My boyfriend of three years decided to move on with his life. We have been in a long distance relationship for a year. He did not tell me he is moving on; however, he is giving some hints. I have been asking (begging) for the truth and reasons. He does not want to tell me. I am upset and heart broken. I am wriing this letter for him. What do you think?
P.S. English is my second langauge.
Hi Hun,
I am sorry to annoy you again. I just want to say "Good Bye" My dream is over and it's time for me to wake up.
I do not angry at you at all. Actually, I want to thank you for everything. Well, I am now going to focus on the future ( work and school). Hopefully, I find someone I really like and be able to open up to him :)
I wish you all the best also. You are a great person. I am sure you will be successful one day. Keep up the good work Hun :)
Thank you,
Me
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Thank you so much for your kindness.
2007-09-13 13:34:55 · 18 answers · asked by Hope 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Since you ask my advice, I will give it.
Do not send this letter, or any letter. I know that you are upset and heartbroken, and those emotions are very real. However, the fact that you are upset and heartbroken will not change his plans, unless he stays with you from guilt or not wanting to hurt you. That is not healthy for either of you.
You have asked for the truth, and he has not told you. No answer is an answer. If someone ever asked me if I wanted to leave and I said nothing, wouldn't she know that my answer is "Yes, but I do not want to discuss it with you."
You have begged him to tell you the truth. By begging, you have given away your power.
There are lots of other men out there, who will treat you the way you deserve to treated--with love bordering on reverence, with unswerving unselfish devotion, and all the stuff that love is supposed to be--and can be.
2007-09-13 13:46:07 · answer #1 · answered by Pagan Dan 6 · 4⤊ 0⤋
Great letter. I am sorry it happened to you! I just made a few grammatical improvements. Good luck. You're a strong woman who apparently doesn't hold grudges. Very commendable.
Hi Hun,
I am sorry to annoy you again. I just want to say "Good Bye". My dream is over and it's time for me to wake up.
I am not angry at you at all. Actually, I want to thank you for everything. Well, I am now going to focus on the future ( work and school). Hopefully, I find someone I really like and I will be able to open up to him :)
I wish you all the best also. You are a great person. I am sure you will be successful one day. Keep up the good work Hun :)
Thank you,
Me
2007-09-13 20:42:17 · answer #2 · answered by Mandy 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I think you are being much too kind. If he is not telling you, then he has already gone.
I don't think he deserves a goodbye letter from you. I would suggest that you completely drop the issue and wait about six weeks. You might hear from him again. Please do not call him at all. In my opinion, he has done you wrong. Begging only makes the matter worse. He is thriving on the fact that he has hurt you. Don't give him another chance to ruin your life. Your are just building his ego by writing him.
I wish I could hug you to make it better but I had a similar thing happen to me and he was cheating on me the whole time. Of course, it did break my heart but I got over it. He really wasn't worth it. If he comes back to you, make sure he is sincere. Don't worry about the points. I don't care about getting the points. I just wanted to tell you what I said because I have been there and don't want you to make mistakes I made.
2007-09-13 20:49:45 · answer #3 · answered by makeitright 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think your letter is too kind for him. For a guy that decided to move on without telling you the reason behind, the letter is way to nice. If I was you I will say this: I just wanted to send you this letter to say good bye. Since it didn't work out between us, I wish you well in your future. I am now going to now focus on my future (work and school). Hopefully I will find someone who is going to care for me, and that will open up to me.
I wish you the best, and I'm sure you will be successful one day. Thank you. Your name.
2007-09-13 20:51:41 · answer #4 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds as if you are telling him that everything from here on is down hill for you. B.S. what about you. Maybe he was a great guy, but not the right guy. He has made that clear buy trying to move on without you. You sound as if you put allot of yourself into this relationship. That is a good thing , now in the future you will find someone that does the same for you. It's gonna hurt for awhile bet it will get better. Spend time taking care of yourself now since you took so much time taking care and feeling form him. Now its your turn. Good luck.
2007-09-13 20:47:34 · answer #5 · answered by braindamageblue 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The letter sounds fine - probably nicer than he deserves........
Unless you call EVERYONE "hun" you might want to change that. It might not be the right thing to call the person who broke your heart. I wouldn't appologize for "annoying" him, either. Unless you've called him over and over again since this happened, you have every right to say your goodbye. Don't be sorry - just do what you need to do to get the closure you need to move on.
Since you're not SURE he's breaking up (you said he hasn't really told you right out) you might want to mention that you feel like that's the way things are headed -- in case you're wrong and something else is going on with him.
Good luck!
2007-09-13 20:46:03 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, scratch the letter. No letter, no letter. Just back off peacefully and for goodness sake no more begging unless it's him trying to come back to you. It is obvious he has moved on and now it is time for you to put your heart back together and move on. First rule you have to love you and make you happy remember you only go through this life once and you may as well have some fun while doing so. Cheer up there is a Mr. Right out there for you and he's probably been eying you for some time, you just haven't noticed him. Start focusing on yourself and things you like to do. You are going to get through this and look back and say what was I thinking?
2007-09-13 21:01:19 · answer #7 · answered by Titus12 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Leave out the 'I am sorry to annoy you'; you are assuming it will annoy him. I think you are acting in a mature adult manner in not being bitter, but looking at the good you had in your relationship and wishing him well. The letter is fine.
Now, as to you - you need to turn the page and start a new chapter in your life; one without him. You have your entire future ahead of you and I know you will be successful in whatever your goals are.
2007-09-13 22:13:41 · answer #8 · answered by pussycat 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its ok, i would take out the "sorry to annoy you"
I would put in " Well since you are giving me no reason as to why you have ended our relationship, i will be the bigger person here......" etc etc.
You need to sound a little strong as, the whole sorry and dream is over kinda sounds like you want him to get the guilts and rekindle the romance!!!
Like you said end it, move on and find someone who loves you for you!!
Best of luck
2007-09-13 20:41:10 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't write him a letter. He's not giving you the truth, so don't give him anything. Don't call, don't answer his calls, don't write. Move on to better things. You're in a great time of your life, and a crappy boyfriend is just holding you down. You need to focus on your studies and having a great time with friends. You also need to get to know yourself before you commit to giving someone a part of you. You're young, enjoy life and don't give idiot men the time of day, because you're too fabulous for them!
2007-09-13 20:49:02 · answer #10 · answered by Navy Wife 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋