Marriage & Divorce - 10 September 2007

my ex harrasses us.my sons b-day was friday(the son i have w/my new husband.)
i was at toys r us w/him on friday buying last minute stuff for his little party that nite. my cell rings i answer it thinking it was my daughter (from my ex) but it was the tricky controlling abusive ex. he said oh can shelby go with us to disneyland (shelby is my daughter no his but he wanted her to go w/them (my ex and our daughter)and invite my daughter that is not his...i said no because today is my sons b-day and the girls and him r supposed to have cake n ice cream n dinner here for tonight. he said tough sh!t u can bump ur party plans for later. i said our lives do not revolve areound ur life dale! he said look shut up let me tell u what plans we have n u need to do it this way or else i will get revenge on u. i hung up. then he called n said i am gonna call the cops on u and make something up just so to ruin ur party w/ur son. i hung up. then cherie called n said mom pick us up now. i said ok ...

2007-09-10 08:06:28 · 7 answers · asked by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4

i shared my house with my man and all 6 of his closest friends on a daily basis and when i complained over and over it never made too much of a difference.
well my bestfriend introduced me to 3 of her coworkers that she would go and have drinks with and i joined them a couple of times. soon 1 guy started to tell me how it was a shame that i spend everyother day with them instead of home. from that day, he started to tell me all the things he would love to do with me and to me. i never took him up on it but he kept going.
when he brought a new car, he came to my house alone and tried to take me out and my bf got mad and broke up with me because he can tell i like him and he likes me. being involved with him is what made me not persue any other offers but he broke up with me and moved in with his best friend. i later being single, took him up on his offer to show me a night a will never forget. he did, but now after getting back with my bf,he calls that cheating.WTF? i wouldnt have!

2007-09-10 08:05:33 · 4 answers · asked by badbitty101 2

we live in USA.last days we were out country for visiting my parents in pakistan.in my absence my husband did sex on internet n one day he called prostitute for overnight.he didnt tell me anything.he came to pakistan n we came back. we have 2 daughters.our marriage has completed approx.7yrs.when came back to our home i saw credit cards statements in which my husband used these credit cards "tickets clubs"i go through net n find what is this club n i knew that its club for mens. i asked my hubby what is all this??first he refused but after cold war between me n hubby he admitted all his behaviour....i dont want to see him but for the sake of my kids we live together.he asked forgiveness several times but my heart is not melting.so plzzzzzzzzz tell me what should i do.i love my husband

2007-09-10 07:57:21 · 27 answers · asked by maani 1

mostly men says that.. and i'm like 26 .. is it a turn off for men thats why i have non interested in me

2007-09-10 07:55:44 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Only when I initiate it we mess around about once every 6-8 weeks. We have 2 small children and both work. She claims she feels uncomfortable about her body (no reason to) and is too tired. She also said she needs more romance to put her in the mood. I genuinely understand her concerns and try to address them. With small children it is difficult to romance her the way I would like to, but I try. When we do get intimate I feel like I am molesting her. She lays there expressionless with her arms at her sides seemingly waiting for the whole thing to be over. We have been useing the silver bullet and she seems to enjoy it, but doesn't show it. She hardly kisses me back or touches me. I love her and want to make things better but she doesn't seem interested. I go to bed most nights completely frustrated because I am tired of being given the cold shoulder. She hops into bed and is usually asleep in 15 seconds and I lay awake half the night. Talking has not helped.

2007-09-10 07:49:49 · 35 answers · asked by Anonymous

Ok the love of my life and my best friend david , has always been there after he left we were both in agreence with him leaving cause his ex was pregenent and said he would never see his son if he was with any one but her. So I let him go he didnt leave me for her he left me for his child and I am ok with that. well his wife tried to kill her self again. He came to me and told me he loves me and he doesnt know what to do. I wold him to do what he feels in his heart and no matter what I would be there for him. And then I told him you know I love you I let you once and I will do it again, if that is what makes you happy. i will always be there for you. wether it be 40 years I will wait, I support your decision, he then told me I love you and I sorry to put you through all of this. Did I say the right thing? should I have told him to come home forget her. I didnt want to push him, but I wonder if I should have been more aggressive with the idea of leaving her instead of being there for hi

2007-09-10 07:39:59 · 38 answers · asked by cwilsonhappylife 3

Just now, he said the girl looked good.

This makes me feel aweful, and I am so tired of these comments.

Why does he do this? I get upset with him every time, he tells me he´s sorry, and the next night, he´s back to doing it again.

2007-09-10 07:38:18 · 61 answers · asked by Learning is fun! 4

But her 2 adult kids r MOOCHERS/SWINDLERS, they keep her broke, which = us broke, can't get her stop the $$$train!!!! 12 years now!! what should I do???????

2007-09-10 07:35:26 · 4 answers · asked by happywjc 7

i have been having fantasies of this lately. Should i mention it to her. Do women think about being with their husbands and another guy or having their husbands watch?

2007-09-10 07:08:44 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife and I have been married 10 years together for 16 and we went out to celebrate last night and spent the evening talking about how we've grown together as people,. How we've been a good influence on each other and how great our son is.

How is your marriage/relationship after say 10 years or so?

2007-09-10 05:58:28 · 20 answers · asked by St.Anger 4

I watch this kid whose mom is married to an abusive man. She refuses to leave this nut because he has her scared to death of leaving. He has threatened to burn her parents home down-also he told her if she left she would lose her son. The son is 7 years old and has serious issues with soiling his pants. She comes to pick her boy up and tells me everything this man does. She said he uses drugs-he drinks and refuses to work. She works as a manager at a fast food place. I have told her she needs to leave. I have showed her in the phone book and online resources she could tap into for help and support in leaving him. I don't know what else to do for her. She thinks she is doing the right thing for her son by staying. What else could or can I do to convince her she needs to take her son and leave? I worry about them both.

2007-09-10 05:52:19 · 26 answers · asked by Stefbear 5

I am a 32 year old man hopefully getting married to a v nice girl in about 4 months. I have been diagnosed with Obsessive compulsive disorder and chronic depression and i have told my fiance all about that EXCEPT one important detail.. One of my psychiatrists told me that he can give me in writing that my marriage will end in divorce once the honeymoon is over (especially if i am not properly controlled with medicines and psychotherapy). Currently i believe that i am about 70-80% controlled (i dont think i can ever be 100% disease free). I have a reasonable job and I am taking the meds and psychotherapy. Should i be brutally honest and tell my fiance what my psychiatrist told me or should i be more diplomatic about it or hide it from her?

2007-09-10 05:35:02 · 37 answers · asked by Bob 1

OK..so heres the deal...My fiance' shares an office with this girl..I talk to her through myspace/EMAIL, she seems nice enough. But she posts all these SLUTTY pictures of herself and her friends...in barely there clothes and teeny bikinis...(even for her main shot) and she is SO conceited because of course she has all these random guys telling her ooh hot body..hot mamma...wow..etc...

All I can think of is my fiance fantasizing about her and or her friends...asking her if she got any new pics up...how do I deal with this? HELP...plus I feel that she is being phony...because she will ask to have lunch with me...or talk to me..and she will drop little hints about my fiancee... but I cant ask her anything because of course she will run and tell him...and he will think i am spying on him..plus that is his coworker and i would never want to mess anything up at work for him.BUT if she wants to be my friend..then she should tell me something if she has something to say

2007-09-10 05:33:12 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

Is marriage a partnership of unequals between husband and wife?why? give examples

2007-09-10 05:32:45 · 14 answers · asked by Black Mamba 2

We have a great marriage when it comes to how to spend money, where to vacation, work/stay-at-home, kids, parenting, religion, sex, sharing housework, letting each other what they like(hobby, class, sport, buy something expensive).

But, when it comes to in-laws, it is total chaos. Luckily they live very far away. My husband just has to tell them stuff way ahead of time or just tell them what they don't need to know. Be it, vacation plans, a bonus, a new car, a course I am taking, any health problems I'm having. Or reasons for any investments we make.
And each time we meet them, I have to 'please be calm, we are just meeting them for a few days'. My husband just refuses to stand up for me, agrees their behaviour is wrong, but insists I take the high road.

I am dealing with it OK, just want to know is it just me or it happens to others too?

Anyone, else ,have it like this. A really, really GREAT marriage, except when it comes to in-laws?

2007-09-10 05:32:05 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous

If a married man doesn't even know this woman very much and tell her she's completelly gorgeous and ask if she's married or has a boyfriend.Do you think this is ok?

2007-09-10 05:28:52 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous

i wanted to tell someone very dear to me that his sudden distant treatment is hurting me. he said he is all right, just busy. instead of telling him am hurting for being ignored , i just told him, "i understand you" and said nothing. he was grateful for that and even said he is happy that am always there for him. was i right for telling him i understand him when in fact deep within am hurting?

2007-09-10 05:24:47 · 15 answers · asked by stel 2

Would you do EXACTLY the same ,or not,,,,!!!

2007-09-10 05:18:48 · 38 answers · asked by ? 6

He feels that since it's so long ago, he's cleared it from his mind. Obviously it's fresh in my mind and I'm furious and hurt. I found an email account he had setup that he still to this day spoke "dirty" to her on and tried to setup meetings which he swears he never went through with. He had sex with her twice while he was there. I have 2 kids and another 1 due in just a couple of weeks. I'm devastated!!! I supported our kids and was there for him while he was away and he betrayed me. He wants forgiveness but I don't know what to do. I'm trying really hard to forgive, I don't want my little ones without a mommy and daddy together forever, the pain is overbearing right now and I'm an emotional wreck from the pregnancy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!

2007-09-10 05:16:33 · 12 answers · asked by blah 2

Okay, this is strange. The neighbors invited us to their house yesterday for the game. I am not a drinker, anyhow, after a few hours my neighbor, who had been drinking the entire time....tells me she loves my husband. Loves him how???
He was at work, but I find her actions strange alot. Say the group is going to another location, she waits for him. Tells us about her and her husbands sex life etc, I don't know what to believe. How do I let her know, if she messes with him and I find out.......they will BOTH be sorry. But if you want to be my friend you don't mess with my man...geez, that is so elementary !
what do you think

2007-09-10 04:36:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-10 04:35:52 · 17 answers · asked by sarbear1975 1

I have a friend ..He is placed in a very good company and earns a lot.He is not in love with any girl...and he is physically very smart and also a talented and knowledgeable person..He is 28 now.He keeps refusing to marry...He is not telling the reason also..Can u guess why?

2007-09-10 04:31:29 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

I grew up in a strict Church of Christ home that believes that you can get a divorce but are NEVER to remarry. I don't think that this is right, I even attended a cousin's wedding that my mom and dad refused to go to because her husband had been married before.

And now I'm engaged to a man that has been married before. His ex-wife slept with another man while he was in Iraq and moved him into their home. He divorced her on his mid-tour leave two years ago. I've been trying to study about this but it's all so confusing.

I need any and all advice. Please help, even if it may not be what I want to hear.

2007-09-10 04:07:55 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I have been married for two years to my husband. Yesterday I stumbled upon old love letters from his past and the engagement ring and engagement gift of his ex girlfriend. I told him to destroy them but he refused. When I tried to destroy them my self he threw me out of the bedroom. 10 minutes later he left the house with the letters,ring and gift and returned without them I know for a fact that he went over to his mother to leave them there. His mother practically controls him and tries to control our marriage too. The peak was when she and my husband opened our wedding gifts without me. Please help:-(

2007-09-10 04:03:39 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

If I go over budget, which is usually once a month, he insists on spanking me, bare bottom for like 5 minutes. I just go along with it, but it does hurt.

2007-09-10 03:57:14 · 36 answers · asked by susan d 2

...all the questions about sex and women answer the questions about relationships. Do you think this is an accurate assumption as to what each sex finds more appealing/important in a relationship?

2007-09-10 03:57:02 · 28 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife complains all the time about everything and is depressed all the time. She is emotionally draining, but I love her and don't want to get a divorce. What should I do?

2007-09-10 03:56:46 · 18 answers · asked by chopcow 2

a little kid and blood
http://uk.youtube.com/watch?v=-fVDGu82FeQ
(if u dont trust links, go search on youtube : kid blood)

2007-09-10 03:54:52 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

This is for the women out there who may shed some light...Been married for 20 yrs. 2 children, out doing their own thing. We live in a nice home, cabin in the mtns, condo in Hawaii, Timeshare in Cabo...she drives a BMW, more Louis Vuittons and Coach purses than I care to count...Doesnt have a job, I work from home so we spend plenty of time together...and my wife treats me like crap. What gives? Now, I'm not the sensitive, new age, tears on my pillow kind of guy. I believe its my duty as a husband to be supportive, to provide, to keep her safe and I think I've done a pretty good job. But, its getting ridiculous. At some point when does she have to acknowledge that I too have needs and feelings? I'm feeling underappreciated. I get stressed too. I get tired of the same old thing. But this woman has a great life. We spend lots of time together and It seems like she doesnt care and doesnt want to hear me out sometimes. Starting to feel lonely...

2007-09-10 03:53:48 · 21 answers · asked by tony 2

I am wanting some opionions on this text habit my wife has recently developed. She text this friend of hers (man) prob. 60 times a day, mostly about nothing but bs stuff. The thing that has started to bother me is this: This wkend we spent in Dallas doing some family stuff and then going to the game. While were together driving fm place to place, she is steadily over there texting the dick. I find it very annoying and somewhat rude. She didn't bring the phone in the game with her, but as soon as it was over and we were in the car.... bam.... she was texting this dick to tell him the score. Why is she so into this sh*t with this dick? She asked if she could take a pic of me and send it to him and that started an argument bc it offended me and I told her hell no. I didn't want to send my pic to that dick. Looking 4 some feedback please.

2007-09-10 03:44:44 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous