My husband is more traditional Im more of a liberal. The issues here I can make my own decisions when it comes to everyday things that need to be done. I work and put my paychecks right along with his. He will fuss at me at times and say I have no control over you and your going to do what you want to do anyway. His mom did not work outside of the home mine did. How do you combine both of these worlds. Before we were married he helped with chores now hardly. How can we meet in the middle?
2007-09-14 09:20:17 · 4 answers · asked by indigodreams41 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Marriage & Divorce
he can't be that traditional. challenge him. Say "well in that case if you want me to be a stay at home wife, then you better make enough money that will match our combined incomes"
I'm sure he has nothing to say when you bring home bread every week
2007-09-14 09:27:44 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, do you guys fight about it? If not, then you are combining your worlds just fine. He might make remarks - but then, you already know you are different in some things; so it's nothing new. As far as the chores go - divide the responsibilities according to what each of you does best. I like to cook and just generally piddle around in the kitchen; so I do 99% of the grocery shopping, cooking and clean-up. My husband is technically inclined, and knows how everything works, so he's in charge of the computers, the home theater, and general home maintenance and repairs. I keep track of all the pets - making sure everyone's fed, watered and clean. He's doing financial planning, helping us save up for the future. What are the chores you want your husband's help with? Talk to him and ask him to take over certain things that he may be good at. You don't have to insist on dividing everything right down in the middle - be flexible. There are certain things neither I or my husband enjoy doing - cleaning the house, for example. We used to argue about who gets to clean what, but then we got fed up and hired a maid. It was the best $200 a month we've ever spent - now we never have to fight over cleaning, it just gets DONE. If both of you are working, and you can't agree on who does what - consider hiring outside help; it can make your life a lot easier.
2007-09-14 16:55:06 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is a partnership talk and find out what will work in your house. It is different from house to house. You need this open way of talking to make everything from the money to the house chores and the bedroom work right.
2007-09-14 16:28:56 · answer #3 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he use to help out and now he is not helping at all you see he has you now so he doesnt have to help out anymore. remember he is from the old school. this is what you have got to deal with.
2007-09-14 23:16:31 · answer #4 · answered by mmurray001 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋