Marriage & Divorce - 12 September 2007

ok whole story short my husband was away from me for 4 months. one month before i move with him he opens a myspace account.he doesn't tell me. but he had an email account which he thought i was never going to find out but i did and he had myspace friends requests in there. so i ask him gimmi ur password to myspace. he flat out denies opening it. like it openend by itself. so i get his password sent to his email. and on his profile he was 18 m single doesn;t want kids. i was pissed but there was nothing else on there in sent folders or trash or inbox except one email written to him after 5 days opening the account. it wasn't spam because i seen other spam emails.i am not over it because he denied it. he said he wanted to see if i had one. he said this after a month of me bragging. what the hell do uthink is going on. i am done talking. no trust why hide stuff. ok the email that he got goes sumting liek this. do u think he contacted this person. more details

2007-09-12 04:12:59 · 12 answers · asked by baby doll 1

2007-09-12 04:08:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-12 04:07:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am so happy with my boyfriend. We've been together almost 5 months and I've never been happier. Problem is I'm afraid he's not going to hang around and I don't want to get hurt. My ex - hub is causing problems between us, (threatening him, harrassing calls and texts, putting stuff in my kids heads). My boyfriend has never been married and has no kids, so all this is new to him. He'll make comments like "he's sick, I don't want anyone to get hurt, "what's he capable of", etc. I don't want to put him through this but my ex will always be in my life. This is the only problem in our relationship. I don't want him to get tired 6 mos down the road and walk away, so I'm thinking of breaking it off w/him.....I know this doesn't make any sense but I want to protect myself from any future pain...help! I'm confused!!!

2007-09-12 04:02:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

when they see you to be happening to hang out with one of your best girlfriends?do they get jelouse about that matter?

2007-09-12 03:56:32 · 6 answers · asked by truth set free 1

My daughters mother lives out of state. She wants my daughter to come and visit her. Which I have to let her visit (court order)but she has been seeing someone and want even tell me this guys last name. She claims he does not live there but all of her family says that he does. It worries me because half of her family dosen't know anything about this guy either and plus they met in rehab!! I have checked sexual predators in her area and none of them are registered at her address and there is none that have his first name. But she could be lying about that also (and no I don't care that she is seeing someone...I have been happily married for 5 yrs now) I really can't afford to take it back to court right now so I'm just trying to figure out whats going on. Is there someway I can find out who recieves mail at that address? She rents the home so the reverse address search came up with who rents it out to her. I would like to at least know this guys last name before I send my baby there!

2007-09-12 03:53:19 · 5 answers · asked by ryeeeeit 3

honestly i am a mother of 4, but all my life ,my so called husband has never been around seeing the kids growing talking of shouldering his responsibilities as a man . whenever need arises , if i called him for assistance is either he complains about the children school fees is too much or he is saving for their future. do you think the kids might need his savings later or is there something wrong with him. Rightnow i am fed up and i needed somebody but before doing this i need answers from you .Actually i am 41year old mother

2007-09-12 03:51:40 · 10 answers · asked by cheryl k 1

2007-09-12 03:47:30 · 2 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-12 03:45:29 · 19 answers · asked by gazelem1 1

This is so long and drawn out, i probably couldnt fit the details in here. here goes, my husband has a friend, only one friend, we left the navy and settled in this town because there is a good job for him, and i guess a friend for life. the problem is, we have gotten everything this guy has planned for, for his family, he let his finances slip down the tube, sold his car with no thoughts how to get into work, just assumed my husband was driving him. we have a house, 2 new vehicles, and my husband wants to hand him the title over to our 3rd one which we need the money on to pay back credit, i suggest my husband staying a lienholder and he told me that i wanted him to be a dick to his best friend. after this guy agrees to paying monthly payments on our car, he calls up my husband, who has been searching for his new truck for a long time now, finallly has it and says he saw the same truck my hubby just bought and wanted to see about financing it. there is much more, but im out of char

2007-09-12 03:43:25 · 11 answers · asked by Evie 1

knowning what you been through raising your children
if you could start all over
would you have children again?

2007-09-12 03:38:06 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

A friend of mine has a RHW Sex Swing, and she loves it. I sat in it once (fully clothed), it is very comfortable and I can see it having some great potential.
The price is a bit steep .
Has any one used one before??
Is It worth the extra money??
How dose it compare to the other cheaper brands??

I'm getting married in October...do you think it'd be inappropriate to add one to our gift registry?!? heh heh

2007-09-12 03:37:54 · 10 answers · asked by HappyForever 1

I don't know who put this propaganda together,but in essence it says that a housewifes chores of cooking,cleaning,laundry and shopping, etc. have a value of $75,000 a year.
I say that is a load of crap!
First off, even if her husband did not provide her a house to live in, she would still have to do the very same chores where ever she lived.
Additionally,house keeping is minimum wage work at best,If one were to subtract housing, food, utilities,health care, car and insurance, cell phone, jewelry,clothes, vacations and more, those expenses would far exceed the value of any house keeping.
Further, using this same premise, If the services provided by the man were assigned a cash value, I.E., auto mechanic, handyman, landscape maintenance,heavy lifting,security and body gaurd,accountant, etc. a woman could not even afford to have a husband.

I believe this suggestion that a homemakers services are worth 75K is self important ,over estimated propaganda by women, Comments?

2007-09-12 03:32:47 · 32 answers · asked by Anonymous

Before I married my husband I already had a little girl whom he knew about. My little girls Dad visited her regulary but has stopped because my husband did not like the idea of my ex coming into the house to see his child. My husband wants my ex to pick up my daughter if he wants to see her and my ex has since then picked her up once in a while. My husband is still not happy because when my ex picks my daughter up he steps foot in the house. This has brought a lot of problems and I am worried this could have effet on my little girl. My husband has issues with my ex calling, has issues when my ex's mum calls to check up on her grand daughter and says he doesn't want me to be around my ex. I also have a baby with my husband and I dont like the idea of bringing up my children in a tensed environment. I have told my husband my little girl has bonded with her dad and I'm not willing to put any boundaries between them either he accepts it or we separate. Is my husband's behaviour right?

2007-09-12 03:32:45 · 28 answers · asked by Lin 1

Married six years, husband stays with a job about a year - and during that year makes little money because he works commission; financial responsibilty, bill paying, housework (even tho I have a full time job) everything falls to me; he naps (leaves work during the day to take naps) or plays computer when home; we pretty much live as roommates (no intimacy); I have finally gotten to the point where I am saying how unhappy I am and he says that he does not want to be by himself (he only has one friend - no circle of friends); he starts saying he is a failure at everything and that if we cant work it out that he has no reason to live. This puts a huge burden on my shoulders. I want to leave (our son wants me to leave) and even though I know he's manipulating me, I still feel like I'm supposed to take care of him/make sure he's okay because he has no one else. Who has been through this and gone ahead and LEFT anyway? What happened? Do you feel guilty for leaving? Thanks...

2007-09-12 03:29:25 · 28 answers · asked by FD27 2

What would you do if your husband confessed that he helped a female co-worker get a car because she had problems (credit, financial etc.). If your husband was supportive, loving and took care of you and the household would you divorce him if he had done this with this female co-worker? He did not pull monies from the account you all had but from a small checking account he has.

2007-09-12 03:17:57 · 37 answers · asked by stergre1975 3

I am of 58 years and want to marry a girl of 24 years ? Can I manage the affairs or I should leave the idea

2007-09-12 03:17:18 · 16 answers · asked by Anonymous

and why do people say congratulations for getting married?

i really dont get it. congratulaions for getting someone to marry you?(or what)?

i think it is a little bit pathetic!

2007-09-12 03:15:29 · 27 answers · asked by girl24gr 3

We have a 4 year old son and my husband has been working out of the country for the last 2 months. He called me 2 weeks ago and told me over the phone. I went to the country where he is working and found out that he has already had papers drawn up waiting for me to sign. I am so hurt and angry, but I do not want to drag this out if he really does not want to be married anymore. He is offering me a very generous settlement, but I really just want to keep my family together. Does anyone have advice?

2007-09-12 03:12:48 · 45 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-12 03:12:09 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous

My wife appears to be normal in every way. She is intelligent, attractive, has a great job and is a wonderful mom. We have been married for over ten years. We have what I have always considered a fun sex life, but recently she said that she wanted it a bit rougher. I won't bore you with all the details, but she likes having her hair pulled, some spanking. I've been more than okay with all of that, but lately she has asked me to start slapping her in the face during sex. I mean really HARD sometimes. She has even gone so far as to say that if it resulted in a bloody lip, it would be easy for her to lie at work about how it happened. She'll make comments the next day, "My cheeks still hurt from last night", or talk about body parts that haven't recovered from all of the pinching and slapping. Man, this is all new to me. Part of me is really turned on by the whole thing, but on the other hand I'm worried about hurting her. Now she has hinted at a whole rape 'fantasy'. Anybody?

2007-09-12 03:06:32 · 33 answers · asked by George 2

If they love eachother and both work

2007-09-12 03:05:45 · 18 answers · asked by Cybele 1

My husband and I have split about a month ago and I have went ahead and started the divorce. We have been having problems since February and have gotten to this step but never past it, well we never filed. We I have filed now and am meeting with the lawyer today. Well 2 days ago my husband says to me that he wants one more try to make this work. He says he is really going to work at it this time and prove to me that he loves me and wants us. He is leaving for Germany in December and my question is: Should I believe him, drop the divorce and give him a chance, or should I make it a legal separation and give him 6m to figure things out and then move out there if they do work, or should I just say forget it and carry on and if we get back together then we do? I have carefully considered every option and my heart is torn between all 3 and I really don't know what to do! Any advice would be great!

2007-09-12 03:00:49 · 8 answers · asked by Kimberly M 2

I am a happily married man with an awesome wife. We have what I consider a great, adventerous sex life. I started taking 'naughty' pictures of my wife about a year and a half ago. Just lingerie shots at first, then nude and eventually pretty much everything we did in bed. I really get into editing the photos and seeing her on film. A few weeks back I introduced a video camera into bed. I was suprised how much she got into it. She really played to the camera. I keep all of the discs, ect. under lock and key, and we have no intention of ever letting anyone else see it. Is anyone else into this type of thing, or is it just us?

2007-09-12 02:49:36 · 18 answers · asked by George 2

My friends and I went out together this weekend. My ex was in town, so I invited him to come to a club with us. He tried to kiss me, but I turned away and he got my ear instead. After that, the night was over. I sent him a text the next day that said "thanks for coming out". He replied "thanks for tasting so good". He always said dumb stuff like that, so I thought nothing of it.

My fiancee saw the text and went into convulsions, and called my ex. To make a long story short, my ex lied and told him we were kissing repeatedly and that he still has strong feelings for me. I never kissed him and have no feelings for him! I only invited him out cuz i figure, im getting married next month, which means I have to cut all ties with my ex's (I'm usually cordial with all my ex's).

Now, my fiancee is very distant, and acts like I cheated on him. I can understand how he would be upset, but if he loved me he would believe me. Neither one of us knows if this wedding is gonna happen now.

2007-09-12 02:34:28 · 48 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband has been having some health lately & isn't supposed to be drinking now. Yesterday he didn't answer his phone for a couple of hours & I was worried . He came home drunk - when I asked where he'd been he said he went to an upscale strip club here.

I've asked him not to go to strip clubs, because I worked at one when I was younger for a couple of years & I know what goes on. Upscale clubs are worse than the lower ones, because money will pretty much get anything you want. He has given his word he wouldn't - he's happy to go with me (which we do at times)

Granted, he was honest. And he didn't have make-up or that all too familiar topless dancer smell on him, so I do believe he didn't have a lap dance.

I'm mad that he broke his promise about not going. And about drinking, but also that he didn't answer his phone. What if something was wrong with our sons, I'd had a wreck or the car broke down, etc?

Would you be mad about this? Am I overreacting?

2007-09-12 02:25:37 · 44 answers · asked by nite_angelica 7

2007-09-12 02:23:32 · 5 answers · asked by lbelfer 4

It is a very sad aspect of indian society that indian parents want to marry off their daughters as soon as possible. It is like that they want to get rid of them. They even beat their own daughters & force them to marry.
Many a times a girl has to go through hell at her In Laws place & she gets abused by her husband & when she is sent back to her parents home, their parents curse her or force her to return to that hell.
And if she is divorced she is prepared to marry again on a promise that this time it will be the right guy as if she is an experimental guinea pig.
No matter what the whole society lays so much empahsis on marriage that it becomes compulsory to marry off their daughters.
Why do not parents realise that the one whom they r forcing is their own flesh & blood ?

2007-09-12 02:16:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous

My husband likes to “play” but he goes overboard. He’ll hide from me and when I look for him he’ll jump from behind something and scare me. He likes to laugh at my reaction. But the other day we were going to go out to eat and I was waiting on him to get ready. I waited 5-10 mins. and called his name. He never answered. Sure enough he was hiding and 30 mins. later he came in the room and said I was no fun. At what point do you decide “she doesn’t want to play”. When we’re at the restaurant sometimes he’ll grab my silverware or my glass and I have to get irritated in order for him to give it back. We both chase each other through the house or try to scare each other at times, but he goes way too far and doesn’t know when to stop. Also, he is a quiet person overall but sometimes he is so long-winded. It’ll take him 20 mins. to say something that should have taken 5 mins. I have gotten to the point to where I finish the sentence for him because I want him to hurry and get done.

2007-09-12 02:16:47 · 15 answers · asked by Hoping he will bless me with #1 4

When we first got together, she was more aggressive and open to oral sex (both of us were). Now, things have cooled in the bedroom. I also want to try to integrate toys into our relationship but I am afraid of what she will say.

2007-09-12 02:03:32 · 13 answers · asked by James H 1