Is marriage a partnership of unequals between husband and wife?why? give examples
2007-09-10 05:32:45 · 14 answers · asked by Black Mamba 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It should be a partnership with respect, courtesy, fidelity and consideration on both sides.
Some couples divide the housework versus work outside the home, which is fine. But if both are working, they should split the work at home as well. Decisions should be made together. Money should be spent equally, and agreed upon.
This is the kind of marriage I plan to have!
2007-09-10 05:38:13 · answer #1 · answered by Sarah 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is defintely a partnership of unequals. I am not equal to my husband, he has different strengths than I do, and vice versa. For example, I tend to let people walk all over me, my husband makes me stand up for myself. My husband is the type of person that can't be still, always has to be doing something - I on the other hand like a good lazy day. Now that we have been married 9 years, he enjoys a lazy day with me every now and then. A marriage is a partnership in each person must meet the other in the middle to make it work. You can't both be givers or takers. You have to reach a compromise to what works best for you both. Marriage is work and anyone that says it isn't, is crazy. But I love my husband, he is my best friend. When I am having a bad day, all I have to hear him say is he loves me, and I feel better. That part we are equal on, how much we love each other!
2007-09-10 05:45:40 · answer #2 · answered by GreeneyedCowgirl 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It depends on what you mean by unequals.....nothing as far as chores goes is going to be split 50/50....that's not realistic. There has to be compromise and some people are simply better at certain things. For example, I'm better at handling money, so I set the budget and pay the bills. Hubby earns more, so he works full-time, and I work part-time and do more around the house and with the kids. He likes to cook, so sometimes he cooks dinner.
If you are referring more to decision making, well then I have to say that almost all decisions should be made jointly....and one person should not have total say so over the other...
2007-09-10 05:57:56 · answer #3 · answered by reddevilbloodymary 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, equality in sharing decision making, strengths and weaknesses are the fundamental cornerstones for any successfull marriage. Once a partner feels unequal then frustration sets in and the rest of the many causes of divorce can follow
2007-09-10 05:40:23 · answer #4 · answered by Progress Trader 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I do not believe in the fallacy of equality in marriage. Often you have two different people coming from two different places and ways of thinking attempting to become one. People have different strengths and weakness which again must be joined together to create harmony and balance.
There are so many examples, just choose, differences in sexual desires, friendships, money, the desire to succeed, how you rear children.
The successful marriage acknowledges differences or what you've called unequality and somehow worked things out and submitting to one another in love and in the bond of peace
2007-09-10 05:56:00 · answer #5 · answered by Moza 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A marriage should be a equal partnership where there is give and take in the relationship.
2007-09-10 05:37:05 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I would say a partnership of equals... My husband and I are working together just as hard as the other to build a good life for eachother filling every day with love and as much luxury as we can afford
2007-09-10 05:36:59 · answer #7 · answered by sarah W 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Truthfully I think it depends on the situation of the day. Some days my husband wants to be pampered and babied, so I do it. Cook, do the dishes, rub his back and feet....I am getting nothing on this day, it is for him. Other times when a decision needs to be made, we discuss it and come to a decision based on what we both think...we are equals that way. It just depends.
2007-09-10 05:44:11 · answer #8 · answered by Rein 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Marriage is a partnership....period.
Rarely are married couples "equals."
How many couples that you know (married or not) are "equals."
The key is having the emotional and mental maturity to work AROUND your differences.
2007-09-10 11:56:27 · answer #9 · answered by John Doe 1st 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes, because both will have different strengths and weaknesses. The key to a successful marriage is to see one's weaknesses and the other's strength and the be humble enough to realize this and find a common ground where both can operate.
2007-09-10 05:37:47 · answer #10 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 3⤊ 0⤋