my ex harrasses us.my sons b-day was friday(the son i have w/my new husband.)
i was at toys r us w/him on friday buying last minute stuff for his little party that nite. my cell rings i answer it thinking it was my daughter (from my ex) but it was the tricky controlling abusive ex. he said oh can shelby go with us to disneyland (shelby is my daughter no his but he wanted her to go w/them (my ex and our daughter)and invite my daughter that is not his...i said no because today is my sons b-day and the girls and him r supposed to have cake n ice cream n dinner here for tonight. he said tough sh!t u can bump ur party plans for later. i said our lives do not revolve areound ur life dale! he said look shut up let me tell u what plans we have n u need to do it this way or else i will get revenge on u. i hung up. then he called n said i am gonna call the cops on u and make something up just so to ruin ur party w/ur son. i hung up. then cherie called n said mom pick us up now. i said ok ...
2007-09-10 08:06:28 · 7 answers · asked by NEWPORT BEACH GIRL 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
be there soon. i then called her back n said cherie look dont let me keep u from ur plans changing and wanting 2 go 2 disneyland for a few hours before u go 2 ur brothers party. u can always come back here after disneyland and we can have the party later since ur dad insisted. i caved in. she said no i changed my mind and i want u 2 pick us up now right now. i said honey cant ur dad cuz i just got home n need to wrap presents and start on the birthday dinner n set up. she said no my dad said u hafta pick us up now right now. i said i will be there in 20 mins. i know why he did not want to drive em to my house...he was drinking. but he is not mean when he drinks...when he is sober he is realllllly mean and abusive. u would think after 5 yrs of marriage to my new hubby he would have left me alone..especially since i have a on w/him. why is this person like this??
2007-09-10 08:10:40 · update #1
Boundaries, boundaries, boundaries.... if you are unable to set them with him, go to counseling to learn how.
2007-09-10 08:30:45 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He is doing this after 5 years of your being married to someone else because YOU LET HIM. It's that simple Honey. When you get tired of putting up with his shi*, and refuse to let him control you, it will end. Until then, why should he stop? NEVER answer your phone again without checking to see who it is. If it's him, let him leave a message. When you get a threatening, or abusive message-REPORT IT. Get a restraining order and ENFORCE IT. It takes TWO to play these games. You stop the game by refusing to play.
2007-09-10 15:50:32 · answer #2 · answered by Debbie D 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can't imagine why you would let any of your children near this man, especially the ones who are not his children.
Too much drama for me... I would limit all contact to text messages and/or emails. If he really gets abusive, then I would limit it to the attorneys.
2007-09-10 15:19:46 · answer #3 · answered by EazyBreezy 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You need to tape these calls and get a lawyer. Enough is enough, you can't raise normal kids under these conditions and they shouldn't have to live like this.
2007-09-10 15:18:02 · answer #4 · answered by kitkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Yes, he is trying to control you. Stick to the visitation order if you have one. If you do not then get one through the courts.
2007-09-10 15:12:12 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
OMG!!! You need to get a restraining order!! Get your kids away from him.
2007-09-10 15:11:20 · answer #6 · answered by Destinee 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
he is has issues... you need to protect yourself and your family... start documenting everything he does and set a court date... this needs to stop... before someone get seriously hurt...
2007-09-10 15:15:48 · answer #7 · answered by happygolcky75 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋