Am I Getting Married TOO Young?

Question

I am right now 16 and my boyfriend is 17 almost 18. Since the begining of this relationship, we knew we wanted to spend the rest of our lifes with each other. He has already purposed to me, and i said yes, but we both agreed to wait till i get started in college and am 20. Do you think this is way too young too get married? Does it matter how old you are when you fall in love that determines how long your relationship will last? help me please

Answer 1

Well if you guys really love eachother, and if your still with eachother till 20, you can tell that theres commitment and true love. You guys are soulmates, don't let anything stop you. And if your parents give you their blessings, go for it, life is too short!! go enjoy

Answer 2

The course to take is a slow deliberate one. At your current ages you really haven't experienced life enough to know if your paths will go in the same direction.

Let yourselves mature awhile till you get out of college and get a career started. If you still feel the same way about each other, go for it.

You never stated if he plans college or is going into a trade. If he goes to college too, then waiting that extra time help him get established and see how college loans effect his budget. If he's going right to work, you'll be able to see if he is a reliable worker and starts building that nest egg for your future.

For many decades men proposed, got engaged, for the main purpose of acquiring the privileges of a husband. Then when they get tired of things they move on. If this is his intentions or not time will tell. But if these are part the deal, please be careful and protected.

Unexpected visitors are quick to way to derail school, much less college. Many times he'll split, seen more than once by men of all ages and wealth.

Your life is still young, enjoy the freedoms you have and the ability to choose the direction you want to go. If you are meant to be together, he'll be there when you both have time to experience life first.

Play it smart!

Best of Luck!

Answer 3

Just wait four years, a lot can happen. Sometimes things work, but most of the time they do not. The guy I "knew I would spend the rest of my life with" and I broke up less than 2 months into college. I got engaged to my now husband and wonderful man of 5 years when I was 20. We got married when I was 23 do I could finish college.

Keep working on your relationship, but be open to change if things start to unravel.

Answer 4

Well, that's for you and your boyfriend to determine. There are only two opinions that matter in a relationship and that's of course the two people in said relationship. If your sure you want to spend the rest of your life with him then i don't think anyone who responds to your question will sway you to think otherwise. I know there is a large amount of high school sweethearts that get married and then divorced but i doesn't mean that it could be you.

Marriage is hard work and you have to know you will fight. That's just the nature of marriage. You don't get married if you think there is a chance you don't like him.

Alot of young people get married for the wrong reasons, Make sure your getting married for the right reasons.

Answer 5

yeah you are way too young. if you both really love each other you should wait. at least graduate college, and then if you are still together, then think about marriage. as for facts the younger you marry the less likely the marriage will be successful. i think some questions to ask yourself are if you really understand what it means to be married, and not only that but to live as an adult. do you know how to pay bills, manage your money, balance work and a relationship. love is important in marriage but it is also a partnership. i think at 16 you get caught up in feelings, and you dont know responsibility yet.

Answer 6

Hell Yes! Trust me! Nobody falls for their highschool sweetheart. I was in love in high school and now I read the love letters and I cringe. Plus he can't afford you, did he propose with a big diamond or did he propose when he was trying to get you to take off your clothes. Take it slow. College is much more fun if you date around. I would take a break, if you love eachother THAT much then you'll get back together later in life.

Either way, your probably dissatisfied with my answer, however, I will bet you there is a 99% chance you will not stay together through college and I hope you remember my predicition when you break up.

Youre too young. Go out and live a little bit. Get and education. Get a job. Be crazy. Date around. Go to parties. Enjoy your friends. The longest and most enduring relationships are always friendships. Men come and go until you find that right one.

Answer 7

Many people fall in love young and end up with happy marriages. You both want to get married when the time is right. Finishing school and preparing yourselves financially is a good idea. Money is a very large stress for all marriages.
Also I hope you both enjoy your life as singles. You need to be a strong person by yourself first. You need some life experiences first. Enjoy being young.

Answer 8

You're only 16. Going through college and the next few years you definitely won't feel the same and you'll regret it. You'll know whose right later on. Just have fun, theres no need for commitment and guaranteed if you get married that young and already decided you will at 16, you're probably gonna get divorced since relationships at that age just aren't meant to last. Hope you make the right choice

Answer 9

The length of a relationship is solely based on how hard you both work at it, because once the hormones fade and nothing but problems are around it gets tough, not that its all bad just its hard unless you both care.

These ethics are not found commonly among youngsters, but even less among adults. Don't fret over age when what is most important is always swearing to be their for one another no matter what the circumstances.

A mistake not made is much easier to handle than any other.

God bless.

Answer 10

If you are asking us than yes you are too young. If it is a good relationship it will last past collage. Many people experience changes from 16 to 20.
Wait.
Yes, how old you are does matter, in fact your level of maturation changes quickly between starting collage and going to work.

Answer 11

Yes, you are still 4 years away. Don't go planning a marriage with someone this young and in 4 years.

I think 20 is way too young. Honestly, ideally I think a good age to marry is 25+

A lot will change between now and when you turn 20.

Start worrying about your homework, what college you want to go to or even what dress you'll wear to prom this year...............don't worry about a marriage. With a marriage comes bills, a house and mortgage, a full-time job.........you're honestly too young to even understand or what those things.