It is a very sad aspect of indian society that indian parents want to marry off their daughters as soon as possible. It is like that they want to get rid of them. They even beat their own daughters & force them to marry.
Many a times a girl has to go through hell at her In Laws place & she gets abused by her husband & when she is sent back to her parents home, their parents curse her or force her to return to that hell.
And if she is divorced she is prepared to marry again on a promise that this time it will be the right guy as if she is an experimental guinea pig.
No matter what the whole society lays so much empahsis on marriage that it becomes compulsory to marry off their daughters.
Why do not parents realise that the one whom they r forcing is their own flesh & blood ?
2007-09-12 02:16:56 · 10 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
There are many different cultures and traditions in the world. I'm sure some cultures shun at how we mix and mingle and decide to marry and divorce as we do.
2007-09-12 02:21:52 · answer #1 · answered by Mean Carleen 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
1. Primary reason for this has got something to do with the financial status of the family.Equally important is the tradition. Traditionally Indian ladies (not urban ones) have been home makers and doing odd jobs in their farms, nearby places and not the bread winner of the family. This means, they need to be financially protected by somebody. Till marriage by parents and after that by husband and in the olden days by sons/daughters. This is the ideal situation for a dependant female. However, in comparison with a daughter, a son always is in a better position that the family sees him as the future captain of their home. They want to invest in him in terms of skills, education or whatever and ensure that he will be in a position to handle the family well in future. At the same time the daughter is taught to cook well, serve, and clean the house.
2. Another equally important reason is a feeling/coneption or misconception about their safety, that they will be vulnerable to all sorts of abuses and attacks. Even now, an unmarried lady staying with his parents is not seen in a good manner (obviously with exceptions)
3. Marriage is a natural process in life. An ordinary person should get married in the right time, by default as per our value and belief system. Now, to go against this, takes tremendous amount of energy and courage, especially one is living in a rural area. So marriage become an obvious move over or upgradation in the twenties.
4. Why are parents forced to get their daughter married, lets say at the age of 20? Lets analyse this from a rural parents' point of view.
When she reaches 20 (or....??), she has mentally and biologically reached a mature stage where both mind and body can accept a man. Thus society feels that this girl should get married immediately else, she may do something wrong (u got what i mean). If they decides to keep her unmarried forever, who will look after her? who will provide the financial assistance to take care of her through out the life after the death of the parents? who will make her feel safe?
Net net, its a complicated feeling deep rooted in the minds of people over several centuries, probably from the time when civilizations began.
2007-09-12 02:38:45 · answer #2 · answered by okprajith 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If the child is born soon after marriage, the daughter-in-law is much closer to her mother, not having got to know her MIL well. The girl is more likely to be understood better by her own mother, and her needs taken care of without detailing each need. If you have programmed a computer, you will realise how really annoying that can be. And believe me, this is the one time in your life you really must be at peace with your child and you need help. It is generally the practice for the first delivery to be at her parents' home. Later children are generally the concern of the girl herself, since she knows what is involved in the process. If she is closer to her MIL by then, they will be glad to help - after all, it is their grandchild. Regarding the financial part, it is your expense and your husband's. If you are both young and cannot pay, from savings or insurance, then who can you turn to but your parents? The law forbids extortion by in-laws at this time. It is generally considered a matter of prestige by the girl's parents to bear these expenses, but if they feel otherwise they cannot be compelled by force of custom or otherwise. Regarding your point on the culture, you are not correctly informed just like most people in India. You will find the correctness and majesty of its ancient codes only when you have matured, and have the privilege of learning from genuine scholars.
2016-04-04 16:49:18 · answer #3 · answered by Marie 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunately that's a matter of culture. Here in Brazil women used to be brought up to get married. It used to be a shame for a woman to remain single. Nowadays women gain financial independence and don't depend on men any longer so they don't care about getting married, they just wanna have fun as Madonna says.
2007-09-19 02:05:20 · answer #4 · answered by Sergio Oliveira 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont think all parents r like that, not all of them force their daughters to get married and specially today alot women r taking that part of life into their own hands they r capable of making the decision to marry themselves whether the marriage works out is to be seen but they can decide.
2007-09-12 02:22:10 · answer #5 · answered by Cupcake.....:) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it sounds like you are being forced to marry.... sad as it is that is the indian culture... the girl child is not given the same rights asthe boy child and this has been like this for years and years..... not all hindu parents are like this.... rural areas are more likely to see thier daughters as burden rather than a gift from god..............
2007-09-12 02:26:48 · answer #6 · answered by tinkerbell 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm not indian but i think there are lots of tradistions in different cultures who have uncomprehensable beliefs and practices.
I guess they know, but we can't blame them, that was how all of 'em were brought up.
2007-09-17 20:38:10 · answer #7 · answered by jace 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Becasue it is respectable in their society. What is so bad about it? Have Western women come out better because they wait or don't marry? NO!!!!!
2007-09-12 02:20:55 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
i was told that they marry them off early because they are considered old maids by ninteen
2007-09-18 03:37:54 · answer #9 · answered by VICKY taylor 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Because that's their culture?
2007-09-19 10:14:07 · answer #10 · answered by kystarlyte_kystarlight 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋