We are forever hearing about Male-Female violence,how come so little is said about Female-Male violence.I have a co-worker who's wife beats the crap out of him.
2007-09-13 05:03:25 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I feel so bad for him because all of our other co-workers laugh at him because of it.
2007-09-13 05:13:06 · update #1
Men are afraid to say anything. There was a lifetime movie years and years ago called men cry in the dark or men cry alone something like that about it. Also people are prejudice and have stereotypes in their minds. When and if a man calls the cops in some parts of the country they think he is lying or they don't come out. In my city if the cops are called to a domestic disturbance who ever looks more beat up the other one is taken it or they are both charged. They recognize that women can and do hit men. Also many people were raised that it is ok for a girl to hit a guy if she is mad. He is just supposed to take it. I was raised that no matter who hits you you hit them back. If a woman is man enough to hit a man then she is man enough to take a hit back from one. A man is not supposed to sit there and take abuse
PS stop asking so many good questions during work hrs You are going to get me fired LOL
2007-09-13 05:53:58 · answer #1 · answered by Big Daddy R 7 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I studied this phenomenon in college, and at that time (5 yrs. ago), studies suggested that there was an equal amount of men being abused as there were women.
I only located on book fully committed to male victims called Abused Men (can't remember author). The bottom line was that most of the previous responses to your answer were what the book suggested.
One thing I did not see was the cultural acceptance of abuse. In some instances, it can be viewed as comedy. As long as men are willing to accept to be treated in that manner, it will unfortunately continue.
I hope there will come a time when males stand up and say they will not tolerate being treated like that, just as many women have done. But there are still many women out there who tolerate being abused too. I guess that's why it's referred to as the Cycle of Violence because it continues to go round and round with no ending in sight.
2007-09-13 12:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I was in a relationship with a women that was bipolar. I was NEVER embarrassed to admit that she would hit me. I had black eyes and the whole deal. She liked the sucker punch method. The only reason I would withhold anything from anyone was to protect her. A man can take a beating from a women and if he truly cares about her than he usually won't go around telling people about this dysfunctional behaviour she has. In some cases, however, the man plays the exact role of a women and is trapped in an abusive relationship.
2007-09-13 12:23:06 · answer #3 · answered by justin ohio 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
The reason is simple. Men usually dont like to speak of things like that, as it makes then look weak, most men have a hard enough time talking about feelings as it is, but this is a really big stigma that men wont talk about. I dont agree with any forms of violence, i suggest you could have a private word with him and let him know that your there if he needs a friend to talk too.
2007-09-13 13:09:26 · answer #4 · answered by mr_scotsguy 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Some women practice a lot of physical violence towards children and even adult men, but the most usual is that they use psychological violence towards husbands and children, manipulation, for example, don't letting exhusband visit their children, or insults, or victimism... one of my uncles in Spain suffered that kind of violence and he had an unhappy life because he didn't dare to divorce because he knew he would lost his daughter forever.
2007-09-13 19:13:11 · answer #5 · answered by wazup1971 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because like breast cancer, the gender bias is definitely in the other direction.
Furthermore, men are horrified that reporting the abuse would expose them as being wimps, or whatever, and they - being men - don't want the world to perceive them as being weak.
If your friend refuses to do anything about his situation, then there's really nothing to be done. Just as with women, until the person WANTS to change their circumstances, NOTHING you do or say is going to make a difference.
2007-09-13 12:12:23 · answer #6 · answered by Brutally Honest 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Because typically its the male beating the female. Thats how its been for years. And plus who is really going to believe the female beat up the guy. I know it happens and all but its just not as typrical as the man beating the woman.
2007-09-13 12:08:25 · answer #7 · answered by Susana M. 4 · 1⤊ 2⤋
that is why we do not hear about it, men do not want to share that there wife does that. People think that women do not have the strength to be able to do that but they do and also emotional abuse as well. Tell him to get out it is bad that people do not take this serious and I wish him the best and he deserves better.
2007-09-13 12:17:25 · answer #8 · answered by xyz 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It is far less common, but it does happen. Your co-worker should report his wife for spousal abuse. She needs psychiatric help to control her rage, and he needs therapy to build his self-esteem. They will also need marriage counseling if there is any hope to saving the marriage (if that's what they both want).
2007-09-13 12:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by kja63 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
The sad thing is, if the man fights back, then the woman will probably call the cops and have him arrested.
No-win situation. The guy should move out or something...that's ridiculous.
2007-09-13 13:31:06 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋