How are you coping? What was the end result?
2007-09-13 13:17:55 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I've been married for 15 yrs. I feel nothing for my husband. I feel like we're just friends. He says he still loves me and gets angry cuz I don't love him anymore. I got this way when he became verbally abusive and I woke up one day and realized how controlling he had become.
I take one day at a time. I live for my kids. I find myself protecting them from his anger spells. I have fun w/ the kids and put them first.
I'm hoping the end result is divorce... but we've been in counseling for 3 yrs. (That's when he wants to go that is.)
We only go when he agrees w/ the therapist.
I pray alot for strength and guidance.
2007-09-13 13:30:36 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I have and I don't know the end result. He has tried many times to get things back on track but always goes back to the same old thing. I was divorced once before so doing it again makes me feel like I am disposing husbands. That is not the case. I always thought he was the one that changed but realized it was me that changed. He was always moody, mean, and rude to me. He had many good moments but now all I see are the bad. I guess sometimes you just put up with it until you break. A volcano will errupt when it has too much pressure. My pressure is getting to that point! I am just here right now. We do have a son together and i would like to stay for his sake but I would also like for my son to experience true love in his life. He is not learning that here in this household.
We have tried counsoling and other suggestions from friends that know of our troubles. I just need to stop feeling sorry for him and start thinking of me. LIFE IS TOO SHORT!
2007-09-13 22:23:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
yep. it happens. good thing is, you can get it back. in my case, i just thought about it for a while. i wondered why i felt that way. turned out, i did still love him, but differently, more. i realized that it was the ever popular rut getting me down. not my husband at all. i made the extra affort to be more loving and responsive and he reciprocated. it was like falling in love again. the end result, still together and celebrating our 24th ann. next month
2007-09-13 20:40:35 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Coping as well as I can.. Sad, but true. End result is live in an atmosphere of hi, how are you, bye.
2007-09-13 20:28:16 · answer #4 · answered by AdultMale 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he was my first love. gotten married and had 1 son with him. got separated after 4years of marriage. lost the love and trust. after almost 2 years of our separation, we decided to get back together for the sake of our son. with no love and trust, i find it very difficult. i cant feel a thing for him. i am not happy but will give it another try for our son. i will take it a day at a time.
2007-09-13 20:49:26 · answer #5 · answered by me_adoreu 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, after 10 years of marriage I fell out of love with my husband. We tried everything talking, counseling, time apart, changing our habits, etc. Nothing worked and I divorced him at 12 years.
Everyone is different, but for me, once it's gone, it's gone. My life is much happier without him. I don't regret it at all.
2007-09-13 20:31:59 · answer #6 · answered by Black Kitten 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES!!!! but IF you want to keep your marriage you have to work at it..fight for it even. I would suggest reading the book 'The Five Love Languages: How to Express Heartfelt Commitment to Your Mate' by Gary Chapman..it has helped me tremendously! If you would like someone to talk with please feel free to email me!
good luck!
2007-09-13 21:54:57 · answer #7 · answered by iowagal 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
am really tryin hard to put bits and pieces back again but eversince the beginnin of the relationship has workin one sided only warfreak I supposed.I would not allow this to happen in my entire life ever again.
2007-09-13 20:36:38 · answer #8 · answered by yellowfeather_27 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
how do u knw me so well i have fallen out of love with my wife actually i dont know if i ever loved her.
you stay Classy.........
2007-09-13 20:26:43 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋