Why is your wedding day supposed to be the most important day of your life?

Question

and why do people say congratulations for getting married?

i really dont get it. congratulaions for getting someone to marry you?(or what)?

i think it is a little bit pathetic!

what i would them to say would be
" i wish you live a long life together, full of health and hapiness"
or smth like that
but congratulations?no way

for all the "psycologists" out there
i want to say that i have a bf whom i love and i want to marry and he wants to marry me too
and i dont say that it is pathetic getting married

what i am saying is that i will not consider my wedding day the most important day of my life
and that i dont want people to say congratulations on my wedding(that i think is a bit pathetic)

Judith L.
thank you so much for understanding what i say

i am sooooo saying the same thing
especially on the congratulations part that is EXACTLY what i mean

most people here think iam an old maid or smth

Answer 1

Well, it's the most important day of your life because you are making a huge decision that affects the REST OF YOUR LIFE. It's also supposed to be the most important day of your life because it is the happiest (or it should be).

However, you ask a very good question. Is all the "most important day and happiest day" just hype over the preparations? The ring, the dress, the cake, the decorations, the big production?

Statistics tell us that half of all marriages in the US end in divorce. I believe that if when we get married the only choice was that you go to a judge - everybody wears the same thing (like a choir robe or something), there are no rings other than a plain gold band, and no party afterwards - well, if that's how it went, I believe that half of the people getting married wouldn't bother.

Oh, and the congratulations thing. Well, some of the etiquett has been lost. One is NEVER supposed to congratulate a bride for the very reason you mentioned. It sounds like you are patting her on the back for getting somebody to marry her. You are supposed to say to the bride, "Best wishes for a happy life together." You may congratulate the groom - because I guess it's okay to tell a guy he was lucky to get such a good woman to marry him.

Now all of that was before equal opportunity of the sexes and being PC. The best way to be safe today is to share your happiness - "I'm so happy for both of you!"

Answer 2

Well marriage wasn't and still isn't one of my priorities, so I really don't know.
Perhaps that's exactly the answer though. For some people, getting married is a top priority, so fairly they consider their wedding day one of the most important in their lives.

As far as your second question is concerned, a couple just married is kind of making a new start in life, and I believe that this is a good reason to congratulate them and wish them all the best. Same thing we also do in other circumstances, like when someone graduates or gets promoted.

By the way, although as I said, getting married is not my kind of thing, I don't think it's pathetic. Deciding to share your life with someone forever is rather brave!

Answer 3

I had a large wedding the first time 20 years ago with no mishaps. I also eloped the second time with some glitches, but not major. I have been to some major outdoor nightmares. #1 nightmare: An outdoor wedding (suppose to be classy/expensive), with a huge white tent with sides. A torrential downpour with high winds caused the sides of the tent to flip open with gusts of rain spraying all over people and food. The Bride was upset telling everyone "It wasn't SUPPOSE to rain on MY wedding day" as if God and her had a special pact. #2 nightmare: There was a family feud--the mother of the bride's sisters and children were all fighting. They came to the wedding, started arguing during the reception and a fight broke out. Police were called. Ambulence were called. Almost all the guests left by 7:30 p.m. The reception began at 6:30. #3 nightmare: Outdoor nightmare again. Suppose to be a wonderful wedding by a lake. A tornato struck less than a mile away, so the lake area was bombarded with golf size hail and winds. Once again, the Bride said "It wasn't suppose to rain on MY wedding day!" #4 nighmare. Another outdoor nightmare! The ceremony was to be held at a War Memorial building, which actually looked like an elegant chateau. The Bride said that the ceremony would be held indoors in a library room near a fireplace if the weather was bad. One hour before the ceremony, it rained and turned cold, about 45 degrees. However, the bride felt 45 degrees with high winds wasn't so cold, so she decided to have it outside anyway. All guests were complaining and miserable. God got her back---During the honeymoon, the groom went to the emergency room for pneumonia, 2 of the 4 bridesmaids got sick, and the bride got bit on the nose by a bird! That's a good payback, I think. #5 nighmare: A funny one. The ceremony was to be held in a building near a lake. Then 1 1/2 hours later, while the Bride and Groom took outdoor photos, the building was to be transformed into a reception area where guests were to return for a Cocktail and Appetizer reception. HOWEVER, after the ceremony, guests forged right back into the building and began eating the appetizers and drinking cocktails assuming this was there for them to occupy their 1 1/2 hour wait time BEFORE the big dinner. When the Bride and Groom returned, almost all the appetizers and drinks were gone! The out of town guests who then showed up had nothing to eat and drink and all hell broke loose! A band showed up, no one danced, people left-----ooooh, this was a bad one! .

Answer 4

First, who said it's supposed to be the most important day of your life? Maybe what they really meant was that getting married can be a big deal. You are no longer one single person acting as one single person. You are now part of a couple who has to deal with things as a couple.

Second, getting married usually signifies that you have found love....why can't people congratulate you for finding love? You do realize that there are a lot of people out there who have no idea what love really is, right? Not only that, but congratulations is a way for people to let you know they are happy for you, duh.

Maybe you think it's a little pathetic because you have never known love.....maybe you're jealous of someone who got married before you....maybe you're just a stuck-up, conceited brat that nobody could ever love because you can't reciprocate the feelings. Now that's sad.

Answer 5

Well marriage is a bond between two people that God created. And for one if you do believe, than you shouldn't question what God created.
Getting married is a big day for many because they take it serious and know that they are giving a big commitment to the other person and they will have a responsibility to the other person of being there and loving them unconditionally.

Marriage is a beautiful thing and that is why you give them either your blessing or you say congratulations. Which people do because they admire people who take a big step and commitment.

Maybe when you find someone that you truly love and don't ever want to live without and he or she asks you to marry them. You will understand. Good things are not pathetic, unless you don't understand the Good Thing that is happening right in front of your eyes.

Answer 6

People say that a woman's happiest moment is the day she gets married. It's quite the contrary though the majority of woman are the happiest when their first child is born. As far all the whole wedding day supposed to be important well it is very important. You have a jaded view Of marriage and well it's most likely due to failed relationships you have had. The pathetic part of this whole situation is that people in general have no sense of commitment and or accountability. If people and or woman were not happy on there wedding day no one would get married. Your bitter out look will change once you fall in love with some one.

Answer 7

Maybe it's not to you, if you haven't or don't want the opportunity to find out. But it should be the day you feel almost perfect, and floating on a cloud. Have you got something against marriage? Congratulations for getting married is almost an automatic response. But nowadays, when there are so many more people living together out of wedlock and having bastardized children brought into the world, I'd deem it more appropriate now than 40 years ago to congratulate someone and wish them every happiness there is.

Answer 8

To some it's the most important day of your life because it's the day you made the worst choice of the rest of your life, or the best. In marriage the life isn't about one anymore, it's about two living as one. The congratulation part comes from making it through all the hardships and seeing past that to see that the couple still loves each other. I think you just need to be a little bit more open minded to people's kindness. Marriage is a big step in life that can become permanent under most circumstances because of morals and beliefs.

Answer 9

Perhaps it's because people get married since they think they've found the right person to spend their lifetime so it is natural that they see their wedding day as important. The others congratulate the couple since they think they've finally managed to "marry". Marriage ceremony is not a very easy thing to organize. And ofcourse the couple's social status is changed to a different way therefore they may be congratulated by other people.

Answer 10

Your wedding day should be the most important day of your life simply be/c it's the beginning of a new chapter in the life as a married couple!!!

When people say congratulations, it means a lot...like congrats on the beginning of a new life, congrats on finding the person to spend your life with, congrats on making a commitment, you know stuff like that...they're just showing gratitude to you.