My boyfriend wants to marry me. I am from a different country.
He hasnt told his parents about me yet. Not sure if they will accept me. He thinks they will. Is it acceptable for a guy in India that has never been married to marry a divorced mother? Thank you
2007-09-12 13:38:15 · 18 answers · asked by megansmom06 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he lives with his parents. I heard that this is not acceptable in India. I worry his parents will try to stop us.
2007-09-12 14:18:37 · update #1
Nothing wrong in it. One can happily marry a divorced or widowed lady in India. Law permits it in India.
But still the mind set of elders has to change in this matter. Some parents won't like it. But you have made him think twice, before he acts upon. Because he should not suffer you, after marriage about your previous history.
2007-09-14 22:41:24 · answer #1 · answered by surya 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hi,
Per the Indian law, marriage with a divorced woman is not prohibhited. Most of Indian parents do not accept, unless they are from the City or broad-minded people.
Apart from these there are few note-worty points:
1. What is required is whether the guy is in love with you or just he is trying fancies with you.
2. Yours is a cross-border love and so you need some extra care while stepping further.
3. How long you know that guy and how you knew him are also important
4. Not every part of India thinks alike and this truth is not known to many in this world. They still look down on India, which is really pathetic
Times have changed. Parents are not as dogmatic/orthodox as they were. They are willing to forego lot of things for the sake of their children and are really not so brutal like what others think.
It is just a matter of time, they need to get adjusted you and start understanding.
One thing is sure. They cant be close to you from the day one you get married.
After all, it is your life and you are living for you, but not for some one. Just convince them, but no looking for permissions
All the best and have a happy & great married life
Brgds
Satya
2007-09-18 05:54:59 · answer #2 · answered by Satya T 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, now you are realising what a big mistake you have done by marrying that guy. Second, if you get divorced and converted to Muslim, will the parents or the family of this second guy accept you? If not, will you be able to live in peace again? I think you must take a Legal action on your husband for harassing and torturing you, just to teach him a lesson.
2016-04-04 17:54:15 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yes. Marriage is solemnised between two persons male and female. If the legal clearance is OK then no problem. So far the parents are concerned they have limited role of approving the marriage. If the boy is committed then parents will sooner or later approve the marriage.
2007-09-18 21:22:41 · answer #4 · answered by Honey786 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I am sorry to hear the comments about India,specialy from people who know very little about Her and whatever they know is all from Media and pity them for their lack of knowledge.The truth is entirely different.
Marriage in India is not a contract or licence to stay together and break off whenever one wants.It is a commitment for life towards one's spouse and children.
Although parents may not like their son to marry a foreigner woman with a child,there is a practice in India to marry a woman who is previously married e.g. a man may marry his dead brothers wife and accept children as his and look after them.In fact it is a practice in Northern states of India.There are comparitively fewer,almost negligible, divorces in India as Indians value a Family.Hence the question of marrying a divorced woman with a child appears not very often.However in recent years the remarriages of divorced or widowed woman in becoming quite common,as the new generation is turning to free life of western countries and divorces are on the increase.(Does anyone 'there' think of little children of divorced parents?)
In your case ,there may be opposition from his parents.But if he is firm in his views there is no law or religious ban on such marriage.Go ahead if you both are sure.
2007-09-20 08:32:41 · answer #5 · answered by saina 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No divorced mother is looked down upon in India. If you want to marry such a way then move elsewhere but indians may not respect you if you marry in such a situation.
2007-09-14 08:27:59 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Most probably they wont but i dont think it really matters whether they accept you or not, you have to figure out if you can be happy with your BF and if he is marrying you for the right reasons so he does'nt leave you when faced with problems or opposition from parents or soceity.
2007-09-12 13:53:15 · answer #7 · answered by Pramod R 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
yes in Indian they aren't allow to marry a Divorce mother, but now its a different time then before there alot of open minded peoples who could & will accept you
2007-09-13 02:28:17 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
hi, there is no one who can stop you if you do all the formalities legally. talking bout your BF if he is ready to accept you then no worries but think of future whether you will be happy with him and can he give you all financial happiness what you want in life? is he ready to leave his parents and stay with you if they dont accept you. please think over hard and take a promise from him. if he doesnt have a home ask him to buy one small room just for you n him and see what he says.. if he buys it then he is yours or if he avoids it then its doubtful... but he will surely ask sometime from you for that.. all the best
2007-09-20 00:52:33 · answer #9 · answered by tisha k 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
dirty hypocritical indians dont look at it in a very positive manner. but if u both are willing then may be he shud stay with u. indian parents are definitly a handful. they wold probably never accept u. sorry if i am very blunt n direct.but its a fact which u will invariably face after a few days.
2007-09-12 14:13:14 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋