i did by myself auto plates with my favorite band on it. i told him i would say its from him. but he never actually takes the time out to buy me something on his own. not even a card. kind of makes me wonder. oh he went golfing with his friends on my birthday. then came home to sleep till he went into work. maybe im dumb, but do most men do things for their wifes?
2007-09-13 18:07:12 · 24 answers · asked by flowerlegz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
HE DID NOT FORGET it was my bday, he just promised to take me out for dinner and decided to golf with his friends from work... come home to sleep then went to work afterwards. so i was hurt and let down....
2007-09-13 18:27:05 · update #1
Yes they do, Sometimes we have to make the plans because usually they are not real good at that stuff, but in your case, your hubby just dumped on you.
You need to let him know how your feel and how thoughtless he was about your "40th" birthday.
He sounded pretty darn selfish to me.
Treat yourself to something really nice and use his charge card!! lol
Happy 40th Birthday
2007-09-13 18:13:35 · answer #1 · answered by kitty 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That was pretty rude of him. I guess it's about expectations which can be different for each couple. I turned 40 last weekend and I made the request for no gifts (I have everything I need and I'm not a material girl) and no hallmark cards (I prefer something more personal) My husband wrote me a beautiful love letter and we took the kids to the park that day. We came home and made dinner together and went to bed early (wink wink). Let him know that it upset you and give him the chance to make it up. His actions shouldn't be a big surprise if he's been like this all along. If you want him to change, be the change yourself. Treat yourself better. Spoil yourself. We can't expect others to make us happy, only add to it. I've been with my husband for 20 years and its just in the last few years that he really "gets" what I want and need for special occasions. He thought it was about spending money and I kept telling him it was about spending time. Keep at it and maybe your husband will eventually realize what you need as well. While he's learning it, find out what he needs.....and maybe together you'll have a more enjoyable 41st. :)
Btw...
Happy Birthday!
2007-09-14 01:39:18 · answer #2 · answered by oracleofohio 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
That would hurt my feelings. My husband isn't exactly the greatest guy but he always buys me a bday gift and takes me out to dinner. NOW how important is it really? Is he a great guy for the most part. Does he make you feel loved in other ways? If so, then just let it go. If he is not giving you what you need in other area's though I would question your marriage. It's up to you to decide if this is something really worth being bugged about. I would take a husband that treats me with respect and love on a daily basis but forgets bdays any day over a husband that remembers but treats me like crap most days.
2007-09-14 01:17:08 · answer #3 · answered by Desiderata 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
My husband took me out to eat for my big "40" in August. We have only been married for a year though so everything is still pretty new. I do hope it doesn't change though. I go all out on everyone birthday and would like the same for mine.
2007-09-14 11:23:47 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I guess I really am lucky then. Yesterday was my 46th birthday, and my husband took for lunch(he works in the evenings, so we do lunch), and he always buys me gifts. Sometimes I give him ideas, so he has things to choose from. We had a very nice lunch and spent some quality time together before he had to go to work. I have a good husband.
2007-09-14 01:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by iammom1 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
The smart ones take their wife out on their 40th birthday. Because now he is going to hear about this for the rest of his life.
My husband promised to do something for our 35 Anniversary and did nothing. He is still hearing about it and always will. It is proof of how he really feels about me as far as I can see. I am sure if he had a girlfriend he wouldn't forget her on any occasion.
2007-09-14 01:34:10 · answer #6 · answered by lily 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
I guarantee you that he would not have been able to sleep with I got through with him. Certainly he is supposed to take you out , or buy you a card and gift for EVERY birthday. If he doesn't then he is not worth giving your life to. If he can afford to play golf, he better be able to take you out. What he is doing is disrespectful to you, and you should not be letting him get by with it.
2007-09-14 01:15:42 · answer #7 · answered by PEGGY S 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Depends on the guy. How do they treat other birthdays? I, personally can't be bothered with birthdays. My own, or anyone else's. They just seem unimportant. Sometimes I feel obligated to do stuff. I don't do valentines day. My wife knows it. She gets treated on other (non commercial) days.
2007-09-14 01:13:30 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
trust me unless he just doesn't care anymore he is being the typical man. On my 40th b-day I was wined and dined, flowers,gifts and given that special attention all weekend. But let me tell you why, first I reminded the kids that my b-day was coming and I knew they would remind him then I called his Secretary and told her to put on his calender. So next time throw out a few more hints I
2007-09-14 01:25:18 · answer #9 · answered by LovelyChoc 2 · 0⤊ 2⤋
maybe you need to take the first step by asking him out on a date instead or have a talk with him on how you feel!
i've been married 20yrs and we celebrate my birthday every year as it is also our wedding anniversary, we also make it a point to go dating once or twice a month like to the movies, stroll at the beach or drive out to have supper and so on...
best of luck!!!
2007-09-14 01:18:05 · answer #10 · answered by bec 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋