Marriage & Divorce - 12 September 2007

2007-09-12 15:54:18 · 5 answers · asked by mertce 1

We have been married for 10 years and we have 6 kids together. We are both members of the same church, but I live the standards and he doesn't. He comes to church once in a while, but comes back home and sets a poor example for the kids. My oldest daughter knows right from wrong and she sees what he is doing.

He is a good dad other than the example he sets, but our marriage is really not very good. He has no respect for me and the amount of work I do. He even uses my toothbrush and razor! I have asked him several times not to, but he just doesn't care. I am starting to realize that the way that he treats me is the ways my sons will treat their wives and what my daughters will expect from their husbands.

We've been through counseling and it works temporarily, but he always goes back to his old ways. Is this just who he is and he pretends to be someone else for awhile? Am I crazy to think that it's better to seperate than keep fighting?

2007-09-12 15:42:31 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

One wife is just too boring.

2007-09-12 15:42:13 · 21 answers · asked by gregdean 1

I suffer from major clinical depression and so I have low energy...plus a weight problem that keeps me from feeling very attractive if you know what I mean. Well, many times in our marriage, my hubby has been asked to go places, and will be hoping I will accompany him, but I rarely do because I just feel so uncomfortable around people I don't know. Shoot, I sometimes feel uncomfortable around my "own" family gatherings...so it's hard even then. Well, this may sound small to those of you who are outgoing and don't concern yourself with what others think, but my hubby was asked by some 1 at work if he would like to attend a wedding. I would only know one person there besides my husband and kids and I just keep thinking...Oh, I just can't. But last time I told him no, he was disappointed and I really hate doing that!! My question is, should I go even though I know I won't enjoy it with my nerves in a bundle,....it's not like I know these people, so sure he is comfortable. Thanks.

2007-09-12 15:33:26 · 24 answers · asked by ShineOn 4

Ok, my husband and I were on our way home from a bday party tonight, and we were discussing intimacy... so I'm wanting to know whats your opinion of foreplay in the bedroom. What's your suggestions to making things more intimate and not duty-like, how can you get things a little spiced up romanticly with someone (not kinky) who was raised SO conservative?
Thanks...

2007-09-12 15:29:31 · 21 answers · asked by marcie1997 3

he should be home by now

2007-09-12 15:23:07 · 26 answers · asked by Anonymous

2007-09-12 15:15:48 · 8 answers · asked by exwife! 4

i just married my husband june 15 2007 and its like i never want to be anywhere without him..i am 18 and he is 23... i have had feelings for him since i was 14...so can someone please help me...and give tell me thing to keep our marrige alive

2007-09-12 15:04:02 · 14 answers · asked by Stephanie Bryant 1

that their husbands are children? I am an enlisted sailor in the US Navy. My wife and I have been together for 6 years and we have two children. She dropped out of school when we first got married and during the past 6 years she has done nothing to get her GED. Now shes calling me a child because of miniscule things I do around the house, yet she does not work to support our income. We have talked about this allot, but it just ends in a large argument. Now getting upset about being called a child is well...childish. When your called a child almost everyday while the person calling you a child has done nothing to further their education or assist with the income of the house then it gets on your nerves. Talking about it doesnt work.. WHAT SHOULD I DO!

She is good woman she takes care of the house shes just verbaly abusive.

2007-09-12 14:50:15 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

He came for dinner and was very talkative. He didn’t allow me to finish speaking a thought, but interrupted. I patiently waited while he talked and finished what he was saying. There wasn’t much two-way conversing because he wanted to speak a lot.

His family doesn’t listen to him or allow him to speak his thoughts. Maybe he was dumping that anger on me. I hated it when he forcefully spoke of his ideas and refused to allow me to speak. He is very angry with his brother and his sister.

He wants me to connect his computer and organize all the cords (which he says he can’t do and the disorganized cords bother him). He said the relationship is without strings, so he wants me to come voluntarily. I don’t want to go after feeling so frustrated because I wasn't listened to in my own home.

2007-09-12 14:42:24 · 10 answers · asked by lightellen3 3

2007-09-12 14:28:50 · 15 answers · asked by mrblonde3056 3

He works night shift and I work day shift, it seems like all he ever does is sleep. And if he does wake up he is in such a grumpy mood. We end up agruing and fighting in front of my four year old daughter and he goes into the bedroom and goes back to sleep. I don't know how to fix this situation. And to make matters worse, I'm eight months pregnant with his first child. I don't want to be misrible anymore but don't really know how to communicate with my husband. And don't want to live in an divided household.

2007-09-12 14:28:02 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

How did it feel to be on your own? Me and my fiance are moving out next month we've been living with his parents but now we are on our own ( its weird )

2007-09-12 14:22:48 · 6 answers · asked by ♥ OLi♣ 2

ok so my husband is gone away for work. he does this occasionally, and its usually overnight or two. sometimes it feels like he doesnt reallly want to call e, and i dont think he would if i didnt ask him to. so he got off work at 530 tonite, called me around 10 and we chatted for a few minutes. i told him that i missed him and all he said was oh yea? and the conversation moved on. i told him i was going to go because he didnt seem to be in much of a talkative mood. we said our i love yous and goodbyes and hung up. i called back like a minute later just to tell him that i really missed him a lot and wished he was home with me and our 4 month old son. he said is that so? well thats good to know. no "i miss you too" or anything. is it because hes happy to be away from me? i would hate for it to be that... i think we're happy together. we have our ups and downs and we're in kind of a rough patch right now but we still love each other and are best friends... whats up with him?

2007-09-12 14:20:58 · 7 answers · asked by raspberry 3

how did it change your relationship?

2007-09-12 14:17:04 · 11 answers · asked by fibr 2

Husband possibly cheat - no hard evidence; very little in common with the spouse; I really want a companion to grow old with which I thought I had found - but he changed after a few years into the marriage. We seem to be night and day on all subjects, even how to raise the children. Been through one divorce and don't want to do it again; Without a companion / bestfriend to share everything with life can be unhappy. Being single again with the potential of not finding a true companion really makes one wonder "Is it worth going back out there, or just keep trying to make this one work?" We have had counseling and discussed our differences. It seems he'll change just long enough to soften the waters, then back to old habits. I feel I have give 150% most of our marriage. At this point I don't even try because I know what will happen.

2007-09-12 14:16:28 · 43 answers · asked by TEXAS LADY 2

My husband and I have 4 kids between us. The 7 year old is his from a previous marriage, the 6 and 3 years old are mine from a previous marriage and the 9 month old is ours together. So, both of us are step parents. My three year old calls my husband her "steppie daddy." I love that, it's sweet without stepping on her "real" dad's place, but my oldest just calls him by his name and his calls my by my name. I'm wondering if there are other words/names/terms of endearment out there that can be used for a step-parent that gives us a special spot. Our kids are still actively involved with their bio parents, so calling us mom and dad might be cause some tension. Any ideas? Give me a list of five of your favorites.

2007-09-12 14:15:42 · 10 answers · asked by mi_suzi 2

can you belive it but do you think im to young i dont know im 23 so what do you think i relly want to marry him we met in 3rd grade and hes so cute but even if he was the ugglyist man on earth id still love him so much hes been my boy friend for 7 years 7 YEARS so what should i tell him

2007-09-12 14:12:22 · 14 answers · asked by pinkpeach2 1

okay here is my story. I am a newlywed and i love my husband with all my heart. Before me and my husband got together i was seeing this guy for about 4 years(it was never serious because he had a girlfriend) anyways i completely stopped talking to him and everything,avoiding his calls, and tryed to avoid seeing him all together--wellllllllll the other day i bumped into him and his old lady and of course we meet eyes for a hot minute. Now he is all i think about---and i do not want to call him because i love my husband. But on the other hand i want to talk to him just to talk!!!What do I do?is this a normal feeling??and please no mean answers i know it is wrong that he has a girl-so do not waste time judging me--i just need advice on what to do--i am so confused??i love my husband but still i am think about this other man------please help??????

2007-09-12 13:51:48 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

My boyfriend wants to marry me. I am from a different country.
He hasnt told his parents about me yet. Not sure if they will accept me. He thinks they will. Is it acceptable for a guy in India that has never been married to marry a divorced mother? Thank you

2007-09-12 13:38:15 · 18 answers · asked by megansmom06 2

As his natural mother would I need to adopt him as he wants to have the same surname as my ex-husband and I? Would my parental rights be affected if my son is adopted by my ex.

2007-09-12 13:28:43 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

No man is a failure when he has friends.*

2007-09-12 13:25:24 · 1 answers · asked by dca2003311@yahoo.com 7

I am in a situation and I don't know what to do. I have been with my kids father for 6 years, and we have two kids together. He constantly accuses me of cheating, every man that comes around me, he thinks I want them. I am so miserable, he never wants me to go anywhere, he calls me 20 times and hour. Everywhere I go, he thinks I am going to meet a man or find a man. There have been times that I have told him that I will leave him and find someone else. But I feel like I don't have the strength, I don't have any family or anywhere else to go. The good things about him is that he works, he makes good money, he help me with the bills, and he take care of his kids. But he makes me feel like crap. He always call me a b*tch and he makes me feel really low. I am tired of being unhappy and miserable, but on the other hand I stay because we been together for so long and we have two beautiful little boys together. But I don't have any freedom. Can someone please give me some advice?

2007-09-12 13:04:37 · 12 answers · asked by Ms. C 1

if so, how often does he call you? The past 3 days I talked to him for 5 minutes during his lunch, 5 minutes before he went to dinner and then 5 minutes before he went to bed. Doesn't that seem kinda fishy...when all he kept talking about before he left was how he was gonna miss me and our daughter? Now I'm pregnant and I'm getting stressed out about it. He's with his co-workers all day, they are gone for 2 hours for dinner and then he smokes a cigar with them...which took like a half an hour today. You think he would get enough of his co-workers? I think in actuality he likes his break from me.

2007-09-12 12:30:13 · 8 answers · asked by breisingermela 5

i have been married for more than 30years. and my suppose partner in life neglected his domestic responsibilities for more than 10years already. i want a divorce or annulment. POSSIBLE?

2007-09-12 12:28:22 · 10 answers · asked by pinky 1

I have this pit in my stomach that doesn't go away. I keep thinking that her interests are elsewhere. I've tried to express this to her, but she tells me that I'm just "reading into things". I'm not a paranoid person, but I believe that a persons actions are a reflection of their true self.

2007-09-12 12:16:09 · 16 answers · asked by perrygreenwich 3

Seems to me that MOST (if not all) of the virginity until I marry questions are of greater importance to those who think you should wait untl marriage ?!?!?

I believe you guys THINK about it more often than those of us who are no longer virgins !!!!

I understand your religious (or personal) basis for wanting to wait - but to fixate on it - isn't that the same as "doing it"?

I mean - I'm a Christian and I've read the bible. It sates that someone with "lust in their heart" has already committed adultry in the eyes of the lord - right?

So you might be a virgin - but if you're thinking about it, talking about it, wanting to do it, wishing for it, but not doing it - does this REALLY make you more pure than someone that does the actual act?

I think some just like the art of the tease - it makes the buildup THAT much more intense....

I also think that many of these "virgins" build it up so BIG that by the time they actually DO get married and have sex, its a HUGE letdown...

2007-09-12 11:04:26 · 16 answers · asked by aa889d 5

This guy is getting married for the second time but doesn't want to talk about it. Even in his first marriage he didn't tell anyone. Just hoping he will be happy.

2007-09-12 11:03:26 · 17 answers · asked by mindy nanu 1

About 8 months ago, I told my husband of 6 yrs. during a pretty bad fight, that i didn't love him and hadn't for a long time. I was trying to hurt him at the time and I knew it would because for a while before hand, he had been questioning my feelings for him. We made up, and a month later, found out i was pregnant with our 2nd child. Recently we've been fighting alot, and his feelings towards me seem to be fading. I was talking with a friend of mine yesterday who reminded me what I said to him, i had forgotten about it because i really didn't mean it, but now i realize how much it must have broke his heart. I feel awful, and want to apologize, but we just had a fight 3 days ago, and aren't speaking, plus i don't know if he'll believe me. he's always been very sensitive about it.

2007-09-12 10:56:46 · 14 answers · asked by aries4279 2

2007-09-12 10:44:26 · 51 answers · asked by Anonymous