My husband always makes comments about women on the TV screen?

Question

Just now, he said the girl looked good.

This makes me feel aweful, and I am so tired of these comments.

Why does he do this? I get upset with him every time, he tells me he´s sorry, and the next night, he´s back to doing it again.

Answer 1

Honey all I can say is if he is making that many comments when you are there can you imagine what he says when he watches tv with his friends?? and dont start doing the same thing about the men on tv..because that will give him the excuse to do it more (well YOU do it too)

Tell him you understand there are beautiful girls on tv (and on the streets, train, bus, store, etc.) But you would appreciate he keep his thoughts to himself becasue it is disrespectful to you and makes you feel bad. Dont watch tv with him for awhile...read a book, go for a walk.

Men suck...once i came home and heard my fiancee through the door with his friends looking at all t hese naked women online...they will never be happy with what they have....

Answer 2

I've gotten in trouble for that a bunch of times. Usually I just blurt it out without thinking. Why? Because I get really excited/happy & I have a habit of being blunt in general. BUT doing it daily, or weekly even, is too far. It's more understandable if he's outspoken/blunt about most things. My outbursts are just a word or two. If he's going into detail... then he sounds pretty insensitive. Regardless, I doubt his apologies are sincere due to the frequency (unless he's a sex addict maybe).

Answer 3

he may actually enjoy getting you stirred up. if so, that's pretty thoughtless and a sign of something not so good. next time it happens, maybe you should tell him it hurts your feelings and if he doesn't care about that, then maybe you will do a little looking around too. Don't yell. Say it quietly. I can't imagine why a man would do that anyway. It makes him look like an idiot. Does he think any of those women on tv would wash his stinkin underwear for him or put up with those kinds of comments?? hahaha

Answer 4

I'm sure your husband thinks you "look good" too or he wouldn't have married you! I think the problem lies more with your self image than it does with your husbands comments. If you were secure with yourself the comments wouldn't bother you. I think the main thing here is to keep things in perspective. He's commenting at the "television". It would be foolish to think that after marriage we no longer feel attracted to other people. There's eye candy all over the place and most people (women included) will look at someone who appeals visually to them. Forgive me for being blunt but I think you might be taking this a little more seriously than it has to be. Relax and remember why your husband married you - because he loves you.

Answer 5

you're in an abusive relationship. you're able to attempt to get help for him, in case you an get it. Counseling could be powerful, yet I could ask your self if he might have a hormone imbalance or some thing. perhaps you're able to attempt to e book him to work out an endocrinologist. heavily! yet look, this might't pass on like this; that's in user-friendly terms going to worsen if it would not get addressed. He can not be chuffed, and clearly neither are you able to in this occasion. I advise, c'mon--"returned talker"? as in case you have no longer have been given each magnificent to declare your strategies that he does? it is an rather undesirable problem which could amplify to very undesirable issues. i'm hoping which you will detect a thank you to do away with your self from this environment on a similar time as he works on despite his themes are. in case you compromise for this way of habit now and don't something, then you definately'll in user-friendly terms be making it worse and worse. I empathize and desire which you would be able to artwork this out. the medicine actual are not helping. If he refuses all help, then what are you able to do yet get away? That or go through continuously. that's all as much as you.

Answer 6

Would you rather him being open about what he sees on TV or just ogles and keeps it to himself?

The main point here is that your man, as all men are, is visually aroused. Men enjoy looking at beautiful women, female models. They enjoy porn. Men's brains are wired that way and it is not something you can change.

And he is not doing it to hurt you! You may certainly ask him not to make such comments and he should respect your request and not make such comments. BUT, BUT, do not expect him not to look at beautiful women. It is a bit like your man asking you not to wear make up.

Men are different frm women. Their values are different, they like sports (than women do), they like watching violent movies, they like watching porn. They will check out pretty women in the street and the telly. And you are not going to change that! Ever!

The sooner you accept this truth, the lesser heartache it will be for you.

Answer 7

babe.. he realizes what he's doing every time he does it... he is fully aware of what it does to you, which in my opinion..and I'm sure many others...is very messed up and wrong. He's breaking down your self confidence so he can gain control... you feel crappy about yourself.. you dont think any other guy will want you... and a million more reasons...but the main point is he is doing it on purpose! Intentionally hurting you... bastards I swear...anyway ok...from now on everytime he does it you HAVE to change how you're responding to it... he says "she looks good" you say " yeah if i was a lez i'd tap that" ...couple hours later YOU say " i like his smile/abs/arms/sense of humor/hair" what the hell ever...just make a point to show attraction to these dudes ...just don't let him see it bother you...obviously that isn't working, right? so be like " yeah she is pretty *big smile*" ..eventually he see's it isn't getting to you anymore so why continue? good luck.. dont let that insensitve asshole bring your confidence down.. just from that little picture i can see that you are gorgeous. If for some reason he does not stop... then show your emotions loudly... rip the cord from the back of the tv and tell him to go to hell. <3

Answer 8

It keeps your interest in him .Guys like that keep there woman forever . The nice guys that treat there woman good usually end up with a divorce . Woman have told me that the good guys are to easy and they get board where as the bad guys are a challenge and keep the spark going. Must be true if it was that bad im sure you would be out of there

Answer 9

I understand where your coming from being a woman and having insecurities but this is one of those things that you can cough up to its a guy thing i do it too with my gf (she doesn't mind it she'll point it out for me too except when they are nude then she covers my eyes.) but if it bothers you as much as you say it does you need to talk to him and perhaps consider couples therapy or marriage counseling. Number one reason for divorce communication so i would definitely take this serious and talk about your feelings otherwise things will be hidden and only get worse!

Answer 10

Start commenting on other guys all the time. Every guy looks, so do women, but there is an amount of excess that's rude. Guys who are obsessed are nasty pigs. I used to date a guy whose roommate was OBSESSED with Britney Spears (this was in about 2000/2001 and he was about 25 years old, so he was REAL mature) and sighed every time he heard her name on TV or the radio and had her on his screensaver. He was constantly saying things about other women in front of his girlfriend (now wife, poor girl). He made a comment to me one time, "you know, if you would start like, working out a lot and get all hot and skinny, you know lose about 20 pounds, you could probably be in Playboy because you have a really pretty face." He was serious. I only weighed about 140 then, but I looked about 120 because I have a lot of muscle, and I'm over 5'5". This guy was one of those puney nerd types. The kicker? When I got offended, by BF got mad at ME for being rude to his friend! Anyway, he wasn't even by BF and I was uncomfortable.

Like I said, it's OK to an extent, but when it's constantly happening, it's rude and hurtful (I guess for an adolescent or teenage boy, it's normal, though, but not for a mature man). A psychologist explained it to me once. Men who constantly do things like that or go to strip clubs a lot or are in love with porn and obsess about hot women often feel bad about themselves and feel like they can't please women. Maybe because they have this little fantasy running in their minds that these women want them. I don't know, but he said that's what it is. He also said, "maybe their mommies didn't breastfeed them". I think that one may be a stretch, but there is research on psychological effects of breastfeeding and not breastfeeding. Next time, instead of complaining to your husband (it'd be nice if that's all it took, I know, but it doesn't work with men like we think it should) think about if he is happy with himself, then maybe try a different approach to show him you love him and he is the god that all men want to be to you. Sometimes it's just a matter of finding out what makes the other person "tick" and that can take time, even after marriage. People tend to think that when you marry, you know everything about the other person. The truth is we are always growing and changing and finding out new things about each other. The challenge is to grow together not apart, you have to communicate.