2007-09-12 04:07:59 · 24 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
No, if for no other reason than you and a friend might be talking about him! I'd love to check my husbands voicemail, emails, internet usage. ANd I even did so for a while (thanks to PC pandora), but honestly, it was very harmful to our relationship. Every little thing became a trust issue, because if you're looking for something wrong, you will always find it, your mind is skewered towards it.
So no, he should take a deep breath, stop being a control freak, and let you have some privacy. That joined as one thing is figurative, not literal. And if he can't do that, then this might be a good time to let him have the voicemail password, and when he checks the messages, find one for a therapy appt for him!
2007-09-12 04:24:31 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why not? He's your HUSBAND. Why would you hide anything from eachother? Honestly, women these days...
Edit: Okay, mont. We can play this game. I don't see anything about "entitlement", "monitor her every move", or "mommy's apron strings" in my post. Perhaps you are misattributing these comments? If so, no problem. Honest mistakes do happen.
My wife and I are completely honest with eachother. She asked me to set the password on her voicemail. Yes, you read that right. She knows what combinations I use for all of my passwords. I guess I just think that two people who love eachother and trust eachother should have nothing to hide. Because we trust eachother not to snoop, we feel comfortable with our current arrangement.
And here's a helpful hint just for you: don't call people out like that on an answer board. It may make you feel better about yourself, but it broadcasts your maturity level to everyone else. Best of luck.
2007-09-12 09:07:03 · answer #2 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Why doesn't he trust you? Did you do something to break the trust or is he just a control freak?
I have mixed feelings on this. I don't have my husbands passwords and he doesn't have mine. We trust each other. That's part of a good marriage and good relationships in general.
If this is a way of earning trust back because you screwed up, then I don't see the harm, you've got nothing to hide, right? And if that is the case, I would suggest marriage counseling.
If he's a control freak....marriage counseling.
2007-09-12 04:15:21 · answer #3 · answered by Erin 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No you're actually not stupid for coming near here. No, you're actually not incorrect to hearken to his voice mail. sure, for my area, you could call her and ask her if she could please clarify who she is and what's happening. She could supply you the fact or she would possibly no longer, yet you could supply it a try. there's a robust danger she does not even understand he's married. some married adult males who cheat won't even tell women they are married. some do yet some do no longer. some refuse to assert something which will decrease their opportunities of "scoring" and "getting fortunate" with women they desire to "get with" via fact they are properly conscious that some women will take off working in the different course as quickly as they locate out the guy is married, and that they do no longer desire their opportunities for intercourse decreased like that or in any way, shape, or form. Cheaters are such God damned products of trash. And so are their mistresses who're properly conscious they are married. yet like I pronounced, this lady would possibly no longer even understand.
2016-10-04 10:48:15 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
He has no reason to ask you, unless you are giving him a reason not to trust you, or he is just a controlling jerk. If it's the latter, there's no fixing him.
You are entitled to your privacy.
EDIT:
Charles U. Farley: Since when did saying "I do" give men the idea that they have some form of "entitlement" to control and monitor their wives' every move?
Men like you are so spineless and insecure. Just go tie yourselves back to mommy's apron strings and be done with it.
2007-09-12 04:33:41 · answer #5 · answered by tiny Valkyrie 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
No! And he shouldn't go through your purse, either. Woman should stay out of their husband's wallets and off their husband's e-mail, too. Everyone deserves a tad of privacy.
2007-09-12 04:16:25 · answer #6 · answered by Wiser1 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That's if you have something to hide. I don't care if my husband has mine because I'm upfront and their aren't any secrets. But if your husband is a control-FREAK then no he shouldn't !
2007-09-12 04:18:18 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My wife doesm't know the password for my voicemail but I'd make her listen to any message on my cell.
2007-09-12 04:16:07 · answer #8 · answered by St.Anger 4 · 0⤊ 2⤋
sure why not? Who cares - if you have nothing to hide, then what's the big deal? If it makes him feel better, then let him have it . I believe everyone needs privacy (bathroom time, etc.) but that's not one area where privacy should be needed.
2007-09-12 05:52:55 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
NO but if you are hiting things from him then yes he can
but my guys have never did that to me
but good luck
have you talked to him about that
2007-09-12 04:14:56 · answer #10 · answered by suepooh23 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋