2007-09-12 04:08:33 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Whatever you say, don't just come out and tell your wife that she's bi-polar and needs to see a shrink. Many bi-polars go through paranoid phases where they think the people they love are plotting against them. I have first hand experience with this through my brother.
Try telling her that she doesn't have to go through cycles of highs and lows. That you want her to see a doctor to help her through what she is experiencing and that you're there to support her 100%.
2007-09-12 04:19:12 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to acknowledge she has a problem for herself. coming from somebody who is bipolar.. i had to realize what i was doing for me to accept that i had a problem and get help for it. i would be screaming at my boyfriend and then the next minute i forgot why i was so angry in the first place, and id be completely fine, as an example. when she's doing things like that you need to calmly explain to her that it isnt right, and she doesnt need to suffer and theres things you can do to correct this. it doesnt mean she is a bad person, and it doesnt mean she is out of control crazy, and it can even be genetic which you need to tell her too. maybe you can look into a doctor for her which specializes in bipolar to help the process along. i took the emsam patch and xanex for a while, the emsam worked pretty well it takes a little while for it to start, and xanex was a quick relief so it balanced out. i realized though that during the winter time and when im stuck inside do i start to feel not quite like myself, so when she starts acting a little out of sorts, just ask her to take a walk or go outside and get some air, or something. it really does help. and i hope ive been able to help you out a little. having bipolar or depression is not fun, but it is treatable and you two will get through it!! just try to deal with it for now and dont be too rough on her. you asking for help is very commendable. im sure she will appreciate it in the long run.
2007-09-12 11:36:18 · answer #2 · answered by Lauren D 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you're bi-polar? Ok, I'm not accusing you. The idea is that maybe if she feels you're not pointing the finger at her, she'll feel ALOT less paranoid about 'getting found out'. Tell her that you want to make your marriage better than best, and you'd like to see a "relationship expert" (the word "couseling" still raises the hair on some people's back). I think she'll be more apt to participate as long as she doesn't feel cornered and pre-diagnosed. There are actually a lot of criteria to meet for true bi-polar behavior, especially in women, because of the hormonal nature of menses.
2007-09-12 11:16:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Bipolar is hell to live with I should know I am bipolar have been for years and unless she feels the need to get help she wont. Bipolar is depression with sever mood swings and highs and lows. Talk to her and let her know that you love her and want her to get help and let her know that you will be there every step of the way
2007-09-12 11:19:45 · answer #4 · answered by weeping_spirit 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can't diagnose your wife, and also, you can URGE her to get help, but you cant force her.
I have bipolar disorder, and i was diagnosed years ago... the illness is very manageable through medications and therapy. i no longer take meds, because i'm dong well, but every time i feel i might need them again, i see the doctor.
people who don't get help are usually in denial, or just plan AFRAID to do it....
maybe let her know you will go with her, and be supportive?
that's the best you can do.
you can also do a search for COPING WITH BIPOLAR DISORDER for more information.
2007-09-12 11:14:44 · answer #5 · answered by letterstoheather 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You can't really make someone do something they don't want. Any therapy she gets will only work if she's ready to change......
The best thing you can do and sit down with her and be honest about what you think is happening and how you feel about her moods. Explain what you think could help the situation AKA seeing a professional and finally explain to her your concerns about what will happen to your marriage if things keep going the way they are.
Speak to her in a calm and considerate manner and if she starts getting angry, don't get angry with her or it will just escalate the situation. Make sure she feels you are concerned and not attacking her or her behaviour.
Chi Chi x.
2007-09-12 11:23:01 · answer #6 · answered by Chi Chi 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You will need a second opinion, hearing someone else say kind of makes a person think that it could be true. Does she have a sister? mom? best friend? that would she would really trust?
Then point out reasons why you think so and give recent examples. Try not put it as sympathetic as possible and make sure you tell her that you will be there for her no matter what!
2007-09-12 11:19:06 · answer #7 · answered by TroubleRose 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm Bi Polar, Clinical Depressed and Post Tramatic. Lovely group. I knew that I had problems but I tried to hide from them. Not a good thing. My husband was very supportive and gently told me that I seemed depressed alot and that I need to talk to my Doc the next time I went in and that he would be there if I would like for him to. So he and I went and I got the help that I needed. I'm still in treatment but it's not as scary as it use to be.
2007-09-12 13:22:04 · answer #8 · answered by Linda H 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think anyone can recieve being bi-polar in a good way...at all. But being that is your wife, you are saying that because you care about her. she should understand but of course she will be upset. But try to come to a mutual agreement to go see a doctor. Good luck.
2007-09-12 11:13:00 · answer #9 · answered by SpaceBoi Smalls 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you cant convince her to do anything you will
have to play a game with her and if she is bipolar
then you can get her to the DR and she will just
think it was a game you was playing with her
but good luck
2007-09-12 11:14:08 · answer #10 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋