My wife appears to be normal in every way. She is intelligent, attractive, has a great job and is a wonderful mom. We have been married for over ten years. We have what I have always considered a fun sex life, but recently she said that she wanted it a bit rougher. I won't bore you with all the details, but she likes having her hair pulled, some spanking. I've been more than okay with all of that, but lately she has asked me to start slapping her in the face during sex. I mean really HARD sometimes. She has even gone so far as to say that if it resulted in a bloody lip, it would be easy for her to lie at work about how it happened. She'll make comments the next day, "My cheeks still hurt from last night", or talk about body parts that haven't recovered from all of the pinching and slapping. Man, this is all new to me. Part of me is really turned on by the whole thing, but on the other hand I'm worried about hurting her. Now she has hinted at a whole rape 'fantasy'. Anybody?
2007-09-12 03:06:32 · 33 answers · asked by George 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
She seems to be a confident, intelligent woman who has control of her life. Perhaps she likes the lack of control in the bedroom....she likes to be dominated. I think the only drawback is that while you are hurting her in a pleasing way, what image is she projecting in her mind? Is it her loving husband or a stranger taking advantage of her and she has no choice but to let him have his way with her? Maybe this is what is turning her on. Even though you are the one inflicting pain, does she project the stranger as the one inflicting pain so that you are still the loving husband when it is over? She likes the feeling of being taken in a rough way and it's her secret at work of her pleasurable pain so that she isn't embarrassed by any marks. The marks remind her of the night before and she likes that.
I am only guessing about what your wife is feeling. But, even though you are the one giving rough sex, she portrays you as the stranger, because you wouldn't do this for her as your idea. It came become an addiction to have sex this way, and if you aren't getting anything out it yourself, you need to talk to her and let her know how you feel. The pleasure of sex is great, but if the reaon for sex is lost, then your relationship with her could be damaged. I think we all have fantasies at one time or another during sex, but if it is destructive, it needs to stop.
2007-09-12 03:25:59 · answer #1 · answered by The pink panther 5 · 10⤊ 0⤋
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My wife appears to be normal in every way. She is intelligent, attractive, has a great job and is a wonderful mom. We have been married for over ten years. We have what I have always considered a fun sex life, but recently she said that she wanted it a bit rougher. I won't bore you with all...
2015-08-19 16:56:21 · answer #3 · answered by Kylen 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Touchy situation you have there buddy. You do realize this can get out of hand don't you. Something is going on in her head and it's not something you will like later on.( Well actually you might). Guessing that she enjoys you as a sexual partner and she,out of the blue, is wanting to get extremely rough during sex could be a sign of wanting more in bed. By this I mean don't be surprised if she is thinking about having two at one time.
Now with me being a male and you being a male we like to think about two women but definitely not another man and our wife's.
Rape fantasy?? That's a new one on me. True enough some women like a little spanking,choking and biting but rape?? Like I said this can get out of hand and real quick.
Security?? Do you feel secure with the fact that she will not seek pleasure somewhere else? I ask you this because the thought will be going through your mind soon enough.
Openness?? Are you willing to go even further while trying to satisfy her needs/wants? If so get ready to call up a buddy or worse meet a new friend.
If it were me I would have a talk with the wife and explain just how far I am willing to go with the fantasies. Obviously she likes to be dominated so be the dominate partner and set your limits.
Good luck!!
2007-09-12 03:37:14 · answer #4 · answered by wcs_n_ms 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
A lot of people like rough sex. I dated a girl that had the rape fantasy. It freaked me out. I was young then. You can read about these types of things on the net (after you weed through the porn I'm sure). Often times a couple has a safe word and if one of you says it everything stops. It should be something that isn't normally said. I'd say enjoy what your wife is asking for.
2007-09-12 03:09:57 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 11⤊ 0⤋
Being into rough sex doesn't mean there is anything "wrong" with her. Maybe just basic ordinary sex is boring. Some people like to live a little on the wild side and as you put it, she is "normal" in every other way so maybe this is just a way of expressing her sexuality. MY only concern is what if she were to get upset with you over something and then say that you beat and raped her and she has all the evidence to support it. Not saying she would ever do that to you, just something I would be thinking about.
2015-11-28 08:22:07 · answer #6 · answered by Jeremy V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well lets see. i am into rough sex as well and i have even told and ex of mine to do the same thing. She is into a form of sex that is very common but also very underground. but if you are uncomfortable in any way, i think you two should take it a little slow. although you may be turned on by this, it can be very scary. talk to your wife about this. maybe you guys can work this out. good luck
2007-09-12 03:12:11 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 2⤊ 0⤋
Many people are into rough sex myself included and it is normal but has nothing to do with being into it. It has ever thing to do with how you were raised. I am not saying that every person who likes to be hit in the bedroom was abused but there is a part of that person that needs to rein-act a past experience weather it be a abusive parent or a kid that beat them up in school or what ever it is always a negative experience big or small. The actions in the bedroom are subconsciously therapeutic and well what does enhance sex and pleasure for some could be the most unpleasant experience for another.
2007-09-12 03:53:11 · answer #8 · answered by CSC78 6 · 6⤊ 2⤋
Wow... thats great for the two of you, but as for me thats a bit over the top. I do like various things, rough at times, and then gentle at other times. If you're not comfortable, then don't do it. Go to the line that you wont cross.
2007-09-12 03:16:35 · answer #9 · answered by Beatngu 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Id say divorce her then to give the money back in turn put her on the race tracks start a new stable your first to be your divorced wife keep it rowing for the pillsberrydoe boy shell love you more then her hole in her beautiful heart
2015-09-12 15:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋