Marriage & Divorce - 14 September 2007

My husband and I have been married for 4 years, he's 29 and I'm 30. We have sex everyday and have been like that since day 1.He is always home with me and our 2 year old only once in a while he would be out with his family members to watch boxing. I nag alot and always accuse him of cheating.lately we have been fighting alot he says i'm pushing him out the door that he doesn't know how long he is gonna take it. we have even talked about getting a divorce. one time he told me he was going to see a fight at his cousin's house (right after work in his dirty work clothes) but when i asked him who won the fight he said there was no fight he was just hanging out with his cousins. why did he have to lie to me? you think maybe he had another set of clothes in his car and went out with another woman. a week later he had a weird # on his phone. when i asked him he said it was his cousin's phone# and gave me permission to call. is he cheating on me or am i going crazy?

2007-09-14 04:57:31 · 38 answers · asked by Janice 1

your own name as you "cross the finish line" with you're partner?

2007-09-14 04:53:44 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous

Who is the celebrity that, if they offered themselves to you, you would consider cheating on or leaving your spouse to be with them?

2007-09-14 04:53:25 · 18 answers · asked by Dominus 5

I'm a 22 year old strong and independant female. I'm focused on my career, my future and success. But for some reason when it comes to my boyfriend I am soooo needy. He treats me really bad and we fight all the time. I want kids and marriage one day but he doesn't know if he wants that seeing how he already has two kids. I have never let a man have this kind of power over me before. My question is why is it that I can be so strong and independant in every other aspect of my life but yet go home and be mistreated so badly? Why is it so hard for me to just pick up and leave? Anyone with experience and advice please give me some feedback and opinions. Thank you.

P.S. We have been together for 5 years and we live together.

2007-09-14 04:50:01 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Why is it that daughters typically turn out as their mothers?
Or is this just a myth?

2007-09-14 04:37:17 · 9 answers · asked by bhackle2 3

2007-09-14 04:31:46 · 44 answers · asked by Anonymous

He spent our 13 year marriages cheating (solid proof--he chalked up many scorned girlfriends that I have communicated with) and trading in some really gross porn. An investigator came to me the other day to interview me for his higher-than-God clearance and I told all--not to get back at him, but because I thought it was my duty to tell the truth. Now I feel guilty, why?

2007-09-14 04:30:14 · 18 answers · asked by colebolegooglygooglyhammerhead 6

Last year I was married, I have two girls ages 3 and 6, and was building my dream home. I met another woman and we fell in love and I got divorced. The guilt and the financial strain and the separation from my children was too difficult for me so I'm getting back with my ex. The problem is the other woman is the love of my life and I can't get over her or the guilt I have for breaking her heart. I can't even bring myself to be intimate with my ex. She understands that I'm going through a tough time so she doesn't push the issue but I don't know if I can get the other woman out of my mind. Ever. Have I done the right thing by choosing responsibility and the love of my children over romantic love, or have I made yet another mistake?

2007-09-14 04:21:16 · 32 answers · asked by brian 1

My husband forgot mine. I was really insulted. Not even a "happy birthday". Nothing.

I plan his birthday weeks in advance, and between my parents and myself, he gets hundreds of $$. We have been married for 4 years, and every year, my birthday is less and less important to him.

If he remembers, he goes out at the last minute and buys roses (I'm allergic to them, and he knows this, and i have told him the flowers I love, and he still buys roses).

He said that for his next birthday, I have permission to treat him badly and not buy him anything. That's ridiculous. I won't go down to that level.

2007-09-14 04:18:37 · 33 answers · asked by gg 7

this guy is 48 been married 2x divorce 2x. i just want to hang out and ride in his caddy truck. my sister tells me he need time to heal over his divorce. im not trying to start a relationship so whats the big deal so tell me the pro and the cons

2007-09-14 04:11:02 · 8 answers · asked by champ 2

How many women would be comfortable with their husbands staying home to take care of the kids & house. I would love to, however I'm in a line of work where I make more money than my wife. She is looking for something that will paymore so this may come true for me.

2007-09-14 04:10:24 · 12 answers · asked by St.Anger 4

If so, please post the information here. Thanks.

2007-09-14 04:07:43 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous

this is to know whether a man can still marry another woman if he is already married civil

2007-09-14 04:03:51 · 25 answers · asked by miejae 1

Do you it to late for them to do so.

2007-09-14 04:01:15 · 12 answers · asked by Jewel E 2

2007-09-14 03:55:09 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

Well now that a problem has passed with my mother-in-law, how do I approach her. I haven't spoken to her since the party was canceled, about 3 1/2 weeks ago, that she was giving for me and my fiance. She canceled it due to a miscommunication with me and my temper and my fiance's big mouth. I overreacted to the invitation and the way my name was abbreviated on the invite. I don't know what to say to her? And should I bring it up? Or just pretend nothing happened. My fiance said she's fine and doesn't care...but i don't know if thats true.

2007-09-14 03:54:45 · 19 answers · asked by loving life!!!!! 6

With the divorce rate as high as it is the chances of becoming involved with someone who has an ex spouse and kids is very high. As a recently divorced mother of one son who thinks she is now ready to start dating again I am wondering what my chances are of meeting someone. I have my own house, car, a good job and my son lives with me. I have very little to do with my ex husband. However, I am a single mom. If a person wanted a serious relationship with me they would have to accept my son as well. So, my question, how are divorced moms viewed in the dating world?

2007-09-14 03:46:51 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous

My (now deceased) stepmother after leaving my father for her lover pretended to be my friend in order to get revenge on my father for divorce court proceedings. I never spoke to her again after discovering the tape recorder but I still wonder if that was legal!!??

2007-09-14 03:45:55 · 11 answers · asked by D J M 1

looking to ask my girlfriend for her hand in marriage.

planning on asking her dad for permission/blessing but should her mum be there????

worry worry worry

2007-09-14 03:45:32 · 18 answers · asked by andy_woody_01 2

talking with each other every day? this is my friend´s case, she is the sister seeing her ex brother-in-law...she claims there are no romantic feelings involved and doesn´t understand her sisters negative feelings about this situation...there are kids involved (who are confused!) and the sister and husband were together for over 20 years...I think she´s playing with fire and should look for another best friend..

2007-09-14 03:41:29 · 15 answers · asked by Anonymous

Just so you can have a better view of things....My husbands ex, cheated on him and got pregnant by another guy as a result. My husband and his ex have 3 kids together and she is now married to the person she had cheated on him with. She is constantly posting false information on a website that can be viewed by anyone in her friends list incl. her kids. She has threatened my husband several times, and is now telling me I shouldn't be a parent, I should re-thing having a child from him a.s.o.... I know this is childsplay and that in retrofect she is jealous that her ex has found happyness with me and that she is no longer "in control" of his life, but after dealing with this for years now I am sick of it. How can I get her to stop the drama? Help!

2007-09-14 03:39:28 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex and I got back togeather during the summer for two months. We have a child in common. She moved in with me then month later broke up with me. I was nice about it and left to let her stay in the house and I went some where else. Since then she has spent alot of time at the residence i'm at now instead of the one I let her stay at.

When asked what she want its bi-polar. I love you don't give up on me, next I just wont your friend ship. She has walled up all of her emotions, tells me its hard for her to talk to me in person. She loves to talk and text on cell phone (i guess she feels she is in control when on phone)

I think she has someone else but hasnt gone public with it, how do you deal with this. I either want space to get over her or work on things. So how do you approach this with some one so flakey.

2007-09-14 03:34:24 · 9 answers · asked by LymeLizzard 1

I am MALE married for 6 year now. I get yelled at by my every week. This has become such a recuring pattern and yet so unpredictable on the next "storm".

My wife has poor and nasty feedback style. Any difference of opinion is only a "verbal nuclear war". No room for discussions and mutual resolutions. I have a kid. Divorce is not that easy option for me.

Question:

a) Are there men who are victims in an abuse marriage

b) How do you cope up with the situation and maintain your self esteem ?

2007-09-14 03:10:47 · 37 answers · asked by Anonymous

I’ve been with my spouse for 8 years. We’ve been through a lot together and want the same things from life. We have two children together. [I’m a girl btw, pay no attention to the avatar.] I married when I was 19, had my first child at 21 and second just 1.5 years ago. I’m now 28. I love my girls and don’t want to tear their lives apart. I love my husband too, and he loves me.

The problem is that I love him in a way that’s not passionate. I don’t feel a strong connection with him anymore. He’s a good friend, and I still find him physically attractive, but I have no sexual desire to be close or intimate. I feel myself pull away and want nothing to do with it. We fight a lot. The root of those fights is arguably my own standoffishness toward him.

I just feel like I want to be free. I don’t want to have to answer to him anymore. Sometimes I think I married too young and had kids too fast and now my life is too far entrenched to get out. And so I despair and am very depressed. I fe

2007-09-14 03:10:26 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

I am married with 3 girls. I have been with my husband for 6 years , 5 of which were HELL. he is now in jail and wont quit drinking that is why he is back in jail now he wont hold a job and I cant see raising my girls like this. I have been having car trouble and my friends cousin has been helping me out alot and I find my self liking him and him liking me. I dont belive in divorce because it was not a part of the agreement but he is not keeping his vows to me. Should I stay or should I leave? Yes I love him but you cant live on love and it seems we cant get past his drinking and abusive behaviors. thanks in advance

2007-09-14 02:50:54 · 28 answers · asked by faithfullyyours 3

Hello, I wanted to get some opinions here. I am 25 and been with my hubby since I was 15. We have grown together and had lots of good and bad times..as most marriages do. But for the past year or a bit longer, my husband has been drinking pretty heavily. I have a problem with this. I have talked to him numerous times about this and help. He always says he will quit, but tomorrow. I am at my breaking point. He is a very good man, better than I can ask for. But this is a real issue for me. Its too much, everyday as soon as he gets home from work. I dont like the way he is, I feel like Im with another man all the time. Not who Im in love with. My feelings for him seem to be fading. I love him with all my heart, but I cannot stand another day of this. Money issues, fights, ect. Last night, after he had plenty..he wanted me to take my usual trip back up and buy more. I told him no and kinda freaked. All had built up and I finally told him I think I was falling out of love with him.

2007-09-14 02:36:51 · 27 answers · asked by Anonymous

Young girls, the way they talk is so very annoying to me. I cannot imagine a guy having a real conversation with some of them. Its all "like" words and the most ridiculous ways of speaking I have ever heard. I work out in a gym and two young girls very pretty were just yapping and yapping, you couldn't help but listen to them. When guys came by they would get even louder. I thought what a shame so pretty and yet so annoying. All I could do was try to get away from them. When I left their ignorant way of speaking and stupid conversations rang through my ears for a moment and I wondered how could a guy find that attractive? How can you actually have a real live conversation with young girls who speak that way? Can you? I am serious, is that how our young girls actually communicate these days? WOW What a shame!

2007-09-14 02:35:35 · 10 answers · asked by Maria 5

I cant leave him. I can't. He clearly doesn't love me. he chooses his work over his family and has disrespected me in unreal ways. our relationship has been abusive physically, mentally, and verbally. He has called me every name in the book, left me suicidal. He has called exes in the middle of fights, he has degraded me and thrown the fact I was molested as a child in my face. He belittles me makes me want to curl up in a ball and die.Through arguements at the most heated points hes told me that he wants to leave me but doesn't know how to move on, hes told me he stays for our daughter. His apologies have become non-existant and pathetic since his time at his new job. Hes become more masculating and doesn't seem to care even more. He escapes to work that is a tattoo shop. Yesterday was where my last string of hope disappeared. His cellphone is very sensitve and called me while he was at work. I overheard an entire conversation about my husband cheating on me, his coworkers advising...

2007-09-14 02:34:05 · 24 answers · asked by jmalin04 3

i have a problem i recently gotten married in june and now i want out. reason being my wife has two girls and i have 3 girls from a preievous marriage. well first of all she never have her oldest one do nothing far as cleaning dishes after we eat it is either her doing them or me. And plus she had a child past away in 1999 and everytime his birthday comes around she just be moaning around the house i know it is a great lose to her but i why should i have to go threw this. her little daughter is so hard headed and both of them are so sneaky, they lie and just do things i am not use to and there is nothing said on her part. then as soon as i get quite she think some thing is wrong with me i dont like kids lieing to me or doing thing behind my back and being lazy i cant take it either i dont know what to do

2007-09-14 02:23:34 · 12 answers · asked by Anonymous

divorce has nothing to do with a third party it was mainly financial probs that caused break down,her sister is single and we've always got on realy well,she thinks her sister is wrong to divorce me ! and has been there for me

2007-09-14 02:17:25 · 20 answers · asked by Anonymous