When he decides to move on? But you still miss him? So much? How to get thru the night? And hope eventually this too shall pass? And he is moving on with someone else? What to do to with my time? Besides drinking my time away?
2007-09-12 17:33:12 · 15 answers · asked by banana 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
I wish I could wrap you all up and take you home with me!
2007-09-13 03:44:36 · update #1
isnt this the worst feeling ever. i too am going thru the very same thing. only there is no other woman, no reason at all actually. i have started drinking a little, but not to get drunk, it just stops me from crying constanly. i have been spending time on the computer, going out with family and friends, and reading. it is very hard. i suppose the only way to get over this is with time. i hope and pray that we both make it through. this is the hardest emothion i have ever gone thru. i keep telling myself that everything happens for a reason, sometimes we just gotta wait for the reason. im waiting....
2007-09-12 18:26:16 · answer #1 · answered by Landis 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I kept books and crossword puzzles on my nightstand for when I couldn't sleep. I did my best not to think about him with someone else, or count my faults that I was sure made the relationship not work. Save that for later when the pain has become bearable and you can actually put it in perspective.
Play on the computer, start a journal, try tylenol pm to put you to sleep. Stay away from the booze. It is a short term fix with long term consequences.
And you are worth more. You are not alone.
2007-09-13 00:59:55 · answer #2 · answered by dizzkat 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
you can get through this but the last thing you need is to hang around at home all by yourself. Find something to fill those lonely hours. Volunteer somewhere. Join a club. Invite friends over. Get another part-time job. It will help you by taking off your mind of the situation.
Hon, throw that bottle out the window and get involved. You can do it.
2007-09-13 00:51:19 · answer #3 · answered by ocean_girl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn to love yourself and find happiness in life all over again. The world will not stop for you while you go through this pain so unless you want to be left behind and forgotten you gotta suck it up and keep your head high. I know it can be so so painful but there really is gonna be better days hunny... trust me. There are lots of us out there and if we can do it then so can you. All I can suggest to help you pass the time rather than find your answers at the bottom of a bottle... is to go out with your friends and live life.
2007-09-13 00:47:31 · answer #4 · answered by sweet short and sarcastic 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Put on some music and get on the computer, or maybe join a club or a singles group, or become a volunteer with something your passionate about. Sounds like you still need to sort yourself out and start asking yourself what it is you really want in life and a partner and what could you do to improve things next time round.
2007-09-13 00:39:57 · answer #5 · answered by Live_For_Today 6 · 2⤊ 0⤋
You will get over him in time...just drink a little more and one morning mr. right will be right beside you in bed and you won't even remember him getting there.....
really just move on and time wil heal you heart.....have you ever tried not drinking and maybe going to starbucks or books a million....i am sure there are alot of awesome guys there....and if you don't find one.....talk to some women and make new friends.....
2007-09-13 01:08:29 · answer #6 · answered by thats me 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Go to church, seek out spending time with friends and family, go to the gym, start a hobby like knitting. There are sooooo many things you can be doing. What you are going through is normal. What doesn't kill you will make you stronger. Turning to alcohol is not a good solution. First thing you should do is see a counselor.
2007-09-13 00:40:58 · answer #7 · answered by I do 26.2 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
hello there banana im seperated also for 6 months now and im over it i em very busy with work and my son i did go see my husband a few weeks ago and we talked for the first time in the 6 months i was very drunk and i wanted to see him so bad but i didnt even recognize him we hugged and i even kissed him but there was no feelings there what so ever he does want a divorce but i told him to file not me cuz i do not believe in divorce and it will be a no fault hang in there girl when i get really drunk i use to think of my husband very strongly that is not good so now i have a little sex kitten to keep me busy date when ur ready gl girl hes not the only male out there you will be better off someday gl to ya jewels
2007-09-13 01:17:52 · answer #8 · answered by jewels 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Journal to get it out. Then. I use to love to sing/dance/ play guitar/piano. Anything. I would choose my sappy miss you love heartbreak songs and end the night with an uplifting I don't need you. Better off without you song. Really it is awesome! Then settle in for a nice People magazine (other), bath, and wine
Get over him one day at a time. "One Night a Day" Garth Brooks.
http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=3530822107858594054
And yesyou do think about them every now and then...
http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=3530822107858594018
Edit forgot one more...Learning to Live again...
http://www.songmeanings.net/lyric.php?lid=3530822107858594037
Good luck
2007-09-13 00:43:39 · answer #9 · answered by Woman in Red 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
u call up your gf, u make urself go out somewhere that have a lot of ppl, take a hot bath and do diffrent at home beauty treatments, work out, grab a good book, sign up for an online dating site etc hope all works out hun!
2007-09-13 00:48:55 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋