What is your opinion of the meaning of the husband's statement in the scenario given?

Question

A man is sitting with his wife and family at the dinner table. The man and woman were both married once before. In the conversation, Santa Cruz, CA, is mentioned. The son asks the man if he has ever been to Santa Cruz. The man answers that he has been to Santa Cruz many times and says, "My wife came from Santa Cruz."

1. In your opinion, does this sentence produce any confusion as to whom "my wife" refers? (The new wife does not come from Santa Cruz.)

2. By not saying "ex-wfe", could this indicate that the man still has some emotional attachment to the first wife?

Please answer yes or no to each question, and feel free to add any commentary.

Thank you.

Ed

Answer 1

1. no confusion- Because the wife would not mean the wife sitting at the table. If they were speaking about the current wife- he would have referred to her as “your mother” or “she”.

2. no- that in of itself does not signify emotional attachment. Perhaps he hasn’t been divorced for that long. But the context is the town where they visited. He was visiting her when they were involved, that’s on the top of his mind, so he referred to her as wife as she may have been his wife at that time. Said without thought.

Answer 2

1. yes/ no.The sentence itself did not cause confusion until I knew that the current wife is not from Santa Cruz. I thought it meant his current wife.
2. No. I think that might have been a slip up. I've heard people refer to their ex husbands or wives without the ex and it is completely harmless. That alone does not make me think there is any emotional attachment to the ex. It is possible, but unlikely (in my opinion).

Answer 3

1) yes - confusion. My wife would always refer to 'current wife'.
2) likely but not necessarily. could just be a trip down memory lane triggered by the frequent travel to Santa Cruz.

In either case (refering to #2), i can see the new wife being hurt...

Answer 4

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Answer 5

When anyone mentions his wife, it means the wife he is married to at THAT moment.

1. YES, but there is no confusion about it. I am certain he was talking about his NEW wife.

2. NO, but he should have said EX-wife if he wanted people to know what he was talking about.

Language is meant to get a point across clearly. If used incorrectly, it doesn't convey a single point.

Answer 6

1. No confusion. I would assume that the man would have said your mother or she is form SC if he meant his current wife.

2. Perhaps he has an attachment. Or if she passed away maybe he does not look at her as an ex wife.

Answer 7

1. It would produce confusion to someone who didn't know the family. They would be right to assume he's talking about his current wife.

2. No. Sounds like an honest mistake. In the past, I had mistakingly referred to my ex-husband as my "husband", out of habit. I think it indicates absent-mindedness, not "emotional attachment."

Answer 8

he had a verbal slip up cant blame him for it. Maybe he does maybe he doesnt for 3 months after I got married I called my husband my boyfriend without thinking it was just out of habit did it mean I loved him less or didnt want to be married no. Humans are creatures of habit maybe he just got used to call the ex wife and it came out that way. Unless hes secretly messaging her I wouldnt stress it

Answer 9

I have neither a yes or no answer, only a comment. If a man ever says something you don't understand, ask him to clarify. All anyone had to do was say, "you mean you're EX-wife?"

Answer 10

May or may not have an attachment. He just refers to her sometimes as wife cause he done that for may years. That is if they were together for many years.