Marriage & Divorce - 14 September 2007

How would you deal with someone close to u...really close...who keeps on saying he is unwell everytime u talk to him... I know someone really close, who is highly laid back, lazy at 25... and keeps on cribbing abt eeryone he knows right from teachers,friends, family... he thinks he is always correct and gets irritated with smallest of things.
I have tried doing things for him, like buying gifts once in a while, writing letters, almost everything.
I cant leave him nor stay with this trait of his, which seems to be an inseperable part of him since childhood.
And i m someone who is always smiling and energeti.
how do i deal with the situation, he seems lifeless with no zeal to live, Pls help

2007-09-14 18:33:27 · 4 answers · asked by niks 3

I dont understand my wife, she wants to have sex on average about 3 times a week. And I only care to have it maybe once or twice a month. I work alot of overtime and I am very tired when I come home. She tells me all the time that she needs to feel loved. but she comes to me so much that this turns me off. She get angry and starts crying, says that I dont love her. I tell her that when I want this we will have sex. I just dont understand her and she is making thing worse with me. I am 45 and she is 40. I dont know what to do.

2007-09-14 18:28:59 · 33 answers · asked by joe 1

We share custody of our only child & it gets crazy hectic sometimes trying to commute back & forth. We are less than amicable but both of us have moved on with other spouses & now have other children as well. There is a great house right down the road from him that I am considering buying but I wonder if there's anyone who's done that who can give me some input? It's in a subdivision which means we might run into them at the pool or walking sometimes. I'm not a stalker. I don't want to try to befriend them or rekindle anything. I'm just trying to make things easier on all of us.

Your thoughts please....

2007-09-14 18:24:57 · 11 answers · asked by I Give Up 1

What would you do and how would you feel if the man you thought you married turned out to be someone totally different?
I just got married 3 months ago to a wonderful, caring, loving, religious, funny........well you get the idea.....man. The problem is that as it turns out he is really not all those things!!
Turns out he has been hiding a drinking problem from me, has run up hundreds of dollars in credit cards, has spent all our money, and has been lying to my face for at least 5 months that I know of! We have always been close I knew him for almost a year before we got engaged and was engaged to him for over a year. I just thought marriage was going to be pretty easy for us, because we had (I thought) always been honest with each other and just had one of those rare relationships you always hear about in fairy tales. I try to live as Christian as possible, so I don't believe in divorce, but I feel so betrayed and hurt. To make matters worse I know have to handle all our.....

2007-09-14 18:21:49 · 10 answers · asked by Mrs. CT 4

2007-09-14 18:20:49 · 8 answers · asked by stel 2

When I first met my bf, he told me him & his wife were broken up. I found out 2 months later that wasn't true-still married (found out when she found out about me) but by then we were living together. We've been together a total of 10 months now and I'm pregnant (due December). I have just now found out he's been cheating on me with his wife since month 4 of our relationship. But I'm unemployed, without health insurance, don't have a good family support system to fall back on so I need him-money, apartment, etc. I did manage to get him pissed off at his wife so he hasn't seen her for the last month (or their 3 kids) so I think he's done cheating and picked me over her. But what do you think I should do? Yes-my life is a soap opera.

2007-09-14 18:18:07 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

I'm not saying that I'm against kids out of marriage; however, do you think it's crazy that people have 2, 3 or even 4 kids and then decided to get married.

I know lots of young women that get pregnant by mistake. If they love the father of the child, they often end up getting married. But, usually after 1 child out of marriage they get the idea. They start using birth control or condoms. Then they get married before deciding to have more children.

But, I don't understand people who have 3 or 4 kids with someone over a 5-6 time period and then decide to get married.

I know to each is it's own. But, I think it's sort of doing things too backwards.

Like I said, it's understandable if you have one child and then get married b/c you want your boyfriend, you and your child to be an official family.

But, why do so many people pop out all these kids (consciously, the 1st time is a mistake. After that you should wake up and use protection.) and then have the wedding?

2007-09-14 18:14:18 · 10 answers · asked by Answer Girl 2007 5

I have been going through a really rough time since my husband abandoned me and my three children. I went to counseling and learned about my codependant behaviors and why I am still holding on. Anyone out there have any advice on this topic?

2007-09-14 18:08:31 · 7 answers · asked by danaispeace 2

What would you think if your husband told you he still had naked pics of his ex becuase he was saving them for blackmail. Would you take it as that or would you think there was some other reason for having them? Let me know. thanks!

2007-09-14 17:54:58 · 11 answers · asked by LP's Mommy, RN 6

I am right now 16 and my boyfriend is 17 almost 18. Since the begining of this relationship, we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lifes with each other. He has already purposed to me, and i said yes, but we both agreed to wait till i get started in college and am 20. Do you think this is way too young too get married? Does it matter how old you are when you fall in love that determines how long your relationship will last? help me please

2007-09-14 17:54:04 · 42 answers · asked by Ninja Bre 1

my kids were taken away 10 years ago and my own lawyers said it would be best to sign my rights away they said because the judge was going to take my rights away anyway and i was 21 i thought they were right but i didnt know that i didnt have to sign them away. Then my mom got custody of them and after 5 years she got to sick to keep them . I have been charged child support for all of the times they were in the states custody . Iwould like to know if i should have to pay that ?

2007-09-14 17:49:08 · 14 answers · asked by Angela 101 1

2007-09-14 17:36:00 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous

This matter was a small matter but is turning into a big matter. I called my husband at 8:00 a.m. - left a message and asked him to call me back if he could within a half an hour because I would be immersed in meetings for the rest of the day. He called me at 3:00 pm - busy with work all day. He told me that he didn't get my message until 10:00. Our cell phone bill came electronically the next day -- I looked it over and discovered that he checked his phone messages at 8:05 -- realizing that he'd gotten my message right after I called!! I pointed it out and he changed the password on our cell phone bill - and got super pissed at me...screaming and telling me that I had trust issues. I trust him. I wasn't even mad that he didn't call me back - - just that he had fibbed about checking his message. Now, he's making statements like, 'I treat you well and am treated like this!' Should I feel bad or wonder if something else is going on?

2007-09-14 17:29:04 · 11 answers · asked by macdaddy0214 1

When a woman asks you to share your feeling or just share your thoughts... why do you look at us like we are asking for a pint of blood..or as if you dont understand the question?

2007-09-14 17:20:07 · 21 answers · asked by phantom43 2

and not tell his wife because i just think it would be easier and quicker for the divorce im afraid that he might change his mind and they'll try to work it out am i making the right choice to keep it quiet for now?

2007-09-14 17:18:32 · 23 answers · asked by MO 2

Mine is working as a nurse and getting hire education, what do you think it's my priority?

2007-09-14 17:02:43 · 17 answers · asked by 結縁 Heemei 5

Have the rough spots in your marriage made it stronger despite how rough it got or because of how rough it got. I feel the worst ends up being the best. My wife and I went through some of the worst stuff a married couple can deal with and as a result, I think we're better off for it.

What are your experiences in this regard?

2007-09-14 16:12:58 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous

would you think it was weird if your man wanted you to have sex with him and another guy?? He's got no interest in the other guy or anything, for some reason he like two guys on girl. I could see it being a fantasy I guess, but he seems absolutely serious. What do you think? Is it weird or just normal guy **** that they fantasize about? Either way, I'm not doing it!

2007-09-14 15:53:02 · 31 answers · asked by Anonymous

I love my husband very much but the only thing is, he hardly ever remarks on my appearance. If I ask him, he only gives a one word answer. I'm interested in another man's view on this matter but I don't want my husband's friend to think I'm coming on to him-because I'm not. I like him just as a friend and ONLY that, and he know's how I feel. Should I ask him when my husband's in the room? My husband's friend is not married but is dating a girl that I think is a great person.

2007-09-14 15:28:52 · 23 answers · asked by Shortie Cake 2

Am I the only one in the world who is grossed out when a girl lets her bush grow like a jungle? I know i dont shave my balls but souldnt women keep it to at least a triangle?

2007-09-14 15:10:42 · 19 answers · asked by lionssb42 1

we have two children who will graduate from high school next june. What should I do? We are still living together but we are not having any sex. She says Iam to clingy. I grow up in a home where there was always screaming and hollering and I have done that in this marriage. Both of us have been marrried once before

2007-09-14 15:03:53 · 24 answers · asked by DaddyO 1

I would like to do something really nice for her when she gets back home, just to show her she was missed by all of us. I was thinking of a get away but she would probably like to be in her own home. Any ideas?

2007-09-14 14:54:10 · 9 answers · asked by 400lbtwins 4

I am married w/ two children. I work, clean house. make appt. go shopping for groceries. and when were sick we still have to take care of everything. And when men are sick there the biggest baby's

2007-09-14 14:53:07 · 11 answers · asked by Amanda s 3

Okay, I met this guy & we have a blast together, only he won't commit to a serious relationship, even tho neither of us have dated anyone else in the past 4 yrs. His cop out is that he tried involving someone else in his life (twice) & he doesn't feel it is fair to try again. I know, he is afraid of commintment, how do I break threw this barrior? I don't want to live alone forever, but I don't want to give him up either. I have never felt free enough to totally be myself with any other person before.

2007-09-14 14:49:28 · 7 answers · asked by pony 2

And I told her I'd rather make some tea, so I tea bagged her and then she tossed the salad

2007-09-14 14:40:44 · 21 answers · asked by lionssb42 1

What Im gone tell her?

2007-09-14 14:23:00 · 39 answers · asked by Anonymous

so my girl cheated on me 3 months back, and i forgave but didnt forget. now i know she has made great strides in trying her best, but i just dont feel it for her anymore. she is the love of my life, but i also shouldnt have to be looking over my shoulder at what she is doing.

from a woman's point of view, what do you think she is dealing with right now? when i told her what i wanted to do, we talked about it, and she was biting her nails a lot and in the end couldnt even look at me b/c of the tears that was ready to flow. i know i have a spot that she could probably touch and go back to normal....but this has to be the changing point to where i get put first, and not everyone else along with the fact that she might cheat again. if i dont feel anything after this break does that make me a jerk? i need help here! i love her, but at what heartache to me?

2007-09-14 14:22:27 · 17 answers · asked by notcatchable 1

My confidence back? I have my days where i think i look good, but most the time i feel ugly. How do i not think like that anymore? Pllllleeeaaassssse help.
Thanx!

2007-09-14 14:22:09 · 11 answers · asked by Notiq 2

2007-09-14 14:21:30 · 7 answers · asked by LOOBYLOO 3

I was the other woman in an affair that last 1 1/2 years. His wife found out about the affair and as of yesterday he told me he didn't want to go to counseling with his wife and was going to talk to her today. He says he loves me but doesn't want to leave because of his kids. I have tried to end this 3 times in the last 3 weeks but he keeps confiding in me and talking to me every chance he gets. I got very angry and just told him to figure things out for himself I need to get on with my life. I asked him why can't he just say goodbye to me and go on with his life. He told me just to have some patience because he can't bring himself to say goodbye yet. I need some closure to get on with my life. Needless to say I am in counseling weekly and trying to better myself. Why do you think he won't say goodbye?


please no bashing me because i am the other woman..i know i was wrong and trying to move forward and be a good person.

2007-09-14 14:16:17 · 30 answers · asked by Anonymous