I am shocked that I found my husband have a profile on richromances.com by chance. I am very disappointed. Please help! what should I do to deal with this. I love my husband....help
2007-09-10 15:51:44 · 15 answers · asked by susanloveal 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I'm sure you do love him, but it appears all too clear that he doesn't love you.
My advice? Go to the top five divorce attorneys in your town and have a free consultation with each of them. Then he can't use any of them.
Make copies of any and all financial records, including his 401k and other retirement accounts.
Copy the hard drive of the computer onto a CD.
Then divorce his ***.
2007-09-10 21:22:08 · answer #1 · answered by ddd 874 587 545 543 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You should divorce him. You may love him but you'll only get hurt in the end. If you really really think you can't divorce him, then insist that you get counseling. If he wont' go, divorce him. You should never tolerate being cheated on.
I would bring it up to him first though and see what he has to say. When my boyfriend was in France, he signed up for adultfriendfinder.com for some erotic stories they post there. It required that he fill out a profile when he joined but he didn't have any pictures or anything about himself, just the required things. I flipped out on him because I thought he was cheating but then he explained himself and what it was for and it was okay. So he may be doing something simliar, like just using it for porn or something.
2007-09-11 13:06:38 · answer #2 · answered by abrennan01 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Something he is missing and not getting from the marriage. I'm not saying you are doing anything wrong in-fact most of the time the wife is doing everything right it's the husband that has the problem.He is the one that thinks he is missing all the fun that is going on out there. It always comes down to sex,having sex with someone different. 9out of 10 husbands think nothing is wrong with having sex with another female because that's all it is to them so in their wrap minds they are not doing anything wrong that's how so many men justify their actions. If they think nothing is wrong with it why hide it from the wife. I know you love your husband and even more now that you think he might be cheating on you,but sad to say husbands have been doing this for ever and they get away with it because they tell their wives they would never do anything to hurt you and like the fools we are we believe them.Now that you know what are you going to do about it,believe him when he tells you he would never cheat even though odds are he has already or tell him to get the hell out of your house,don't even think you know your husband because you don't so look at it that way and go from there.
2007-09-10 23:24:40 · answer #3 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 2⤋
You should definately talk about it. notto soudn mean, btu if he's looking on that site, sounds like he's going to cheat on you and that right there would be a big "We're through" or he'd better get some counseling. Maybe things can be worked out, but that is definately a trust crusher.
Good Luck!
P.S. all the fake profile ideas from everybody are great, that way you can see if he's really going to cheat on you.
2007-09-10 23:00:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Open a fake profile and contact him see how far he will take it then go from there, if you don't you will always wonder exactly what he was doing on there. I know this probably sounds kind deceiving but he is doing the same thing to you by putting a profile on there to begin with. I wish you the best
2007-09-10 23:00:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Yikes... two options... the scandalous one would be to make your own profile on the same website and then see how he behaves, possibly set up a blind date with him... and surprise... its his wife! Kinda like that Pina Colada song. Or you could just confront him. Did he have to pay for it? How extensive is the listing? Perhaps it was a free trial and he was curious? Do some research before confronting him either way. That sucks... sorry....
2007-09-10 23:00:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jade K 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
What a bummer. Sorry. Sounds like you can't trust him anymore. Sometimes people aren't who we think they really are. Not your fault. But I think you have to leave him. He's already left you, emotionally speaking.
2007-09-12 00:04:50 · answer #7 · answered by neverdecaf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Try to get him to go on a date through that site. Chances are, he'll fall for you again because he already did once, and when he finds out that it's you he'll be embarrased big time.
Wait, how did you find out? Were you browsing it too?
2007-09-10 22:58:30 · answer #8 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
respond him by different name&see what's his intentions are? he is doing it just for fun? or he really want to romance with some girl?, By the way what you were looking for in richromances.com?? I think you and your husband are same!!!
2007-09-10 23:02:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
maybe he was just checking out what type of people are on there. heck even i had to check it out!
best thing to do is talk to him about it in a non confrontational way. see how he reacts and go from there.
2007-09-10 23:00:35 · answer #10 · answered by I♥Karma 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋