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Who do you trust...The accusser or your husband? This is something that supposedly happened before we were married. Either way this can't be ignored.

2007-09-13 05:06:06 · 27 answers · asked by deme081475 1 in Family & Relationships Marriage & Divorce

27 answers

Ask him to try it on you

2007-09-13 05:09:39 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 2 18

Why has it been brought up now? Why didnt the girl get a rape kit done and your man get a dna swab taken? The past is the past. Look through the windscreen not the revision mirror. Chances are this person is just causing trouble. There is a no tolerance for rape an and allagation like this would have been treated seriously. Dont worry about it. Is there any features on your husband you would only know about? Ask her if she remebers that birthmark on his stomach wink wink and catch her out

2007-09-13 12:16:48 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

My husband cheated on me and I found out and confronted both my husband and the girl. And now since he is not messing around with her anymore she is saying that he told her he has 2 counts of rape which thats not true I contacted the courts and everyone and there was nothing. So the person might be trying to get back at him for something. So if there is no proof of rape then belive your husband

2007-09-13 18:09:02 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

What is your gut feeling? Have you noticed that you husband has any violent tendencies? Did you ever feel any tension between the two parties that you couldn't understand?
And what about this other person? What is your relationship with her? Does she have anything to gain by telling you this?
Is she in a miserable situation herself? If she is a friend then I would not accuse my husband of what she's alleging. Ask yourself those questions and see what you come up with.
Also, once you come up with those answers, you need to find out what action you feel like you need to take if it's true.
Are you really willing to risk your trust and marriage over something someone said with no proof?

2007-09-13 12:14:43 · answer #4 · answered by MoonGoddess 4 · 0 0

This is something to be talking to a counselor about and with your husband...not with strangers who do not know you or your husband. How long have you been married? Do you trust your husband? Is he a honest man that you can believe? Get into counseling now and try to figure things out in a mature way.

Good luck...

2007-09-13 12:12:20 · answer #5 · answered by melodyahol 6 · 0 0

before you were married, and before you met as well? was this a young girl below the age of 18, or older? an ex interest? hmmm... are charges being pressed, or is this just a verbal accusation? if it happened before he met you, and he did rape her, again, this is his past, and it should be forgiven, if this was before he met you... now, if it's a child, or teenager, before he met you, that's is a whole other story, he's a sick man! If he says he didn't do it... and this happened after you met him yet before you married, there may be some truth to the matter, like, he cheated on you or something... oh boy... time will tell... I need a few more facts to help advise, you, though...

2007-09-13 12:30:43 · answer #6 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0 0

Ouch! That's a tough one. You have my thoughts & prayers.

If the accusation has just come out now, there will be little physical evidence to support the victim's claim. However, the police will investigate and your husband will have to answer questions.

If you can, I urge you to stand by your husband during this time. "Innocent until proven guilty" is afforded to all defendents by our court system. I think it's the least a wife can do as well.

2007-09-13 12:14:10 · answer #7 · answered by kja63 7 · 0 0

This is a very serious accusation, and definitly do not ignore this. I'ts not a matter of who you should trust right now, It's a matter of a crime that could have happened. Don't stop until you find the truth or it will be something that haunts you daily. Keep investigating this issue.

2007-09-13 12:14:47 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I would just be supportive, rape is a very touchy subject and if he feels like he didn't rape her, than hold his hand and be there for him. You know his character and whether or not his is the type of person that would force his self on a woman, so just use your own judgment into whether or not he did or didn't. If he has always been a gentlemen to you, then this really shouldn't effect your relationship.

2007-09-13 12:13:36 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0 0

I would need to know more about the person who is doing the accusing. Is she trying to get back at your husband? Is she jealous that he found you? Is she trying to break you two up? Was there a child, is she trying to getting child support? Maybe she is just a psycho, lunatic.

Stand by your husband, if you believe him.

2007-09-13 12:21:32 · answer #10 · answered by paulaj2006 3 · 1 0

ok, ive said this before, i was raped repeatedly for 10 yrs. by my own father.

this is not an issue that CAN be ignored, i would trust my hubby but only to some extent. if he has nothing to hide , why not ask him to take a lie detector test?

this will put u both at peace, with urselves and that person that is accusing him.
♀♥♂

2007-09-13 12:12:18 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 2 0

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