He feels that since it's so long ago, he's cleared it from his mind. Obviously it's fresh in my mind and I'm furious and hurt. I found an email account he had setup that he still to this day spoke "dirty" to her on and tried to setup meetings which he swears he never went through with. He had sex with her twice while he was there. I have 2 kids and another 1 due in just a couple of weeks. I'm devastated!!! I supported our kids and was there for him while he was away and he betrayed me. He wants forgiveness but I don't know what to do. I'm trying really hard to forgive, I don't want my little ones without a mommy and daddy together forever, the pain is overbearing right now and I'm an emotional wreck from the pregnancy. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!!
2007-09-10 05:16:33 · 12 answers · asked by blah 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
What is this world coming to when you can't even trust a convicted felon?
2007-09-10 05:24:27 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 1⤋
Wow. That has to be so very hard on you...I'm sorry that you're going through this right now.
What you need to do is step back, sit down and just think. Right now you're overwhelmed with emotions which pregnancy is not helping at all. Think about your life and your relationship. If you think that you could eventually let this go and trust your husband again then try to work through it...although it will be extremely hard. On the other hand, if he is still trying to see this woman, he would likely cheat again...which would be more devastating the second time around.
Don't stay with him just for the kids. If that's the only reason that you keep your marriage, it is already doomed. The children will pick up on the tension and ander in the house and will be affected by it. Just because you two are not together as a family does not mean that you both can't be active participants in your life.
Good luck sweetie...it will all turn out as it should.
2007-09-10 05:25:05 · answer #2 · answered by Tina 4 · 2⤊ 2⤋
This is a hard one because out of all the advice you get you really need to look inside yourself to find the answer. If were me and my wife did that it would be over without a second thought not only for cheating on me but lying to me the whole time and or hiding it from me. Forgivness for something like that is almost impossible because how will you ever be able to trust that person again. Once a cheater always a cheater. If they can betray you once so easily and lie about it so easily then to do it again will be even easier. I will pray for you and god bless!
2007-09-10 05:43:31 · answer #3 · answered by Tim H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ditch him...he just is trying to work it out w/ you so he don't have to pay child support and alimony... he should have thought about this when he had the affair... he still has this email account and the email saved? then, obviously it's still fresh in his mind, too... because he didn't delete it... move on, find a faithful man... having a mommy and daddy is good, if they love each other and are faithful... he will do it again, girl...get out now...=)
2007-09-10 07:02:25 · answer #4 · answered by elvlayarvvi fEisty wife and mom 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice: toil over one thing at a time.
1) Decide if you can forgive him. Take nothing into consideration, not even the kids.
2) If you can or want to forgive him, get therapy to work out it, or else it will fester and simmer for the rest of your lives.
3) If you can't forgive him, leave him. The kids will be fine.
2007-09-10 05:26:09 · answer #5 · answered by Ade 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It is some insensitive people on answers today!!!!
Number one, it is very hurtful, no matter how long ago it happened. Just to see it for your own eyes the messages that he is sending and receiving could cause your heart to drop.
I know I recently found out my boyfriend cheated on me a year ago, and I cannot get it out of my mind, and you are pregnant too???
O M G!!!!
Focus on your babies, please do not do anything that will jeopardize the health of your children, stay calm, and breathe.
If he does not show true regretfulness, and understanding, do what you have to do.
2007-09-10 05:31:56 · answer #6 · answered by *HOT*GHETTO*MESS* 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
wow that has to be hard to deal with. It would be one thing if it happened two years ago and he stopped it but why did he continue it for the last two years? I would say it will be hard but you need to separate and make sure he understands that you do not deserve this. It is going to be a long road either way you decide to go, your husband cheated and you do not just forget it but if you do decide to stay you need to sit down with him and figure out how the two of you are going to make this work.
2007-09-10 05:25:25 · answer #7 · answered by xyz 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
a newborn will lull you into the concept he has replaced and so which you will end him being that prisoner.he's desiring to cheat returned and is conscious in case you took him returned in spite of everything the others while drained and in charge for a newborn's destiny you will returned.a marriage can in user-friendly terms artwork while the two certainly one of you pick for it to,no longer something you're able to do could make him view it the type you do.that's going to continually fail yet you in user-friendly terms fail in case you fail to know it can not artwork with in user-friendly terms certainly one of you attempting.You win once you admit defeat that the marriage substitute into doomed to fail and harm loose to get the form of marriage that lasts with somebody whose notice lasts.think of approximately it he says he loves you yet did no longer he say that before he married you,he substitute into cheating then.did no longer he say it early into the marriage,he substitute into cheating then.So the reason he's sorry is by using the fact he loves you.What happens after he says he loves you? he cheats.
2016-10-10 07:39:20 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Take care of baby first..then when you get a chance once your kids are older..try a trial separation.
2007-09-10 06:07:27 · answer #9 · answered by contessa 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Come on--if you were locked up and had a chance to have sex wouldn't you? I sure would.
You are married to a felon, you have two kids and one on the way and you are worried about something that happened two years ago? Honey suck it up and deal with it! Let it go and focus on 1--having a healthy child, 2--taking care of the children you already have, 3--getting a decent shape back so he isn't inclined to roam!
2007-09-10 05:24:11 · answer #10 · answered by Rebecca W 7 · 2⤊ 4⤋
He is a jack*ss! He cheated on you and isn't remorseful at all. He is still in contact with the b*tch! He doesn't love you and definitely doesn't respect you. Your kids will be better off living with one parent.....not with 2 parents where there is no love and respect.
2007-09-10 05:31:04 · answer #11 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋