I know he has emotional problems, anxiety, obsessive/compulsive and bipolar but he constantly tells me how much he loves me and how cute he thinks I am. However I can't seem to do anything to get him excited enough to actually make love and it bothers me a great deal. He admits his father is Gay and says that is not for him, that lifestyle. Yet I see he likes to dress in feminie clothes. He takes hormone supplements (Andregel) that should help with his low testosterone levels, however he has made no moves on me in over 3 months! And when I try to give him a hand job, he won't get hard??? I'm so confused and frustrated. I've been told I'm a very sexy lady so it must be him. What do I do??? I notice from reading his IM's with other women he meets in chat rooms that he tries to have online sex. What's this all about? When I am right there and ready for him?
2007-09-12 21:49:32 · 18 answers · asked by beautyofthesea 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I think you need to talk to his doctor/consultant about this problem. Some of the medications he is being prescribed for bipolar may be causing reduced libido. Also, insist that he stop cheating on-line - because that's what he is doing, even if he doesn't think so. Inappropriate erotic chat online may be causing him added stress and guilt which is compounding the problem. He says he loves you so presume that's true. His inability to perform sexually is a seperate problem that need attention NOW!! Otherwise you'll continue to be frustrated, he'll feel guilty and his self confidence will hit an all time low and it will become a vicious cycle!!..Do what you CAN do NOW - get medical help and get him off the net and back into the real world where a real woman who loves his lives.
2007-09-12 22:11:46 · answer #1 · answered by cautious 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
he sounds like he might have a lot of other problems which might be affecting his sex drive. It could be his medications and so on, I personally doubt he is gay, his situation with his father might be causing him to seek his approval which may be the cause for the cross/effeminate dress sense. It might be that he is wrong for you, I'm not sure I would be strong enough to deal with his other problems on top of the impact that must make on you. I do really feel for you. What a terrible situation. I think you need to decide what's important to you....and act on that decision....and of course be happy and accept your decision, I also think he may need professional help, which might help you too!
2007-09-12 22:24:42 · answer #2 · answered by Nati 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
first i must say sorry, he might be gay or not! but if it runs in the family chances are well you no better than anyone look dont cheat though but seriously confront him or test him,by that try to find sexy stuff on tv see how he responds if he does'nt seem to respond to sexy women, try to find uh some gay stuff if he responds to that you have an answer, or maybe he could just be bored with you, i'm kinda bored with my woman but i still like to have sex and often hey even if im bored with her i still have needs,or the worst he maybe cheating him self
2007-09-12 22:00:06 · answer #3 · answered by jmcslob 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey sexy lady.
If you are so sexy then why did you marry a nutter who cheats?
He tells you that you are cute??? Cute should describe the family dog not the good looking sex kitten of a wife you are.
If you read his emails then that shows you he isnt gay.
You need to trade him in for a normal person.
2007-09-12 22:16:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
Don't waste your life trying figure him out, it's time to move one. Find a real man that appreciates you and treats you like a woman.. That includes making love to you.
2007-09-13 01:06:55 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
i dont know if he does it all ready but a good way to get the testosterone pumping is do lift weights, if he goes to the gym for a couple of hours egvry other night i beleive he will become more interested in sex
2007-09-12 21:54:46 · answer #6 · answered by greyfox 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i say he is gay and the other women he IM with is him trying to find out if he can respond to a woman and it appears he can't. Get him to face the reality that he is gay.
2007-09-12 21:56:56 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋
You have to turn him out. Forget those hand jobs and use that tongue, also talk some of the dirtiest talk you have ever spoken. Tell him what u gonna do to it and how you gonna take it become a slut for your husband because that is probably who is talking to online. It better to become a slut for your husband than to have one take him away
2007-09-12 22:00:35 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
To tell you the honest truth you married the wrong man. He grew up in a gay atmosphere and can't get over it. Women don't do it for him. He needs another man to get him off.
2007-09-12 21:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
But you are real,
they are a fantasy.
Is he in denial?
He doesn't like that lifestyle,
but likes to dress in feminine clothes,
and no Sex. Hmmm
2007-09-12 22:15:10 · answer #10 · answered by elliebear 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋