Okay, this is strange. The neighbors invited us to their house yesterday for the game. I am not a drinker, anyhow, after a few hours my neighbor, who had been drinking the entire time....tells me she loves my husband. Loves him how???
He was at work, but I find her actions strange alot. Say the group is going to another location, she waits for him. Tells us about her and her husbands sex life etc, I don't know what to believe. How do I let her know, if she messes with him and I find out.......they will BOTH be sorry. But if you want to be my friend you don't mess with my man...geez, that is so elementary !
what do you think
2007-09-10 04:36:08 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Could she love him as a friend? I'm an open person and very friendly. There are many ways to love. Maybe she thinks he's cool, nice or funny. She could have just been paying you both a complement. Saying that you made a good choice in husbands. It depends on how she said it and when. Interpreting tone for some is difficult. Does she love her own? She's open with you. Be open with her. Not in a nasty way. Asking her at the time would have made the most sense. In wine there is truth... an old Latin saying. What do you mean?... Would have been appropriate. Anyway... that's over. This was just yesterday so... When you see her ask her how she is feeling from her over indulgence. Tell her she had you worried for a moment. Did she seem like a pig? If she doesn't, tactfully ask for an explanation. Is it possible that you misread her tone? If not, if you are worried about your husbands character, there are more things to worry about than your neighbor. She is the least of your worries. Your neighbors you don't have to be best friends. If you don't like her, you can just say hi once in a while. Don't be overly friendly and she'll get the hint.
Take care.
2007-09-10 05:05:50 · answer #1 · answered by Jen 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have a neighbor who is obsessed with your husband. Maybe they are swingers and you haven't found out the whole truth yet. I had swinging neighbors once and they drove me nuts until I relocated away from them. They tried on several occassions to get me to "join the two of them" and wouldn't let it go. I couldn't even walk to my car without them harrassing me. Even though she lays it out to your husband that doesn't mean he would accept her offers.
It's probably nothing but if she makes you feel uncomfortable then just don't go around them anymore.
2007-09-10 04:53:59 · answer #2 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Since you were already living there when they moved in, this proves that you cannot pick your neighbors. However, you can pick your friends. I recommend dumping these people as friends and finding a higher class of friends. You don't have to be friends with the neighborhood s|ut if you don't want to be.
2007-09-10 04:43:12 · answer #3 · answered by Happy-2 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If it were me I would just stay away from that person ..sounds like she cannot handle her drinking and if you continue hanging around her she is only going to cause trouble between you and your husband ...you really need clean nice friends to hang out with as a couple you do not need some gal telling u about her sex life that's very Private loose the gal ...shes only cause problems for u take care
2007-09-10 04:48:59 · answer #4 · answered by blugeanie923 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that she is trying to get your OK to sleep with your husband. Sort of that wife swapping thing that was popular in the 70s. Or she and her husband are trying to get you to swing with them. Ask your husband about it. Does her husband say stuff about you that way? And talk to him about it. If you know that she wants him and don;t warn the man, then you are setting him up and it isn't right or fair. Don't try to use this as a test of his love for you.
2007-09-10 07:54:23 · answer #5 · answered by Blade_III 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Flat out ask her if they are swingers or something, and just let her know that you are not into it. It sounds to me like they are making an opening invitation and feeling you guys out as to whether or not you would be interested. Don't be mad or angry when you talk to her, and do your best not to judge them. Just simply tell her that whatever her and her husband do is fine to you, but you don't want any part of it. Who knows, it could be innocent and she may just "love" him because he is a good guy and she likes to be around good people.
2007-09-10 04:41:33 · answer #6 · answered by No one 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They are a swinging couple; in non-dominant couples (as in Domination and Submission) the introductions and arrangements are typically made by the wives. Telling you flat-out she is attracted to your husband is the opening move.
Just tell her that you and your husband do not have an open relationship. And tell your husband to be on the lookout (whether you need to watch him depends on your level of trust).
2007-09-10 04:42:55 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sounds a little strange, you should talk to your husband and be her friend, that way you can keep an eye on her.
2007-09-10 04:41:31 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
this woman is a slut plain and simple and you had better let your husband know that if anything happens you will kick his butt to the curb and then you will go after her . I would let her husband know she has been telling ur husband about their sex lives . that should fix her for awhile .
2007-09-10 04:43:00 · answer #9 · answered by Kate T. 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I think you should have NOTHING to do with your neighbors....they are TROUBLE!
2007-09-10 04:41:24 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋