Marriage & Divorce - 14 September 2007

well, he died of cancer and it was September like these days and it happened in 22 days, it had the kind that expands really rapidly, and it was quite a shock to me. So apart from the funeral, I never have been in his grave, I guess I denied the fact he's dead and secretly telling myself 'he's in a trip'. Sometimes he was really mean spirited and abusive verbally and physically but the last month before he was diagnosed, we spent a month together in the summer and we have worked out our issues and I realized how much he meant to me. There are times i really miss him and have these dreams that nothing has changed but when I wake up, everything is changed. For the first time I want to go to his grave, but I'm afraid I will be shattered. I tried to be strong for so long. Seems now I have to let go and accept that void. I wish i knew what to do. I am afraid that if I go there again all my anger about the past will surface again and my anger that he died so quickly. it's strange...

2007-09-14 11:09:47 · 26 answers · asked by sarah kay 5

basically. how do you rationalize with a complete fool? everything they say is nonsensical, immature, and just silly? but you ahve to deal with them daily... what do you do?

2007-09-14 11:07:54 · 11 answers · asked by just bees and things and flowers 2

Besides just telling them..

2007-09-14 10:47:48 · 5 answers · asked by JAVACHIC 2

When cuddling with my husband at night I get so restless. I toss and turn. I get itchy and wiggly. I can't sleep until I have wiggled for about a half hour. I am like a cat twirling in place before I find the right spot to lay. I am aware that it is mental but I can't seem to stop myself. Does anyone suffer like me? Any advice on how to end this?

2007-09-14 10:36:01 · 9 answers · asked by meedebi 3

2007-09-14 10:25:50 · 10 answers · asked by TOOMUCH 1

Flat out, I'll be honest and say I'm starting to feel threatened in my new marriage. My husband & his ex-wife have been divorced 7 years. From all accounts, it was a messy break-up with her moving several states away to follow a new boyfriend who she later had her 2nd child with. At the time my husband & I met 2 years ago, he told me that he was organizing his finances & job to move to be closer to his son. When we decided to get married, we both agreed that we were ready to make this move together, because I too feel it is difficult to be a long-distance parent. Now a year later & much more time passed in-person with my new stepson, his mother and her family, I find myself in this awkward situation of an ex-wife who seems to regret her choice from 7 years ago and a stepson who constantly seems to be passing along flirtatious comments to my husband on behalf of his mother. My husband doesn't act flattered, but he also hasn't put an end to it. I feel slighted & insecure.

2007-09-14 10:24:10 · 18 answers · asked by stepmom 1

My husband and i have never had a honeymoon and we have been married for almost 4 years. My husband has been deployed and is not ordered to return until next June. By the time that month rolls around we will have been apart for a whole year. When he comes home i want to do something, just the two of us. Unexpensive but fun and romantic for the both of us. If anyone has any ideas please let me know. Thank u so much for ur time!

2007-09-14 10:03:57 · 6 answers · asked by ladyjwitt 2

2007-09-14 10:02:51 · 17 answers · asked by braves fan 1

I just completed the forms, how long should I expect it to take? The guide suggests about 10 - 12 weeks, is this a bit too hopeful?

2007-09-14 09:53:45 · 5 answers · asked by Everyday's the same again... 5

Sex and Money are the top to things most couples fight about. What is wrong with the idea of increasing what you can so you fight less? In this case it would be sex, so why not just have more sex and fight less? Isn't fighting less a go thing?

2007-09-14 09:49:47 · 12 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

It is a sentence (a life sentence!).

Marriage is an institution in which a man loses his Bachelor's Degree and the woman gets her Masters.
Marriage is a thing which puts a ring on a woman's finger and two under the man's eyes.

2007-09-14 09:42:54 · 19 answers · asked by girl24gr 3

2007-09-14 09:25:50 · 35 answers · asked by anywho 1

Has your partner ever asked you to look at porn with them. How did you react? Did you like it?

My husband has asked me a couple of times over the 12 years we've been married, but i'd find it embarrasing and uncomfortable with him looking at other women. Experiences/advice would be welcome. Thanks.

2007-09-14 09:25:37 · 75 answers · asked by Catherine1 4

A man is sitting with his wife and family at the dinner table. The man and woman were both married once before. In the conversation, Santa Cruz, CA, is mentioned. The son asks the man if he has ever been to Santa Cruz. The man answers that he has been to Santa Cruz many times and says, "My wife came from Santa Cruz."

1. In your opinion, does this sentence produce any confusion as to whom "my wife" refers? (The new wife does not come from Santa Cruz.)

2. By not saying "ex-wfe", could this indicate that the man still has some emotional attachment to the first wife?

Please answer yes or no to each question, and feel free to add any commentary.

Thank you.

Ed

2007-09-14 09:25:12 · 12 answers · asked by Ed 2

OK so my husband who I ahve suspected of cheating for a month finally made a really stupid move... he bought a hotel room for tonight using money out of our checking account.
So I of course am going to the hotel to take pics of his car, any other suggetions of things to do while at the hotel???
I am going to be sitting here forever at the hotel...

2007-09-14 09:23:54 · 16 answers · asked by baghussy222 1

My husband is more traditional Im more of a liberal. The issues here I can make my own decisions when it comes to everyday things that need to be done. I work and put my paychecks right along with his. He will fuss at me at times and say I have no control over you and your going to do what you want to do anyway. His mom did not work outside of the home mine did. How do you combine both of these worlds. Before we were married he helped with chores now hardly. How can we meet in the middle?

2007-09-14 09:20:17 · 4 answers · asked by indigodreams41 1

My mom is 41 years old, my step dad is 34 years old. They live in my house on a army base. I've been married for one year most of that year they have been there. My husband is goin to Iraq in 6 months we need some time alone BUT my mom wants to divorce my step dad.(yeah my life is fun) BUT shes been saying that for 5 years. (They have been married for 12 years). She says she doesn't want to move out "i hate him." My dad thinks everythings fine. He was in a car reck so he's not all there if you kno what mean. What should i do tell her to grow up and get a divorce or tell them to move out? I don't want my mom to be unhappy. My husband is the best. I just want to be with him for the little time we do have together before he goes.(sorry if my spelling is wrong please help me)!

2007-09-14 09:16:07 · 8 answers · asked by Anonymous

A man can only have so much sex per day, so a quickie in the morning and some more at night every day would just make him to tired to cheat. Shouldn't that stop men from cheating?

2007-09-14 09:15:32 · 21 answers · asked by snack_daddy10 6

so i've been married four days under a month and have only had sex with my husband once (on our wedding night..)
i've tired to get him in the mood and he doesn't become interested. I've even dressed in ligerne and cooked him dinner and all he said was 'you look cute' and then wondered away...when we go to bed he turns on the tv instead of giving me any attention. we started to fool around one night and i couldn't even get him hard...i don't know what to do anymore- i don't even know how to act around him. please help me. what do i do- i'm getting stressed out and depressed.
please anyone have any advice. i tried telling him i want more sex and he told me to stop pressuring him and that it has to be spontanious- yet he never innicates anything..

2007-09-14 09:13:35 · 42 answers · asked by stephanie 6

when THEY ARE BORED.

Maybe if they put as much into their relationship as they do trying to find someone else, they wouldnt feel the need to cheat.

So people. what are your excuses for cheating?

2007-09-14 09:06:42 · 11 answers · asked by waywildcherri 2

I currently have a 3 year old and an 18 month old. I am also 6 months pregnant. Last night I face-to-face caught my fiance cheating on me with a stripper. Any words of advice on how to deal with all this emotional pain of being a single mom of 3 by myself and dealing with what he did to me? I'm not getting back with the guy. I can't put up with this!!! Please help me!!!

2007-09-14 09:02:18 · 20 answers · asked by ekj6585 1

2007-09-14 08:58:19 · 23 answers · asked by Anonymous

I just now saw that Yahoo! has an article that's supposed to give women advice on how to keep their men from straying. To say the very least, I find this VERY off-putting, because it carries the assumption that it's the woman's fault if her husband or boyfriend cheats and that men somehow aren't responsible for their own behavior.

2007-09-14 08:43:49 · 17 answers · asked by tangerine 7

I am at the beginning of a divorce and have no intentions of dating anytime soon. However, my grandmother (who divorced at 25 with two kids and never re-married) keeps telling me to get used to the idea of being a single mom forever. She insists that "no one will want a divorced mother of three". I will be 24 in December and my children are 4, 2, and I am due in a few weeks with my third. I am a strong Christian woman and I am dedicated to my family. Howvever, my soon to be ex has had 5 affairs and says he doesn't love me and doesn't want me. Being completely honest.... are there men out there who are willing to accept an amazing woman who comes with three wonderful children?

My soon to be ex will pick up another chick ASAP without a problem. That's what is really screwed up about this whole thing. He'll move on with single life and the kids and I will be left to suffer the consequences.

2007-09-14 08:16:59 · 35 answers · asked by mrs michelle 4

when the wife asks her husband to do one thing he acts as if your asking him to do a ten mile run. For example Can you stop by and grab me something to eat. or if your wife has changed her mind and its just 5 min that passed and he acts as if he has a hot date with the chair

2007-09-14 08:15:35 · 19 answers · asked by Anonymous

Say you're in a longterm relationship for about 3+ years & you caome across this message on your lover's phone
" a kiss can be a wonderful thing, all I can sy is that you have really soft lips & I would like to feel them again soon." But the thing is, its saved in drafts. You tell them about it & they deny that it was for someone else. They insists that it was meant for you. would you buy it??? now remember, your relationship is sexual....

2007-09-14 08:07:18 · 19 answers · asked by Lue 2

My son-in-law has his priority so screwed up he plays softball 2 nights a week and then all week-end, my daughter is pregnant ,due in 2 weeks, & with another baby a year old He will night change we have all tried to talk to him and he says he will not change he has done this all his life, he is 22 years old my daughter is 20. We are so sick of his crap,please give a mother some advice they cannot afford to be on their own, so they live with us. we love our daughter dearly and grand-babies

2007-09-14 07:32:18 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous

Hi , I heard that you should place an ad in newspaper announcing a divorce if your spouse can't be found. How long must or should I place the ad for? they're pretty darn expensive. 30 days is over $500! and 1 week is $155!! Please help

2007-09-14 07:32:14 · 3 answers · asked by stacey t 1

my husband told me I give the best brains ever and he acts like he wants to do everything to make me happy just because of this.He told me that he has friends whose wives refuse to do so and this is why they cheat on them.We have been married for 14 years and I give it to him as soon as he hits the front door everyday.I just want to hear it from other men only if this is true ?

2007-09-14 07:25:47 · 25 answers · asked by Anonymous

My ex is almost 13000 dollars behind and he is trying to get me to drop the arreages but of course I will not. So he has hired an attorney and is taking me to court saying that he has receipts for clothes and stuff. Not money. During our separation of two years he only paid me 4800 dollars in childsupport. Do buying gifts count towards childsupport payments?

2007-09-14 07:24:20 · 13 answers · asked by So S 1