separated men or divorced men with kids get upset when he is forced to or chooses to pay support to his children? What do you expect? Do you expect his ex wife to suddenly decide that because he now has more kids he does not have to be financially responsible for his first family? Try putting yourself in the ex wife's shoes and see how you would feel.
2007-09-13 10:28:42 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
You are the ex-wife, right? First off every man needs to own up to his responsibilities, and accept them. He needs to accept the fact he cheated on you , had kids with someone else, and he is a dirty rotten scoundrel for turning his back on you and not paying child support.
See a lawyer, do everything for your children, they are innocent. There will come a time when he will be in deep thought and realize that he has done wrong in cheating and turning his back on you. That moment will come when the woman he cheated with cheats on him and he finds out. Once a cheater, ALWAYS a cheater.
2007-09-13 10:39:40 · answer #1 · answered by I tell it like it is 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The percentage of divorce rates for 2nd marriages from 1st marriage divorce rate's are higher so , in the end the one's who whinge and whine about having to lose money to their spouse's kid's from an ex are more then likely going to find out what it's like to fight a new g/f or a 3rd wife for their own child support after it's split between the 1st wife's kid's and their own kid's so this argument has kinda run it's course with me .
They knew what they were getting into when they married , they knew there would be financial sacrifices and even though they live in fantasy land hoping it wont effect them , they find it will.This is also 1 of the major contributing factor's to 2nd marriages going under , because 98% of the time the 1st wife got the house , the car , the dog , the cat , the furniture , the kid's , child support and in most countries allimony, so you've come into a situation where the man is already financially in ruin.
When I left my 1st husband I let him keep it all it was easier then fighting for it he ws to emotionally abusive.When my 2nd husband and I finally put our claim's through court he will keep everything he had left when his 1st wife done ripping him to shreds financially , I own 2 tv's , the car , a fridge/freezer , 5 single bed's and my bed and the dog and the cat so when I go thats what I'll take.Thats MY choice.
I have to laugh though at most of the posts about this subject for the simple fact that most of the 2nd wive's are stating their man has to pay for 1 ex's kid's and I think well damn girl how'd ya be if he had kid's to more then 1 chick before you came along? my 2nd husband had 1 son to his 1st wife and a daughter to a previous girlfriend so his money was split between both of mother's .
I didnt complain it was their money they deserved it pity their mum's didnt use it on them but you cant control where the money goes , yet.
Anyways my point is if you cant look at the whole box dont jump in and duct tape yourself in for a committment your not willing to make sacrifices for because punishing the kid's isnt something you want on your conscience.
2007-09-13 11:50:56 · answer #2 · answered by JadeyOz 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
whether it be the men or the women paying child support they should pay it ..hey its not the childs fault that the parents cant be responsible and do whats right ....there are alot of deadbeat parents out there because society has made it look like its okay to just get a divorce or sleep around and have kids with just whoever, and its not !!!!!!!!!! some people just have no respect for themselves and it is sad .....but thats our society ...now !!!!
2007-09-13 13:21:24 · answer #3 · answered by pepsifan62003 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I am currently dating a man that is going through a divorce and I applaud him for paying over a $1000/monthly to his soon to be ex-wife for child support. I have absolutely no problem with it if he didn't take care of his kids with her I would have a problem with it.
2007-09-13 10:41:30 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
The question you should ask is why married men have affairs. It takes two. Most married men who cheat weren't viciously pursued, and some married men look to other women and not tell them they're married. Don't blame the women, or at least, don't take the burden off the men who cheat.
2007-09-13 10:35:09 · answer #5 · answered by Allison P 4 · 3⤊ 1⤋
they get involved because they want what the wife had, they get upset when he has to pay support because it is less money for them to spend. the other woman expects the wife to fend for herself, what do u expect from a woman who persues a married man anyway? she already has shown she has no character or conscience, or sense of fairness.
2007-09-13 11:09:43 · answer #6 · answered by jude 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
The get involved because there is no commitment in married men. They may think they hope for it, but in reality they don't.
2007-09-13 10:37:04 · answer #7 · answered by K M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i agree. my bf has children with other people and he pays.. and it is not court ordered.. they were never married.. my self i think he should wait until they go to court that way he will have his rights as a father..but he wants to pay.. so go ahead
2007-09-13 14:21:34 · answer #8 · answered by vis 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
okay what is the question again?? Oh men getting involved with other women while married...ummm I think it's because they dont care...they see a guy that is willing to give them attention. they are selfish.
2007-09-13 11:09:12 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
they are not called Women they are called Skanks
2007-09-13 10:46:59 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 3⤋