I am so happy with my boyfriend. We've been together almost 5 months and I've never been happier. Problem is I'm afraid he's not going to hang around and I don't want to get hurt. My ex - hub is causing problems between us, (threatening him, harrassing calls and texts, putting stuff in my kids heads). My boyfriend has never been married and has no kids, so all this is new to him. He'll make comments like "he's sick, I don't want anyone to get hurt, "what's he capable of", etc. I don't want to put him through this but my ex will always be in my life. This is the only problem in our relationship. I don't want him to get tired 6 mos down the road and walk away, so I'm thinking of breaking it off w/him.....I know this doesn't make any sense but I want to protect myself from any future pain...help! I'm confused!!!
2007-09-12 04:02:11 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
Yep, you're all screwed up and make no sense at all. You are still carrying around way too much baggage.
How did your ex husband get his number? Something is very fishy about you.
2007-09-12 04:07:52 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Your happier now then you ever been but you want to break it off with him now because you don't want to get hurt 6 months down the road what about him now don't his feelings count for something. You need to get a restraining order out on your ex not to come within 10 feet of your boyfriend. Your ex sounds like a real loser why are you allowing him to do what he is doing. A father that would use his own kids to intimidate their mothers boyfriend is a selfish and mean man.
2007-09-12 06:45:36 · answer #2 · answered by Teenie 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you break off this relationship be prepared to spend your entire life alone until your ex decides you can have someone else. Your problem is you. You need to tell your ex to back off. He has no right to do what he's been doing and only you can stop it. Get a restraining order and get him for harassment if necessary. He'll back down on his own or will when he's forced. You can't let him run your life.
2007-09-12 04:08:40 · answer #3 · answered by tetlitea 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No it makes perfect sense but by breaking it off with him you let your ex win. I would say just don't allow yourself to get too close and start fighting the ex to make this stop. Get a restraining order for sure to stop the harrasing phone calls and texts, and have your boyfriend get one as well. Seriously, if you get the law involved it will ease up alot of the stress you two are experiencing. Good Luck!
2007-09-12 04:12:16 · answer #4 · answered by LilSunbeam 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Okay, my friend had this happen to her. What she did was actually pretty weird, but it worked. She used Herbal Essence shampoo that's specifically for broken ends. I forget what it's specifically called, but if you go look at the shampoo products you'll know which it is by the name of it. Or simply read the labels. Then she mixed 2 cups of milk and 1 tablespoon of honey and washed it with that every day. It worked for her after a few weeks.
2016-04-04 16:59:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I say keep your boyfriend, and call the cops on your ex husband and keep a listing off all the threats, the calls and keep the text. Put a restraining order on him, get him away. Do you really want your kids around that type of person?
2007-09-12 04:08:34 · answer #6 · answered by Torey♥ 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
why would you let go of a man that is willing to take all the crap that your ex is giving him? he obviously wants to be with you or he would have left a long time ago. it's rare these days to find a guy that will actually date a woman that has children, let alone a crazy ex. call the sops on the ex is he's harassing and threatening your boyfriend.
2007-09-12 04:08:52 · answer #7 · answered by redpeach_mi 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If I was him I'd have left you after the first sign of harassment from your ex. Nobodies worth that kind of torment. So he may just dump you eventually.
2007-09-12 04:18:22 · answer #8 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Instead of jumping the gun and breaking it off try talking to him about how you're feeling. If you're that invested in this relationship, you've got to give him a chance.
2007-09-12 04:09:41 · answer #9 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It makes perfect sense, this jerk is going to make his life hell... I would do it for him not because he may leave later down the road. You are stuck with this idiot but he isn't.
2007-09-12 04:09:08 · answer #10 · answered by kitkat 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋