I have been with my boyfriend for a year and a half now. We have both been thru a bad marriage in the past. He says that he wants to marry me but hasn't yet really made a step towards going thru with it. I know that he is the one for me. He is the love of my life, my soul mate and I will love him no matter if we get married or not but I would feel much more secure about his feelings towards me.
2007-09-10 15:38:42 · 18 answers · asked by scott p 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Ask him to marry you.
2007-09-10 15:55:50 · answer #1 · answered by Snowflake 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just keep in mind that everyone has to take their own steps to get over a bad marriage and you need to give him is much time as it takes because if he rushes into another marriage without sorting through the bad feeling from the first one he is just going to bring it in your marriage and you don't want that. Let him know that you will help him in any way that you can and that you are there for him, that will make him feel better and let him know that you are supportive. Good luck
2007-09-10 22:49:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't make someone marry you, and really why would you want to anyway??? Talk to him and tell him that it would make you feel more secure. It's only been 1 1/2 yrs so maybe he's just not ready. I knew I loved my husband a week after I met him, but it took almost 2yrs before we were engaged and 2 1/2 yrs before we were married. He was ready when I was but it just took him longer to actually say the words. Relax..........if it's ment to be it will be, and eventhough being married is nice nothing really changes except your name. Good Luck
2007-09-10 22:53:34 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your whole problem is your insecure and codependent. You need a man to make you feel happy about yourself. That is not good. You were married one time before and it didn't work out, you need to slow down. You will be working on your second marriage and I doubt you're over 30 years old. Slow down, he loves and you love him. The worst mistake most people make is worrying about making somebody do something or changing somebody. Why don't you make yourself be less codependent and more secure? Get yourself together first.
2007-09-10 22:49:48 · answer #4 · answered by KSR 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It all depends on the relationship.
Some couples get married as early as three months after they met.
I've even had relatives who married after 10 years and then divorced a year later.
Usually couples last anywhere from a year to three or maybe even four.
If you feel you're not spending enough time with him, you may want to go out a litle bit more.
From what I understand, it may take a while for him to finally decide if he wants to go through with marriage.
2007-09-10 22:43:19 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't ever change anyone else's mind. Your life is your own and you alone are responsible for your happiness.
If you are determined to get married, then give your boyfriend an ultimatum. Tell him he has six months to decide to agree to marriage or you walk out for good.
If you are not ready to give an ultimatum, then give your boyfriend time and space. It will happen or it won't, but in any case, don't forget that you control your own destiny.
2007-09-10 22:43:31 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Tell him you want to get married so you will feel more secure about your relationship with him. Tell him how you feel and if he still doesn't want to get married just enjoy being with him no matter if it's being married or not.
2007-09-10 22:45:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would prefer the feelings were mutual. I dont agree you should "get" a man to marry you. You can force a horse to the river, but you cant force it to drink. Be very careful, unless you dont mind a repeat of your first marriage
2007-09-10 22:52:11 · answer #8 · answered by gucci 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You really have no exact way of getting a man to marry you...it will either happen or not...dont force it ...just talk to him about your feelings and leave the table open for his feelings ....both been through bad ones..maybe he's tryin to figure out if he wants another one and if he does marry you maybe he scared of it turning out bad....talk about it ...
2007-09-10 22:43:56 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, better question:
Why is it that you are not secure w/r/t his feelings towards you?
You were married before - so much for that as a yardstick for feelings.
2007-09-10 22:48:51 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk 2 him about it, but u really dont need a piece of paper 2 show how much u guys love each other
2007-09-10 22:44:53 · answer #11 · answered by mickey 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋