ok so my husband is gone away for work. he does this occasionally, and its usually overnight or two. sometimes it feels like he doesnt reallly want to call e, and i dont think he would if i didnt ask him to. so he got off work at 530 tonite, called me around 10 and we chatted for a few minutes. i told him that i missed him and all he said was oh yea? and the conversation moved on. i told him i was going to go because he didnt seem to be in much of a talkative mood. we said our i love yous and goodbyes and hung up. i called back like a minute later just to tell him that i really missed him a lot and wished he was home with me and our 4 month old son. he said is that so? well thats good to know. no "i miss you too" or anything. is it because hes happy to be away from me? i would hate for it to be that... i think we're happy together. we have our ups and downs and we're in kind of a rough patch right now but we still love each other and are best friends... whats up with him?
2007-09-12 14:20:58 · 7 answers · asked by raspberry 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
oh by the way - when i called back the second time to tell him just how much i really missed him, and he gave me that answer i asked him. i was like oh so you dont miss me? he said well obviously... i said then why are you being weird and dont really want to talk? he said whatever and we said goodbye again. it left me feeling very strange...
2007-09-12 14:22:53 · update #1
do you not know the man you are married to? Has he always been like this or is a new thing? I disagree with the lady saying men are not into emotions and are wishy washy. I love to tell my wife I miss her, love her etc. If she asks about an uncertain behavior or action, I go out of my way to assure her because I want her to be secure and feeling loved. If this is just a rough time, then he may be wondering if you are really sincere. Try being more loving and assure him of your love and care for him.
2007-09-12 14:48:01 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him time to miss you, don't call.
I'm saying don't call him in a nice way, just give him time to think about you instead of expecting a few calls each night.
Its all good, he knows your going to call him first so he wont bother calling home to see what your up to.
Stick a little note in his pocket before he leaves next time so he will find it on his trip. It will get him thinking about you and your baby while hes away. After a couple of trips he will miss you and start calling you. Smile when he gets home, don't get all worked up with stress. Give him something to look forward to when he arrives like a big hug or kiss. Send him a baby photo while hes out, or a message on his phone late at night of you and the baby saying goodnight. Keep it simple and don't take it personal.
2007-09-12 14:31:22 · answer #2 · answered by nelppik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
being a new dad is very overwhelming. not only does he now have to care for the babe, but he doesn't have you all to himself anymore. lots of guys actually get jealous. i'm not condoning his callousness, just trying to come up with an explanation. i don't think it's that he doesn't miss you and the baby, i think it's more like he's enjoying this little bit of time he has to himself. we all feel that way from time to time. when he gets home, have a heart to heart with him. explain things and have him do the same. get things out in the open so there are no more calls like this one.
2007-09-12 14:30:28 · answer #3 · answered by racer 51 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I hate to put this in your head, but could it be that he was with someone in the room? have you ever think about it? I remember when I was with my wife, and I used to travel. I always told her that I missed her, I also told her that I loved her. Something is just not right. It almost look like if he was trying to get rid of you. Like when there is someone else in the room and you don't want to talk in front of that person.
2007-09-12 14:49:02 · answer #4 · answered by Ricardo R 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Geez....you sound really needy. The guy is gone for less than a day and you think he should miss you like it's been 6 months. Give him a break..... he probably enjoys not being nagged at by you about such piddly stuff.
2007-09-12 14:49:22 · answer #5 · answered by dathinman8 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
ok hes on a business trip talkin like that he has a chick on the side its so obvious call him back later on i bet he doesnt answer cause hes cheating..he spoke indirectly he probably walked away from her when he said i lov u call him again after he doesnt answer if hes still up at like 3 am hes cheating if hes sleepin hes already done with the prostitue how do u spell prostitute
2007-09-12 15:04:39 · answer #6 · answered by mtnhotte 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
men are just not into wishy washy emotional talk.
2007-09-12 14:29:48 · answer #7 · answered by Lucci 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋