatened to beat me up with the pott he had in his hand, he threatened me with my parents and my 10 year old sister’s life. He just went crazy and I was shocked. I didn’t yell at him back or anything, I just ignored him. The next day, he apologized and cried and said he didn’t know what to do, he tries so hard to not get angry, to not disrespect me and insult me, but he doesn’t know why he’s like that. He accepted he is wrong, that he has problems (at least he’s always accepted this), he also said that if I wanted to leave him, he understands why. He knows he doesn’t deserve me, but he doesn’t know what to do. I think part of his problem is that he hates himself so much because of everything he’s done to me through out the years, which he knows I haven’t deserved it.
Like I said, he has changed, and a lot. But I just don’t know what to do. I can’t handle this anymore. This relationship has brought me so much suffering. My life before I met him was happy, full of life, family and friends. Now I don’t have any friends and I don’t talk to my family because they hate him. We moved states (from California to Arkansas) so that we could try by ourselves to solve our problems. I am just so agitated, depressed, confused, sad, and most of all lonely. My family was my entire life, and without them I feel lost. I feel so depressed because of all of the compromises and sacrifices I have made in order to make this relationship work. For everything I have tolerated and forgiven. I lost interest in having intimacy with him and I don’t know how to say this to him because it will hurt him tremendously and I know he’ll say its because I don’t love him anymore, which to be honest, I doubt my love for him every single day that goes by. I don’t even know if I love him anymore. I’m always thinking of everything he’s done to me. I miss my friends, my family, California. I am always asking myself if I should leave him for good, but I’m scared of throwing this marriage away. I don’t know if its worth it anymore. I miss having fun and enjoying life. I always think that instead of going through all of this crap I could be home in CA, going out, having fun with my friends and family, like I used. We are only 22 years old. We should be enjoying life. I don’t know why its so hard for me to walk away. I think that after everything I have endured with him, he killed my love for him. I still love him, but more of a friend love, not the way your suppose to love a husband. I have so much resentment, for what he’s done and on myself for being so forgiving and taking his abuse.

2007-09-13 06:36:10 · 32 answers · asked by spaced 1

2007-09-13 06:33:32 · 18 answers · asked by crystalgail32 1

Both parents have joint custody of a 9 year old child, in southern California. The mother, though, is a pathological liar and has a definite personality disorder. Can the father obtain full custody based on the mother's psychiatric diagnosis?

2007-09-13 06:27:15 · 9 answers · asked by Meshuganah Maidelah 5

We have been arguing alot here lately. Last friday his friend put his hands around my neck and he started jerking my neck back and forth. My husband said that he was just playing around. But I don't care if he was playing around or not. I don't like it when a guy puts his hands aroud my neck. My husband he still goes around him and thats what most of our arguements are over. Does anyone have any advice for me. I hope this makes sense.

2007-09-13 06:26:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband keeps cheating every now and then, i'm begining to consider divorce, cos cheating back on him would only hurt me, he's asking for a lst chance, but i know a leopard can never change it's skin, does anyone have an idea how to help him stop if he is true to his words this time around. pls dont tell me about being good to him cos that is all i've done in the last 4years. he is the one that has a problem.

2007-09-13 06:10:42 · 29 answers · asked by Anonymous

I found out he was using me to get into the U.S and when confronted he vanished. At first he told me that he will never divorce me ever! That he can marry up to 4 times in his country, so this will not effect him at all. I haven't heard from him in 7 months and now, how do I get a divorce from him here in the states? I don't know where he is or no phone number, no address nothing! No way to contact him to get the divorce and have very little income. What do I do? Please help me! He never stepped foot on this soil. We only lived together "married" for 2 weeks in his country. Yes foolish thing to do, but I did believe in him at the time. I was going through some emotional times and tragic events and he took advantage of that. Once my mind became clear and I saw him for what he was... it was to late. Now, in his country he can say that he doesnt want me for his wife anymore and we are divorced. He did say that to me. But, now how do I take care of the rest here in the states?

2007-09-13 05:43:42 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

the movie had a black guy in it. she hasnt stopped talking abut how huge his **** was and she said she loved watching it. i am average size and to see how excited she was worries me. should i be worried.

2007-09-13 05:37:07 · 29 answers · asked by Jon M 1

2007-09-13 05:29:12 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-13 05:24:53 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

I myself have made this mistake before, more then once. With guys whom I met, we went out for a few times, it was great and we had a good time. I thought there could be something to develop between us. After a few times, I spent a lot of time at his place, and all we did was stay there and you know the rest. I feel once you start doing that, he will get the signal that he has the upper hand. It's fun, and exciting but the price you pay is disappointment, pain, and the fact that he has put you on his 'casual' shelf... the next thing you know is there is no relationship anymore, he will not take the initiative to want to please you emotionally/mentally, he does not cherish you, he denies what you want in a relationship, basically he just doesn't give a S*** about you & YOU LOSE ALL YOUR BARGANING POWER. So my question is, why do some women end up happliy married to the guys they do this with & others get hurt. I know women who are married to a man they slept with on the first date

2007-09-13 05:23:19 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I still love her and the prettynice daughther she gives me, but I can't really forget what she did.

2007-09-13 05:17:45 · 11 answers · asked by valoowa 1

What bad could from from it? The purity of our marriage has already been destroyed. And it would make me feel a lot better. In fact I don't even want to have an affair. I want to pay the skankiest ho I can find, and then come home and have sex with my wife without washing up.

If you tell me it's wrong, will the rage, jealousy, and pain ever go away on it's own?

2007-09-13 05:08:08 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous

Who do you trust...The accusser or your husband? This is something that supposedly happened before we were married. Either way this can't be ignored.

2007-09-13 05:06:06 · 27 answers · asked by deme081475 1

We are forever hearing about Male-Female violence,how come so little is said about Female-Male violence.I have a co-worker who's wife beats the crap out of him.

2007-09-13 05:03:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife is a fairly attractive woman - she's 22. I'm 23. We have 2 boys, 5 yrs & 20 months. We are going out to this club this weekend for her bday & she is excited and all. The thing is, she wants to wear provocative clothing, such as she has this dress that ties at her neck and shows all her back. I think it's inappropriate as most guys would drool over her & plus I think she should respect me and not look like an easy tag. If she were to wear something more conservative, I wouldn't have a problem. But I think she thirsts for the attention & I don't like it. I did let her wear something similiar like this awhile back - I had a problem with it but I didn't tell her anything, as I didn't want to seem over protective.

Do you think I have a right to have some limits with my wife or am I over analyzing this?

2007-09-13 04:58:43 · 39 answers · asked by Me 3

Please answer this question as honestly as you can....no jokes or sarcasms please. Why do some men resort to physically abusing women and/or others? Were you abused as a child? Did you have a mother that did not love or nurture you enough? Did your father abuse your mohter? I'm just trying to understand. By the way, I was once in a very abusive relationship for almost 5 years where my mate absued me and blamed me all the time for his abuse. There was always as an excuse as to why he abused me. He wouldn't leave me alone after I left him. I've been out of that relationship for over a year now. I'm more cautious now when it comes to a relationship with a man. I know the signs of a batterer. Thank you for answering honestly.

2007-09-13 04:58:22 · 20 answers · asked by thebestofthedoors 1

My now ex girlfriend stopped talking to me and asked me to give her her space about 3 weeks ago. I love her very much and don't want things to end, but she just thinks we're going in to different directions with our lives. We had a vacation scheduled to Myrtle Beach next week. Of course I'm not going now, but her and her 3 year old daughter are still going. I wasn't respectful at first of giving her her space because I wanted to talk things out. She baiscally told me to back off again and give her her space. I have now. And it's been a week since I've had any contact with her. However, she is leaving for a week on Saturday, and I just want to send her an email to wish her and her daughter a safe and fun trip. It sounds kinda silly, but should I do this?

2007-09-13 04:56:06 · 8 answers · asked by Roland of Gilead 3

2007-09-13 04:51:12 · 26 answers · asked by jyoti s 2

Ok so I have posted lost of questions about this guy and ya'll are pretty rough....most answers are "forget the loser piece of crap"and things like that. Here's the deal in a nutshell....he's my ex, I am recently remarried, my ex and I share a 16mo old boy and he is a severe alchoholic and pot smoker. He has done terrible things to me and hasn't really been a part of my son's life, but I still care about him and I want to help him. I am a Christian and I believe in forgiveness and helping others. He is still the bio father of my son. My new husband is wonderful and yes it is dangerous to allow this man to get too close to me, but he reaches out and he honestly has NOONE else who cares....most think of him the way you guys do and rightfully so, but doesn't everyone deserve a chance? Is there anything realistic I can do to help him. He is drinking 3 - 5 nites a week HARD and depressed deeply, he raises 3 of his 5 children but mine isn't one of them. Yes he is a mess, can I help?

2007-09-13 04:50:58 · 31 answers · asked by LilSunbeam 4

My bf was scammed by some guy on the street the other day and since then he's been more nice to me than usual and is doing more for me.
Usually he won't eat a meal unlees I cook it for him and won't do anything that is not going to to directly benefit him. (Don't even get me started on the trash)
Is this a phase or was that incident what he needed to experience to see the err of his ways? It happened 3 days ago and he is still upset about it.

2007-09-13 04:38:45 · 7 answers · asked by what's the point 4

Answer honestly,

1) What have your learnt from your marriage

2) What have been your joys and regrets from your marriage

3) If you had to do it all over again, would you have married the same person and why or why not ?

2007-09-13 04:38:03 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been with my husband eleven years, married only one year. I am starting to regret the fact that I got married. I can not get him to pay me any attention. We do not spend any time together has a couple. We are force to spent less time together because I work during the day and he work at night. When the weekend come we sit in to different rooms watching tv waiting on the other to make the first move. I need help or suggestions on how to get my husband to pay more attention then the tv.

2007-09-13 04:30:43 · 19 answers · asked by sanna 1

I am not talking about cheating just fun in general my experience is once your married your wife wants all fun of any type to stop immediatly.

2007-09-13 04:28:03 · 3 answers · asked by Anonymous

we have been married for 8 yrs. have 2 children, 1st grade and kindergarden. we have a full time nanny... so wife has no excuse that she is tired all the time from taking care of kids. I do my share of house work. laundry, dishes, take out garbage, run vacuum. I pay all the houshold bills except her car payment and direct TV bill, She make more money than I do. I owned the house before we got married with no mortgage payment

2007-09-13 04:23:44 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why get embarrassed when one of your ex's friends sees you together with the "other" person? The divorce is final - you and your ex now lead separate lives - your kids are adjusting as best they can. Why be embarrassed? If you were the "other" person - how would you feel?

2007-09-13 04:22:17 · 5 answers · asked by Anonymous

May 2006 Joins true.com , Sept 2006 joins adultfriendfinder, Find chatting with live WEB CAM girls on home computer.Nov 2006 I find another women's phone number on cell phone bill. December 2006 starts, going to strip clubs on a regular basis. Find strippers phone number(Only stops because I protest, and I know he's been lying to me) Dec 2007 Finding women's make up on husbands shirts (which I save , by the way) Feb 2007 find Text message Happy Valentines 2 U! March 2007 buy's laptop and hides it in his company car, produces laptop a week later, says his company bought it. Hides the credit card receipit from me. History search reveals that he spends most of his work day surfing porn, and chatting with web cam girls. April 2007 lies about where he ate lunch.
He posts his picture and activates his fullblown profile adult friend finder website.
I confront husband about hurtfull things.
He says he has done nothing wrong and I'm insecure.

I leave him.

2007-09-13 04:21:47 · 15 answers · asked by Only Natural 1