They dated for several years when they were young (highschool- early college). She has contacted him occasionally through email during the past 5 years that he and I have been married. Every time she emails him I have written or called her asking her to stay out of our lives. The last time she wrote I called her and asked her why she insisted on contacting him in spite of me asking her not to... she was nasty to me and hung up the phone on me. I want to set this jerk straight. We have 2 young children and we are happy, I just wish I could live life without having to hear from her. HELP!
2007-09-10 15:34:48 · 23 answers · asked by Jade K 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Unfortunately, some people have no decency. Your husband will have to be the one to put a stop to it. He should have done so already. She wouldn't keep e-mailing if he didn't keep responding. He could even change his e-mail address and not have to worry about it any more. It isn't your place to stop her. You just come off looking insecure. You just have to insist on him taking care of it. If he won't, then your issue is with him, not her.
2007-09-10 15:52:01 · answer #1 · answered by Yomi 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Oh how I wish I know how we can stop these ex-girlfriends from emailing our husbands!!!!
How I wish we could live our lives too without having to hear from them....
Sad to say, but our husbands should tell them to stop emailing and get lost! I wish my husband would do that. You're lucky you get to call her and ask her to stop... I'm trying hard not to call my husband's ex because I will get really nasty to her and tell her to back off.
If she is really bothering you then tell your husband to make her stop because she won't listen to you. I hope my husband will get rid of his ex too for good because just thinking about her is a nightmare to me.
Women like them don't have the decency to just stay out of our husband's lives. They deserve a good kick in their A s S.
In my case, I honestly don't think I would put up with 5 years knowing that they still communicate. If that is the case with me, I'll be glad to get out of the picture and I'll be nice enough to let the 2 of them be together since they can't live without each other... I am bitter, it's so obvious. That's how much I hate them!
2007-09-10 15:53:38 · answer #2 · answered by ♥♥♥MiSSY♥♥♥ 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok theres 2 ways to handle this.. 1. u change the email account.. or 2. u block her emails..
And i cant believe two intellegent adults havent thought of this yet.. its more of a hassel to keep dealing with this problem then it would be to get a new account that she has zero access to.. its almost as though u both like the drama of the situation cause its so easily rectified..
2007-09-10 16:11:34 · answer #3 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It's not her problem, it's your husband. Leave her alone, you are wasting your energy on the wrong person. It takes two people to communicate. If it was bothering him like it's bothering you, he would have deleted his old email address and got a new one. He likes being in touch with her and there is nothing you can do about it, obviously.
2007-09-10 15:43:58 · answer #4 · answered by KSR 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Have your husband tell her that he doesn't want her to contact him anymore, there is a good possibility that once she hears it from him and not you she might stop contact. Sometimes when the wife says to stop and not the husband that gives them the idea that the husband still wants to talk to her. I hope this helps.
2007-09-10 15:42:44 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Jade it may be necessary for your husband to tell her the same as you, to discontinue trying to contact him. If she doesn't listen to either of you then it may be necessary to contact the police and have them speak with her. In an exceptional case it may even be necessary to have a restraining order be placed on her where she cannot contact either of you through any form of communication. Best of luck to you and your husband in trying to deal with this situation.
2007-09-10 15:40:11 · answer #6 · answered by crazylegs 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Stop contacting her,it only adds fuel to the fire, especially if she was nasty before.
Whats your husbands opinion on this? He is the one who can make her stop. He could block her address if he wants, & keep the communication lines closed.
2007-09-10 15:44:53 · answer #7 · answered by gucci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is your husband's responsibility to ask his ex to stop contacting him, you should express your discomfort to your husband and he should put an end to this as it is upsetting you. You should not contact his ex and ask her to stop as it will encourage her to drive a wedge between you and your husband. Tell your husband you are insecure about it, additionally, if you have a great marriage, why are you insecure? You may want to discuss this with your husband and strengthen your marriage.
2007-09-10 15:43:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I believe that your husband needs to change his email address or block hers from coming through(report it as spam). He should take care of this. She needs to grow up.She sounds like a real loser. Good Luck.
2007-09-10 15:42:30 · answer #9 · answered by mom4gr8kidz 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
unfortunately, it is your husband's job to let her know that he doesn't want any contact with her, and not yours. Why isn't he the one telling her to stay out of your lives? Maybe you should be asking him that.
2007-09-10 15:39:19 · answer #10 · answered by Dewey 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋