If a married man doesn't even know this woman very much and tell her she's completelly gorgeous and ask if she's married or has a boyfriend.Do you think this is ok?
2007-09-10 05:28:52 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
It was a strange man who said that to me.That's why I'm wondering.
2007-09-10 05:52:07 · update #1
Sure.
He could think that she is gorgeous, and perhaps have a friend who is looking for someone.
Would his wife maybe have a problem with it? Possibly. But if he isn't putting moves on her and taking her out then there's nothing wrong with it.
2007-09-10 05:31:47 · answer #1 · answered by jezyka 5 · 3⤊ 1⤋
Ok, I'm going to first tell you that you are not the only one who has been tested, and that I have been tested in the same way. I worked for a company and this guy started working there, we got along so good and would laugh and hang out all the time. Not to mention he was really good looking. When my other co-workers wanted to go out for a couple after-hour drinks, I was there b/c he would ask me. He started text messaging me, so I started texting him, then we started emailing each other. At the same time I NEVER crossed the line, I am married, bottom line. I realized that I have a husband that I do love, he loves me, and we have children. And my husband picked up on me acting funny, he was even joking and calling the guy my boyfriend, so there is a chance that your wife might be somewhat aware that your attention is elsewhere. What I was doing, and what you are doing, is playing with fire. So I ended all contact with him, including quitting my job. The truth comes down to "you know if life is good with your wife", but you don't know if life would turn out so good with the other woman. While part of you feels that it could be a terrific thing, you might throw away your marriage, and end up not getting along with the new woman. Then where will you be? Trust me, cut the strings, it is really hard, but why throw away something that must still be good b/c you're contemplating, but you're NOT leaving. Don't take that chance.
2016-05-21 03:41:09 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of asking that question on here, why don't you just ask him why he did it?
There is no harm in telling a person they are attractive and even beautiful. The problem is that she probably hears that all the time and has grown to mistrust or even hate men b/c all they want is sex with her and don't want to get to know the real her.
That said, if he never says that to his wife, that is kinda mean to fuss over this stranger if he doesn't do the same thing for you.
As for him asking her for her number, does he have any single friends that might be interested in her? if the answer is yes, then ask him if he passed her number onto them.
If you talk to him, don't jump to conclusions or be angry. Just tell him how it made you feel and that you'd like to relsolve how you feel so that you can be happy with him and not worry that he is looking elsewhere. Your tone is most important here, make your tone non agressive or he will just close up emotionally. Good luck to you.
2007-09-10 05:41:16 · answer #3 · answered by dancam1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If thats the conversation opener, then the husband should be sleeping on the couch for a few nights. Its ok for a married man to pay a compliment to another woman. But I think inquiring about her relationship status goes a bit too far. Odds are he's trying to make his wife jealous. Maybe they had a fight and he wants to get under her skin a little. Its not the other woman's fault she is beautiful. But she does need to be informed that the man that is more or less hitting on her is in fact married. Men are jerks. Intentionally or unintentionally, we do it from time to time. The wife should tell the husband that he hurt her feelings. Thats a lot more healthy than instantly slapping him and asking for a divorce.
2007-09-10 05:39:47 · answer #4 · answered by nemorino147 2 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Depends on the situation I guess. I'm not sure why he would ask if he wasn't interested in her. Most gorgeous women don't have trouble finding a man so he pretty much already knew the answer. I'm more enclined to say it was inappropriate since he is a married man.
2007-09-10 05:38:37 · answer #5 · answered by CINDY J 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
A man that is happily married would not even think of talking in this manner to a strange woman. It's rude, crude and indecent to speak this way to a young lady especially if you are married. If a man is happy in his relationship he would not even think of it. He may say hi, but the rest is just trash talk, and being a player and a bad example of the way a married man should act........
2007-09-10 05:38:50 · answer #6 · answered by Sharon T 1 · 1⤊ 1⤋
It depends on his situation.
It's okay to tell another woman that she is attractive - he's got to be careful not sound like he's flirting or what. Also, he ought to know if his wife is okay with stuff like this. Would it be a concern? Would she worry that he's a player?
If it's okay, perhaps he is asking for a friend. However, I'd think he would make it clear that he wasn't asking for himself right off the bat.
2007-09-10 05:44:38 · answer #7 · answered by Henry C 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Sorry I hadn't read your question properly.
Obviously not, he has no business asking her such a question as he is not available himself, unless he is trying to play match maker for a friend.
On the other hand, some men are just big flirt and enjoy a carry on just to show off their chatting line!
2007-09-10 05:59:25 · answer #8 · answered by Kc 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well it seems like if you really liked it. Didn't you? Are you happy in your marriage? If yes, then don't worry about it. Just be happy that other guy finds you gorgeous. Now if you are not happy, then you have to think if you like this guy who told you you were gorgeous. If you do like him, then play it by ear. Who knows what it will lead to. Just go with the flow. Any way, good luck in your endeavor.
2007-09-10 08:48:57 · answer #9 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I always tell women they are beautiful if I find them to be so. I never ask if they're hitched in any way because I'm in love with my wife. I also complement women in that way in the presence of my wife we don't hide anything from each other.
The fact that he follows up the complement with the question about the women's martial or social status leads me to believe he has ulterior motives.
2007-09-10 05:35:05 · answer #10 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋