We have been arguing alot here lately. Last friday his friend put his hands around my neck and he started jerking my neck back and forth. My husband said that he was just playing around. But I don't care if he was playing around or not. I don't like it when a guy puts his hands aroud my neck. My husband he still goes around him and thats what most of our arguements are over. Does anyone have any advice for me. I hope this makes sense.
2007-09-13 06:26:22 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
My husband didn't even say much to him when he put his hands around my neck. Last night me and my husband got into an argument. Last night i brought up him wanting to move that boy in and he said yea because I wasn't going to get up and work.
2007-09-13 06:30:40 · update #1
And that guy knows that I have neck problems and so does my husband.
2007-09-13 06:40:00 · update #2
My husband knows that I don't like it when guys put there hands around my neck. And he thinks that I should tell the guy what I thought about it. We live with my grandma and my grandma she was about ready to go out there and tell that guy to leave my husband came in the house and I told him that he needs to tell that guy to leave before my grandma does and he got mad. When the guy left so did my husband he went to that guys house.I like to know how I am suppose to talk to him when I don't even go around him. And I am afraid to tell him what I thought about it because he might put his hands around my neck again.
2007-09-13 06:55:55 · update #3
I'd think that your HUSBAND would have a problem with another man putting his hands on you like that!!!!
This is a serious problem!!
2007-09-13 06:30:22 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 4⤊ 1⤋
Your husband should not have stuck up for him. He should have told him that he cannot do that to you. Playing around or not you did not like it and that should be enough. Jerking your head and neck is not a joke.He could have hurt you. You are not first priority to him. Do not let people touch you when you do not want touched. If there is ever a next time use your knees girl. My husband would have man handled him on the spot.Does he understand why you are upset? If he does not care you need to take a hard look at your marriage. What else would he let other people do to you? Why are your feelings here not important? If he told him that you did not like it and not to do it again that is one thing and you should let it go but if he didn't I think you have a problem. Good luck.
2007-09-13 06:42:32 · answer #2 · answered by kim h 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have a bad neck and your husband let another guy do that?
If that was not followed by a stern butt chewing from your husband you have some serious problems.
I think you should put your foot down and stop that Ahole from
stepping foot in your house. If husband does not want to do that you may need to call the cops and get a restraining order on both of them.
2007-09-13 06:45:00 · answer #3 · answered by Flagger 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First off, you're married to a weak asshole who won't even stand up for you, and his friend stepped in and acted out what they would LIKE to do to you, if they only had the balls to do so. If some "friend" of my husband's put his hands around MY neck, my husband would probably be in jail right now. Your husband's friend is acting out what he would like to do to you, and probably WILL do to you at some point. This is how women get hurt. This is how men end up in court, telling the judge, "I'm sorry but things just got out of hand." And this is how women find themselves laying in a hospital on life-support or having major surgery for a broken neck. Don't make light of this. This is serious and if you EVER find yourself in this position again, leave the scene immediately. THIS IS HOW DOMESTIC VIOLENCE BEGINS. It doesn't have to be your husband that does it. It's STILL domestic violence.
2007-09-13 06:36:56 · answer #4 · answered by ? 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If this is your husband's friend, don't try to keep your hubby away from him. It will only cause a fight. Instead, try to explain to your husband that regardless of his friend playing around or not... you DID NOT like it. That can't be argued, it's a fact. Maybe he can tell his friend this so that it won't happen again. If he blows it off, then don't be bothered with his friend, YOU don't have to be around him.
2007-09-13 06:32:47 · answer #5 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Dear Sunshine, it has been my expierence in life that men stick together no matter what. Your husband does not seem to care about your safety. Maybe he didn't think his friend was actually going to hurt you but, how far would he let him go before his friend did? Now he want's the guy to move in. It's time for you to move out honey, for your safety's sake. He want's you gone so go.
2007-09-13 06:43:27 · answer #6 · answered by ? 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Your husband should not let another man put his hands around your neck. Talk it over with your husband to see what he says. Explain to him that you will not put up with his friend's mess. I hope all goes well.
2007-09-13 06:32:20 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your husband sounds like a total knob.
I agree with someone else's advice that you need to call the police when you are assaulted. If someone chokes you and thinks it's funny, that's just disturbing.
2007-09-13 06:32:52 · answer #8 · answered by Joe Bostonian 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
OMG! No one needs to put up with that. Your husband needs to get over that "bros before hos" highschool crap and stand up for you. If he doesn't, I really don't think he is worth your time. If my man's friend ever did that, I would have to hurt him (the friend) and if my man didn't take up for me, I would leave him. Ask him who he would rather snuggle up to at night, his sexy woman or some hairy dude (his friend).
2007-09-13 06:33:01 · answer #9 · answered by Brooke 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Have quiet dinner with your husband. Discuss the the episode. While discussing this episode, ask your husband if he has a pair of BALLS!!!.........Sounds like your husband is either scared or doesnt love you enough to take up for his wife. Ask him if he would like to have sex with his friend or YOU!......P.S. You better check if he has balls, either way he answers.
2007-09-13 06:42:34 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋