My husband and I have 4 kids between us. The 7 year old is his from a previous marriage, the 6 and 3 years old are mine from a previous marriage and the 9 month old is ours together. So, both of us are step parents. My three year old calls my husband her "steppie daddy." I love that, it's sweet without stepping on her "real" dad's place, but my oldest just calls him by his name and his calls my by my name. I'm wondering if there are other words/names/terms of endearment out there that can be used for a step-parent that gives us a special spot. Our kids are still actively involved with their bio parents, so calling us mom and dad might be cause some tension. Any ideas? Give me a list of five of your favorites.
2007-09-12 14:15:42 · 10 answers · asked by mi_suzi 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
First off alittle advice from a , step-daugher/and now step mother myself.. let the kids do whatever feels comfortable for them.. if they dont feel comfortable with reference to mom or dad, then thats fine just leave it with what they feel comfortable... my older children call their step father , by his first name, and my youngest calls my husband daddy or daddy joe..
2007-09-12 14:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by brwneyedgrl 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I haven't gone through this on the parent-side of it, but at one time I was a child with a step parent. I think coming up with a different name would be a little weird for the kids, and upsetting for the biological parents. I think it would irritate me if my son was calling a step mom something besides her first name, but if that wouldn't hurt any feelings on either side of the family, then that's great. I really don't have any suggestions for names like that because nobody that I know has ever called step parents by anything but their real name, or "dad/mom". good luck.
2007-09-12 14:27:35 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about using Daddy and Mommy followed by your names. I mean your biological children just calls you Dad and Mom so the step-kids can just add your names after it. I think it is disrespectful to just call you guys by your first names. In our family, we called our step-mother Auntie and their names (I had more than 1).
2007-09-12 14:59:20 · answer #3 · answered by ods 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My step sisters called their step dad "Daddy Bob" and my mom "Momma Toni" because those were their first names. What's wrong with them calling you by your first names? Is that not who you are?
2007-09-12 15:31:19 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave things as they are if you go changing things as in another name for a step parent your an his kids are going to feel uncomfortable an it will course an atmosphere between you all.
2007-09-12 14:30:22 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
How about "Papa John" and "Mama Susie" or whatever. I think ultimately names will evolve that everyone will be happy with.
Sounds like you have a wonderful family dynamic going there!!
2007-09-12 14:21:51 · answer #6 · answered by Just Tink 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
i have heard of children calling their step-mom "smom" and i have a friend who's step-son calls him "daddy wes".
2007-09-12 16:34:39 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
yours call him daddy with his last name his the same mommy with your last name that is his
2007-09-12 14:25:48 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think the kids have answered this for you. they're using the names they're comfortable with. don't mess with a good thing.
2007-09-12 14:20:07 · answer #9 · answered by racer 51 7 · 6⤊ 0⤋
How about by your first name? They already have a dad and/or mom.
2007-09-12 14:19:16 · answer #10 · answered by spinster wife 3 · 1⤊ 3⤋